's Question of the Day

What event in your life shaped you the most?

Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Comments (25)

(23) Jacenty Domański, July 11, 2019 11:48 AM

The time of my prison !!!

There I first time met a teacher who inspired me to learn Torah, before I never had any contact with It. From the very time I am studying every day's. And my life changed diametrally.

(22) Lisa, July 10, 2019 11:51 AM


The day I was born definitely impacted my life!

(21) Anonymous, July 10, 2019 11:10 AM

The Holocoust

The complete betrayal of the Jewish people by the rest of humanity

(20) Liz, July 10, 2019 6:28 AM

First my mother, then my chronic illness.

I was raised by a narcissistic christian mother and her cruelty made me cry out to G-d. Later I was diagnosed with a serious autoimmune disease and the theology I was raised with couldn't explain anything I was going through. All the years of struggle and questioning, leaving the church but not abandoning the love and search for G-d...and then one day in my living room in agony and frustration crying again to G-d I said aloud "What would you have me do?" and I knew. There was the divine inspiration - keep shabbat. That was 4 years ago. Baruch HaShem for ALL of my struggles and all the pain that forged that connection and longing for him. Makes me wonder deeply about the time (we were doing a family tree) I asked my Grandmother is she had any Jewish heritage. Her response was so strange. No doubt HaShem knows his own wherever we may be!

(19) MESA, July 9, 2019 2:41 PM

It's not so much one event but one greater thing: getting involved with NCSY. I was born and raised Torah-Observant, but the NCSY leaders knew that Orthodox teens and tweens need kiruv too- we just need a different kind of kiruv. NCSY gave me friends and a feeling of belonging at a time when I needed it. They taught Torah informally but it spoke to me. Later on, they gave me my husband. Now, my daughter is getting involved with them and I hope that my sons will also get involved and I just hope that their experiences there are no worse than what I had.

(18) Paul Goldstein, July 9, 2019 2:30 PM

The Aish Discovery Program

About 25 years ago my wife and were happy with our lives. We belonged to a Conservative Synagogue that we helped found. One of our sons urged us to go to an Aish Hatorah program, and in order to get him to stop nagging us we did. That precipitated our lives being completely changed. The presentation on the hidden codes in the Torah bowled me over. (You can see words/names/numbers embedded within the Torah of contemporary and historical events in such a way that it's statistically impossible to have been achieved randomly.) I realized that Whoever wrote the Torah knew the future. And this same Entity had written directions on how we should lead our lives. It occurred to me that perhaps I should pay attention to those directions. My wife, totally unimpressed by the hidden codes, agreed to go to classes with me at Aish Hatorah. What we learned made sense to both of us. Slowly we started changing our lives. We tried going to an Orthodox synagogue, and you know what? Just like our friends in the Conservative synagogue, they were warm and welcoming. My wife and I were moving at different paces; she wasn't ready to keep kosher (that's a huge commitment!), so I decided I would on my own. But when we decided to redo our kitchen, she said, "Well, we might as well make it kosher." Observing Shabbos is another very big step and took a long time to commit to it.
Life now, as Torah observant Jews, is very good. Our marriage has benefitted from our lifestyle. We were content as secular Jews; life was comfortable and it was the only life we knew. Once you start taking classes at an Orthodox outreach organization, however, you gain knowledge, as you would taking any classes. And then you have a choice: how do you want to lead your life? But if you don't know why some people choose to become Observant Jews, then you really don't have a choice, do you?

Anonymous, July 10, 2019 11:19 AM

Beautiful, hatzlacha with everything :)

(17) Richard, July 9, 2019 10:40 AM

I was born!

Without my birth...who knows?

(16) Anonymous, July 8, 2019 4:44 PM


A Lubavitcher Rebbetzin I began learning with at my shul opened my eyes to the beautiful heritage to which I am privileged of being a member without having to pay a subscription!!! It changed my thinking about who I am, and what a Jew's purpose is as an eved Hashem in the beautiful world He created for us to enjoy. I had other teachers also, but the first Rebbetzin really made me consider my life and where it was going if I stayed the same. Basically nowhere, so I had to move on and change.

(15) R. Palliser, July 8, 2019 1:09 PM


Arrival in England with my parents three days before Hitler marched on Poland, 1939,

(14) Tony, July 8, 2019 10:47 AM

The first time I read..

Kohelet. It made me realize the futility of life without Torah.

(13) marlene, July 8, 2019 2:36 AM


when i was a young teen i was walking to visit my bubbe and aunt through their poor neighborhood and in looking around me, i vowed "to never be poor". some years later i was riding a bus and saw people sitting out front of a senior 'manor' and i remembered that vow i made to myself and now it went even further: I WILL NEVER BE OLD AND POOR. this vow drove me the rest of my working life. we truly are products of our yesterday. in a similar feeling, preserving history is the only way to truly grow ourselves and/or our country.

(12) Jaya, July 8, 2019 12:10 AM

One event that shaped me—

Motherhood .

(11) Gordon Graham, July 8, 2019 12:05 AM

At age about 7 I had an experience of amazement at the creation. Since then my life has been absorbed with finding the creator.

My first enquiry was to my mother who told me I could get the answer in the Bible. It was outstanding advice. At the time I could not read. It was the start of a very long journey. It lead me through several branches of Christianity but never being satisfied I had the right answer. Finally I saw that Christianity was based on nonsense. Then I was lead to Judaism. It has been fantastic. Now my wife and I are members of a Jewish community and have been accepted as converts. AISH has played a big part. I have been getting AISH emails for a long time.

(10) Anonymous, July 7, 2019 11:55 PM

Alcoholic glide-path to God

At age 43 I managed to get free of my addiction to alcoholic beverages. That event led me to a God that I could believe in and 40-plus wonderful years of sobriety--plus continually striving for a closer relationship with God.

(9) DEL ACOSTA, July 7, 2019 8:28 PM

Converting and becoming a religious Jew

Converting and becoming a religious Jew

(8) Anonymous, July 7, 2019 6:45 PM

One event that shaped my life was...

My elementary school teacher gave each of us a little, blue journal book. She encouraged us to write down each day any stories of Hashgacha Pratis (Divine Providence) that happened to us. She told us, "If you look for it, you will have a story EVERY day!". I was a bit skeptical at first, but each time I opened the book - it was true, I had a story! Till this day, more than a decade later, I still have stories of Divine Providence happening multiple times a day. I can see and feel G-d's presence in my life! YOU CAN TRY IT TOO!!

(7) Raymond, July 7, 2019 4:02 PM

Dust in the Wind

I would say that the life event that has most shaped me is when I met and became friends with Ivan. I feel free to use his first name since I am not writing down his last name, nor am I describing his physical features. In any case, I was only four years old when my friedship with him was formed, but he was a secular Jew who several years later introduced me to Greek philosophy accompanied by a real skepticism toward the Orthodox Judaism that my parents had attempted to raise me in. Ivan's influence surely played a role when, as a teenager, I visited a public library where I found myself gravitating toward its philosophy section, where I encountered the British philosopher Bertrand Russell for the very first time. Bertrand Russell was a logician-mathematician by profession, so he had an extremely rational mind, plus he was an incredibly talented writer, even winning the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1950. His total skepticism regarding religion and the Existence of G-d Himself, shook me to my core. And then one day, also while I was still in high school, but this time ironically occurring right during school hours at an Orthodox Jewish school school I was attending, a classmate of mine not only told me that there is no G-d, but had me stop, pause, and really contemplate that idea. I was never the same again.

All that was many decades ago, and since then, I have visited Israel seven times, even living in a yeshiva for a few months. I have heard countless Torah lectures since then, have read many Torah books, and attend only Orthodox shuls. And yet I cannot shake the fact that try as I might, I just cannot get myself to believe in G-d and His Torah. I cannot help but think of it as little more than a social construct, a useful one to be sure, but not as actually representing true reality. Against my own best wishes, I cannot help but think that the musical group Kansas got it right when they told all of us that all we are is dust in the wind.

Gershom, July 8, 2019 1:13 PM


Raymond - For many millions of people - who've had that same thought - that - G-D - doesn't exist - planted in their minds. It has caused - UNTOLD SPIRITUAL DAMAGE and AGONY!

If I may - I've come across some innovative - and positive thoughts - that have helped others - that I'd like to share - with you. Hopefully - they will give you a different - and fresh perspective - on whether - G-D - exists.

Some - of the things to consider are - though science has taught us that - an amoeba - has no known brain function - heart etc.. So - How did this brainless creature - know how - to evolve itself - into dividing itself - into another amoeba? Then - later - decide life as an amoeba - was awfully dull. So why not evolve - into another - and another - specie?

Now consider this - if you know anything about biology - neurology - and other science disciplines. Ask yourself this. How did a brainless amoeba - ON ITS OWN - then - evolve into - the KNOWN - 8 Million 500K plus - EXTREMELY COMPLEX - SEPARATE SPECIES - that EXIST TODAY?

In mathematics probabilities. The chance of this happening - are so astronomical - as not to have any credibility.

Also - look around you - and what do you see? IF - your sighted - you see color.
Ask - HOW - on its own - does the 8K Plus - COLOR RANGE EXIST?

IF - you have a transistor radio. Turn it on - Tune it. Now - consider that - although you can't see the radio waves - what do you hear? You hear - news - music etc., - and it's coming through the air - sight unseen. It's even touching - YOUR BODY. YET - you can't feel it.

Now ask yourself - if this is possible. Isn't it possible that - G-D - whom you can't see - created the whole universe. Including us - that G-D - made in His Image and Likeness.

And ask yourself - would even the smallest good event - that's happened in your life - have occurred - on its own - if G-D - hadn't helped you with it?

(6) Anonymous, July 7, 2019 3:06 PM

Being curious on how the universe works

Being curious and fascinated on how the universe works, a joy never rescinds , made me transcend to a different dimension where mediocrities in our daily lives become insignificant , helping me focus on most important things in life, helps me get closer to God, the architect of the universe order and beauty.

(5) Aaron Bernstein, July 7, 2019 2:44 PM

Learning All of Shas

One day when I was 17 years old the rebbe yelled at me in front of the entire class in the middle of shiur for talking to the guy next to me instead of paying attention. I never forgot that and many years later I commenced learning the entire Shad, completing it at the Dat Yomi pace after 7 1/2 years.

(4) Gershom, July 7, 2019 1:51 PM

***the time when - I became TRULY AWARE - ......

What event in my life shaped me the most?


Because - as I learned from the Torah. It may be - If you don't ask G-D - for HELP - WITH QUESTIONS THAT WE HAVE. AND - FOR UNDERSTANDING - WHAT HE MEANT - BY - WHAT HE SAID. G-D - may take it that - We're NOT INTERESTED - IN KNOWING THE TRUTH! And - we are ONLY INTERESTED IN - WHAT WE - WANT TO HEAR FROM HIM. WHICH IS - that - WHICH SOUNDS - and MAKES US - FEEL GOOD. WITHOUT - OUR HAVING TO DO ANYTHING - WE DON'T LIKE - about His Torah Commandments - and Laws.

So - I ASK FOR - G-D's GUIDANCE - STRENGTH - AND COURAGE - so that - I will be able to SUCCESSFULLY LEAD - and TEACH CORRECTLY - HIS TORAH COMMANDMENTS and LAWS - to MY FAMILY. And - if I'm worthy - also to - MY FRIENDS - and others.

WHICH BTW - I still have to do - and PRAY FOR - DAILY.

(3) Reuven Frank, July 7, 2019 1:22 PM

Trip to Israel

When I was in college, the local Jewish Federation rep. announced a trip to Israel through the Hillel.
I was looking for something in my life just then and went.
The Madrich of the trip was a frum Chemistry Professor. So I figured I had nothing to lose: I could continue getting my chemistry degree and be religious, too.
The rest is history:
I live in Eretz Yisrael as do my six children.
I am shomer Torah and Mitzvot and so I'd say,
that THAT was the event that most shaped my life.

(2) Joan, July 7, 2019 12:49 PM

Where do I start

Birth of my children, that’s a big one. Being a mom. That was something I always wanted. Another event that shaped my life, a move across country that showed me what I always wanted to be.. I am a people person, my talent was a gift. Training and speaking. Being a Gemini is the communicator it felt comfortable. I have a lot of gratitude for He who guided me

(1) Anonymous, July 7, 2019 11:08 AM

Each day the events of our lives are shaping us, some days we pay more attention than others :) Looking back, it’s so clear to see how everything we have experienced is a part of who we are today.


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