Lifestyle of a Hasidic Woman

A deep dive into the Hasidic world of Boro Park, guided by Malky, a resident.

This video is part of an extensive series created by Peter Santenello. Click here to visit his channel.

Comments (26)

(15) Jeff, May 1, 2021 12:03 AM

Thank you!

This video was wonderful. Thank you for sharing about your life and community. It was very refreshing. Peter did a great job. Many things you shared about our life and God is so true.

(14) Brenda Williamson, March 7, 2021 7:48 PM

Good Article

I enjoyed this interesting, informative article; thank you.
Blessings and Peace.

(13) Esther, December 27, 2020 6:21 PM


Malky, I found your enthusiasm and open minded non judgmental take of things to be such a breath of fresh air. I’m not chasidic but I’m a FFB women living in the year 2020 and sometimes I too look at the outside culture of career oriented women and wonder ... Malky your passion and feelings as a Jewish mom really spoke to me, reminding me of my unique role and the joy inherent in it . Yes my family is ultimately worth more to me than a high powered career full of money and prestige and yes I too believe this is how G-d intended the world to be run . I work part time outside the home to help with the bills but my essence comes alive when I am fully there for my children loving ,nurturing , and teaching them . In Judaism we are meant to use our talents and enjoy the magnificent gift of life. And though it’s not politically correct these days much of that joy for women comes from marriage ,children . It’s not easy and day to day it can feel overwhelming at times but the rewards of molding human beings to reach their full potential as only a devoted mom can is simply priceless .

(12) Marcia Steimez, December 27, 2020 4:54 PM

Boro Park

Amazing vídeo! Congratulations!!

(11) Rachel, December 24, 2020 8:58 PM

I like a lot with one exception

I am not sure where Malky has gotten the idea that non-Chasidic women feel they have to be more than just women. I am a modern Orthodox retired attorney. I went to law school so they I could help to support our family. At work I tried to perform my professional responsibilities to the best of my ability. At home, I try to be the best wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, neighbor. Always I try to be the best Jew I can be. For many families, 2 incomes are a necessity. There were times when my husband was unemployed and we lived in my salary. And since many women need to work work, why shouldn’t we have jobs that pay well and that we find interesting and fulfilling? Every person deserves respect for doing honorable work, in or outside the home, whether sitting at a desk, caring for others in hospitals, teaching, stocking groceries, mopping floors or learning Torah.

(10) Dena, December 24, 2020 8:35 PM

Thank you!!

Thank you so much for introducing me to Peter Santenello's channel. I loved all his films about Chassidim. And kudos to Shloime Zionce (who is not in this video but is in the other ones) for getting involved and bringing Peter deep into the different sects. Just wonderful. Each clip was special. I especially enjoyed seeing Beri Weber's work with teenagers but the film about Chaverim was great and the one with Chabad. What can I say? Fantastic.

(9) Anonymous, December 23, 2020 8:13 PM

She is right

Normally the bond between mother and child is biological and for this reason alone it is better to stay home and raise ones children oneself, and , if possible homeschool them together with friends. Also, one does not miss anything out there if one stays home. I have worked all my life till my retirement and I think its very tough "out there" Knowing what I do now I would happily trade pretty much any profession with the job of a housewife. I also think that he or she who is earning the living should not be burdened with housework on top of that unless they enjoy it as a change . We are far away from the 8 hour work day, once introduced if I remember right by Ford. No matter whether low or highly skilled, the work load is about 10 to12 hours a day with 8 hours being paid and the rest given for free. I saw it. Given that, I do not understand why some who even earn less per hour than what they pay for child care per hour, outsource childcare. Children can be included in most of ones past time interests. They bask in sharing and participating no matter what. So I totally agree with the lady. If you are young and want self actualization the job of a housewife seems ideal. However a woman still needs to be extremely well trained and as versatile as possible , to enter the workforce any time if need be . For a husband is no life insurance.

(8) Sam the NYLIC, December 23, 2020 4:43 PM

She is "Modern Orthodox", NOT chasidic.

You will nOT see chasidic women without a covered sheitel, AND she wouldn't be talking to a strange male so openly.

Anonymous, December 23, 2020 4:53 PM


She is wearing a wig. And more importantly, please don't try to box someone into a category. Yes, one is part of a community, and also unique as an individual and how they contribute to a community,

Anonymous, December 24, 2020 2:58 PM

Another response

Not all chadisic women wear sheitels. Chabad is not Modern Orthodox and most of the women I’ve seen just wear wigs. Also most are outgoing as well. Many of the chasidic sects interpret the concept of “modesty” differently.

Anonymous, December 24, 2020 11:28 PM

Not True

Are you living underground? Your comment is not true.

CR Rosner, December 25, 2020 6:04 PM

Covered sheitl

Sam: You don't know what you're talking about. I don't know this woman that was interviewed or anything about her, other than what she said about herself. She definitely doesn't appear to be Modern Orthodox. Maybe, just very open-minded.
While many in the Satmar/ Viznitz-type chassidishe groups wear a sheitl ( including parts of a sheitl, such as only the front), (often, though not always, of synthetic as opposed to human hair) with a headband, hat or scarf covering some or even most of the wig, quite a lot of other chassidish women do not. I'm a middle-aged woman, married to a very, very chassidishe man, living in a largely very chassidishe community in Monsey. I do not wear anything covering my wig. My husband has never suggested it. Many of our relatives do not, either. However, there are those who do. Btw, among Lubavitch, Stolin, Breslov, Aleksander, Boyan and Gerrer chassidim (as well as others), it's basically unheard of. Many chassidishe women, under the right circumstances, will be rather forthcoming with a man, especially a non-Jewish who's curious about Jewish lifestyles and customs. Notice, that none of this was filmed in her home. Mostly, it was on the street, in public.

(7) Ruth, December 23, 2020 4:02 PM

wig salon info

Can you share the info of her wig maker?

(6) Pamela D'Amato, December 23, 2020 1:21 PM

Loved This!

As a Muslim woman, who was raised in the the US and always had a lot of Jewish friends, I found this video and others in the series to be interesting, respectful, and entertaining. I love Malky. Her strength, and ability to make space for herself and to present her community is great. There are so very many similarities between observant Jewish and observant Muslim women.
Thanks for these videos. Will definitely share with my sisters in the Sisterhood of Salaam Shalom

(5) Anonymous, December 23, 2020 12:31 PM

Enjoyed this so much, thank you!!

(4) Moshe Greene, December 22, 2020 9:44 PM

Cute but Boring

How come no Jewish people were wearing masks? Chilul Hashem.

Anonymous, December 23, 2020 12:44 PM

She lives in a community where most people had Covid

In part 1 of Peter's Hasidic women video, Malky shares that she and her family had Covid already so they've acquired immunity and don't need to wear masks. I've heard that even those who get it a second time (quite rare) are not contagious. Although there are SOME people with masks in the clip, most are not, probably because the majority of people in Malky's community have acquired immunity. Let's judge each other kindly and give them the benefit of the doubt and we will be deserving of G-d judging us favorably as well.

Anonymous, December 24, 2020 1:56 AM

Covid second time

Just one mistake--if you get Covid a second time, you DEFINITELY are contagious. In our Brooklyn community, there are a number of such cases, and they definitely transmit virus to others. About 5% of new cases in our Brooklyn community are second-time infections. Many people don't wear masks after they have already had Covid, but doctors tell us that we should do so.

anonymous, December 24, 2020 2:13 AM

It is still the law in New York City to wear masks.

Anonymous, December 24, 2020 11:29 PM

Big Problem

This refusal to wear masks and socially distance is a big problem in the frum community especially in the hassidic community. It is a chilul Hashem for sure.

Leah, December 25, 2020 1:27 PM

The interviewer is maskless too. Perhaps not judging at all is best...
it's an excellent perspective on Chasidic community with all its vibrancy and the interviewer did a fabulous job!!!

(3) cg, December 22, 2020 8:05 PM

Peter - I watched all your videos on the Brooklyn Chassidik community - they are great! Thanks!

(2) Esroeg Settam, December 22, 2020 7:45 PM


Where are the masks???

(1) Guila Holder, December 22, 2020 5:05 PM

How cringe worthy...absolutely awful!

StanT, December 22, 2020 9:34 PM


What makes you so uncomfortable when other women express their truly heartfelt beliefs?

Anonymous, December 23, 2020 3:52 AM

What's your problem?

What's your problem Guila? She is sharing her religious culture and beliefs in a politeful way. Would you express the same as you stated if you were viewing a segment on the Amish or Hutterites? I've lived in areas with various religious cultures (including Amish and Hutterites and other backgrounds), and I was interested in hearing what they had to say. In essence, unless someone is looking to harm others, why would you express what you did. What's your problem?


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