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What is one crucial value or lesson you received from your mother?

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(26) MESA, May 15, 2019 2:19 PM

I'm a girlie girl and a fashionista. My mom taught me the importance of a good appearance. I do disagree on a number of details, but overall, I agree that we should all dress and groom neatly and appropriately. My mom also taught me that if clothing fits properly and makes you look good, then it doesn't matter from where it comes or how much it cost. You don't need to be ashamed or embarrassed to wear "lower-end" clothes just because they're not expensive brand names.

(25) Tony, May 15, 2019 7:57 AM

To prepare...

Delicious food

(24) Jaya, May 14, 2019 6:43 PM

The lesson !

Not to give up !

(23) Dr. Peter Rogers, May 14, 2019 2:36 PM

My mother taught me to strive to be kind i.e.?understanding and compassionate. Your life will be spiritually enriched.

(22) Anonymous, May 14, 2019 11:14 AM

Be a gorgeous human being, with a beautiful soul. You can touch a lot of people and Gd will be happy with you.

(21) Nancy, May 14, 2019 10:57 AM

She taught me to use the gifts I have been given

My mother z"l had a wealth of intelligence and common sense. Unfortunately she was also depressed for most of her life and sorely lacked self confidence. She had greater gifts than I do, but she taught me to use whatever I posess.

(20) Anonymous, May 14, 2019 12:12 AM

Material World

Not to trust anyone, not even your Mother, for one can only trust on Hashem. He is the only true parent.

(19) Gershom, May 13, 2019 3:16 PM

I hope Aish - will ask the same question - come Fathers Day.

I hope Aish - will ask the same question - come Fathers Day.

For those fortunate enough - to have a father and a mother - even foster and or adopted fathers and mothers. AS well as - if we only have a single parent. Studies have shown that - somehow - from conception - through birth - and while growing up - in the Alpha - Beta - Theta states of mind. We get input from them - on thoughts and teachings - subliminally - and consciously - from our parents - siblings - friends - grandparents - neighbors - religious and political leaders - etc.. We as well get our teachings from them - from the cultural aspect - and or religious minhagim. If you are a believer in G-D - and the concept of - "the evil inclination of our youth" - that G-D spoke of in the Torah - and even the satan . We appear to also get -some sort of input - from that as well.
The problem is - we don't know - how these thoughts - images - etc., - are processed - spiritually - mentally - emotionally - physically - etc.. Or came from - which of the groups that influence(d) us the most. Most of which can - or may change - over a period of time - by how much family -peer - religious - political - governmental - or societal pressure - may be being exerted on us. Or - how badly - we want to fit in with - a particular population - we are associating with.
Yet - for most of mankind - we learn that - within certain parameters - from our nuclear family - friends - etc.. What are supposed to be - our moral values - and how we are expected to function - within whatever society - we live in.
If - we take the time - to assess our moral values - how - and why - we are functioning - within our culture group - etc.. We may be able to identify - how we attained these moral values - and - from whom we got them. As well as - if these moral values - etc., - are tainted - or biased - in a given way. Then assess - whether we want - or need - to change our moral values - with G-D's help.

(18) chris langton, May 13, 2019 3:09 PM

The main lesson was and still is for me

1/ Compassion and Honesty
2/ Keep the Covenant and trust Hashem

(17) Merle Levenbaum, May 13, 2019 2:05 PM

My mother, May she rest in peace taught me the value of the Sabbath. Thanks to Mom I observe all Jewish holidays with my family

(16) Reuven Frank, May 13, 2019 12:56 PM

Just do it

I don't remember any particular aphorisms of my mother and was thinking about how she taught us by example.
She would go out of her way to accommodate everyone as much as possible and she never held it over anyone.
She would just do whatever had to be done not expecting any special recognition for it.
I think that's a pretty good life lesson all-in-all,

(15) Andrew Stiller, May 13, 2019 12:27 PM

I Have the Best Mother in the World

My mother teaches me the importance of hope. As she often reminds me: Nothing is impossible if you really believe.

(14) Jacenty Domański, May 13, 2019 11:35 AM

MY mother died when I was 11.

But about three years she did lay in bed because of cancer. In my memory she was very operative woman, she tried educated me with strong discipline but in law. She not tolerated destruction of justice, and also my not coordinatins he order. She had very good influances on my character and educations. But when she laid down, everything ended, for very bad. So may life, even my matemathical talent, was not complete took adventage. I comleted frst degree on Rzeszov Polotechnike as side constructor.

(13) Mary Freeman, May 13, 2019 11:34 AM

Trust in the L-RD!!

Mom taught me to Trust and Believe that the L-RD is G-D. HE is our life ,helper,.....

(12) Chana Mendez, May 13, 2019 7:13 AM

Kindness towards those less fortunate and do not judge others

My Mother was always giving food or money to the poor (even though we were poor ourselves by U.S. standards). She would tell us to never take food and eat in front of people if we were not going to share. She taught us to be kind towards disabled people, and never to laugh at them. And she taught us that if someone steals from us and we do not know who, don't assume that you know and judge someone in your mind. "The person who is robbed sins more than the person who robbed"(because they judge others falsely) she would tell us in Spanish. I am a giyoret, a Jew B"H, and my mother is Catholic, but I believe of Converso ("Marrano") descent.

Gershom, May 19, 2019 2:21 PM

- there are ways to discover - that your grandparent(s) - parents - are ......

Chana - I worked with - and around - and counseled - a few "Marrano - Conversos". Usually - there is still - a DEEP SEATED FEAR - of EXPOSING THEMSELVES - as JEWS. EVEN - to their children.

Sometimes - there are ways to discover - that your grandparent(s) - parents - are the "HIDDEN JEWS".
BTW - your name CHANA -could be - a strong clue.

Example: - I had a Spanish client - who spoke perfect Spanish. One day during a counseling session - for some reason - I said something in LADINO to her.
She - corrected me - instantly. I asked her - if she was familiar with "Yiddish". She said - she more or less - knew what it was. I explained to her that - Ladino - is a Judeo-Spanish language - used by "Marranos and Conversos". Hidden Jews - who don't want the public to know - they're Jewish.
I went on to explain that - many Marranos/Conversos - their grandmother or mother - might on Friday night - light candles - openly - or in a closet - and maybe cover their face(s) - and be silently saying a prayer.
She said - my grandmother - and my mother do that. I told her - YOUR JEWISH - that's not a CATHOLIC TRADITION. It's a Jewish one. Talk to them.
When she came back for her next counseling session. She told me that - she'd asked them. She said they quizzically looked at her - and asked her - where did she hear that. She told them from her counselor - who - is Jewish.
They acknowledge - YES - BUT WE DON'T TALK ABOUT IT.
I also learned that - her mother - was working in the Jewish Community - and has told - NO ONE.

Another possible way - is to have DNA done. There is an excellent firm Family Tree DNA (FTDNA) - where she can be tested - for Jewish Roots.

And there is the option - of CONVERSION to JUDAISM - that you can explore.

(11) Anonymous, May 13, 2019 4:43 AM

About the existence of God and the Jewish people

My mother told me when i was in second year high school: Do you know why there is God? Because there are Jews. She said that in our own dialect. I am 71 years old now but that revelation has been deeply ingrained in my whole being . My love and respect for God is always connected with my love and respect for Israel and the Jews.

(10) Shoshanna USA, May 13, 2019 12:24 AM

Gift

One of the greatest gifts that can be given is to listen to someone. Do not interrupt or interject, listen intently. After they are finished sharing, if appropriate gently ask a few helpful questions. The old fashion art of listening, especially over a cup of tea, is in short supply. On this day of mothering, let's try to revive it.

(9) Judy R., May 13, 2019 12:13 AM

what my mother taught me

My mother(of blessed memory) taught me what her parents(that died on Kaddish Hashem)taught her be truthful and also don't talk bad speech(you don't know anything about that person until you are in their shoes)also even though my mother(of blessed memory) went through the Holocaust she taught when she went to talk about the Holocaust in schools about respect and understanding brings harmony and then that brings love. Another thing my mother(of blessed memory) in the worst times like during the Holocaust she used humor to give others courage to go on living and also risked her life during the Holocaust by running from town to town telling people what was really going on also she protected others and got hurt doing so my mother(of blessed memory)was brave and had a lot of courage to even talk back to Dr. Josef Mengele(my his name be erased) his nickname was the "Angel Of Death"! because in Auschwitz Concentration Camp he told you which way to go to have the real shower or the other side where you get gassed to death and by miracles she survived that In my opinion by mother(of blessed memory) was a very righteous woman and that is a lot to live up to I wish more people was like my lovely precious dear mother(of blessed memory)then the world would be a much better world we live in now and we would be redeemed from exile then this is the first mother's day without my mother(of blessed memory) so it is very hard to cope with her lost and I feel bad that she died from colon/rectal cancer and it was very painful so people 50 or over should get checked out not to have this type of cancer(sorry for saying here) but this could of been avoided if the doctors would of told her before hand then she would of lived longer with a good quality of life and not suffer with pain I hope my mother(of blessed memory) in the highest part of Gan Eden because she deserved it

(8) Nancy Valla, May 12, 2019 8:54 PM

evaluating responses

When a person responds to me about someone or something, always consider the source.

(7) Egharevba Leonard, May 12, 2019 3:43 PM

My mother taught me to always show love to others.

(6) ARNOLD NEWTON, May 12, 2019 3:25 PM

Culivate otimism, even in the darkest of days.

She perished in Treblinka concentration camp, along with my brother.

Raymond, May 12, 2019 7:01 PM

Absolutely Horrible

That is absolutely horrible beyond words. I am so sorry. :-(

(5) Anonymous, May 12, 2019 2:30 PM

My mother taught me that every day began a new year so that we could start all over again and forget about yesterday's mistakes

(4) Anonymous, May 12, 2019 2:16 PM

My mother taught m to listen

(3) Shelley, May 12, 2019 2:13 PM

Mom’s Words of Wisdom

My mom always said that if you don’t have anything nice to say to someone, don’t say anything at all. This usually works for me in my interactions with others.

(2) Roz, May 12, 2019 2:09 PM

To love unconditionally!

When you love someone unconditionally you accept them with their faults .

(1) Raymond, May 12, 2019 1:52 PM

Life Is Beautiful

The contrast between my parents could not have been more stark. My father was a kind of Old Testament Prophet, a kind of modern-day Moses, in the sense that for him, everything was about always following the rules, always doing the right thing, on what one should be doing. Such a stance in life is obviously of absolute importance, and my mother certainly always sought to do the right thing as well.

However, for my mother, she had a view of life that appeared to be lighter and more carefree than that of my father, and yet within my my mother's fun attitude toward life, was supreme wisdom in itself. My mother taught me by both word and example the crucial importance of appreciating and enjoying life for its own sake. She had this knack of finding joy in everything. My mother never took a mind altering drug in her life, because she never had to, because she was so high on life itself. Being around her was so enjoyable, that it was no accident that she had endless numbers of friends who continue to miss her, even so many years after her devastating death. They just loved how she always managed to make them smile. and you know what? The question posed here has also made me smile, because to be honest, before I wrote what I am writing here, I had never quite articulated to myself what was her most outstanding trait, and so I thank whoever on this website who came up with this question. You made my day. I miss you soooooo much, Mommy....and Daddy....

 

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