Jews, People Are Watching

וכן אם דקדק החכם על עצמו והיה דבורו בנחת עם הבריות ודעתו מעורבת עמהם ומקבלם בסבר פנים יפות ונעלב מהם ואינו עולבם. מכבד להן ואפילו למקילין לו. ונושא ונותן באמונה. ולא ירבה באריחות עמי הארץ וישיבתן. ולא יראה תמיד אלא עוסק בתורה עטוף בציצית מוכתר בתפילין ועושה בכל מעשיו לפנים משורת הדין. והוא שלא יתרחק הרבה ולא ישתומם. עד שימצאו הכל מקלסין אותו ואוהבים אותו ומתאוים למעשיו הרי זה קידש את ה' ועליו הכתוב אומר {ויאמר לי עבדי אתה ישראל אשר בך אתפאר}

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And "chillul haShem" With whom would you find "kiddush haShem?" Someone who (1) learns Torah, (2) repeats Mishnah and (3) "serves scholars (meaning, he learns gemara and the halachic conclusions)" AND (4) his dealings with "the creations (people)" are with nachas, that is, gentle (please, thank you, open doors, polite), WHAT do People say? Happy is one who learns Torah, I want my son to learn Torah, etc. With whom would you find "chillul haShem?" Someone who (1) learns Torah, (2) repeats Mishnah, and (3) "serves scholars," AND his dealings with "the creations" are NOT gentle, what do People say? Woe is to one who learns Torah, I don't want MY child to learn Torah, etc! I heard the famous Maggid, Rav Shalom Schwadron, qoute this gemara and then ask, "Do the People test us on the Torah, the Mishna or the final halacha? NO! They only test us on the 4th item,our dealings with them.... And today, he added, a Yeshiva bochur with a yarmulka represents that person in the gemara who is an accomplished scholar! (to our chagrin) and he represents Yiddishkeit to the person on the street! Therefore, he concluded, we must be oh so careful with our interpersonal dealings to make a KIDDUSH HASHEM, because it is WE that do so by our actions. I also had the zchus to drive him once from Lakewood to NY several years later, and, when going past a toll booth, I greeted the toll taker warmly. He questioned me as to why I did so? I responded, "to make a Kiddush haShem!" He was very pleased....

beautiful, thank you for writing that!

I just copied these two parts of this fantastic article:

"...It’s an awesome privilege to be part of the Jewish people. And it’s an awesome responsibility as well. People are watching. People are noticing. People have expectations. And we are only human after all. The pressure seems too great…
...reminding me of the tremendous potential we all have and of the importance of the mitzvah of Kiddush Hashem, being God’s ambassadors."

Most importantly our responsibility is not individual but collective. We are a Nation of "one man with one heart", we eat, feast and pray assembled together.

What is crisis ridden, desperately helpless world mostly wants to see from us is the practical implementation of mutual guarantee, the unlikely, "super-natural" interconnections and mutually complementing cooperation above and despite our inherently self-serving nature.

Only this unique Jewish method, taught to others through positive example can give global humanity hope and a platform for a better future.

Whether we hold a door open for someone or help a person out financially, we can all do some type of mitzvah. As someone who has made her share of mistakes in life, I do my best to learn from these gaffes so that I can grow.

I forget which Rav said it: "Bad press is not always a chilul hashem." Sometimes the deck will be stacked no matter what. There are certain sine qua non v-a-v derech eretz that [should] apply 24/7, but we can't please everyone, nor should we try.

I suggest that if a person is secular and wants to stay that way, they can point to rudeness or much worse in so-called religious Jews. But I believe it cuts both ways. If you are a religious Jew, you can look at the rudeness and much worse among the secular Jews...and decide that you are staying as you are.

I assume that you're responding to my comment. And you made my point.

On a recent visit to the states I had to visit the consulate. While waiting I chatted with a woman who had emigrated to Ohio of all places.

She talked about jobs and home prices and all the other stuff that people use to justify moving to the states. When I asked her if shed made enough money to go back and buy a house and start a company in Israel she said she had. But she didn't want to move back because people just weren't nice there. No one said thank you or you're welcome. No one let's you in in traffic and everyone is always arguing over nothing. People were nice in the united states.

Then I asked her if she ever considered returning and changing the level of public behaviour in Israel. She could let people in and say please and thank you and you're welcome. She could be part of the solution because she now understood there was a better way to live with people.

She asked me why she should go first. She was fine where she was.

How many great things are missing from the world simply because people say look at that secular guy, he's not on board. Why should I go first?

Obviously you aren't interested in going first. Hopefully someone is or things will never change for the better.

I agree wholeheartedly. But I care much less about how gentile perseive Jews than I do about how Jews perceive Jews.

I'm in the restaurant business. I don't wear black and wear a baseball cap over my kippah and tuck my tzitzit in most of the time so while I might be considered religious by the average bear I don't look it.

You'd be surprised the number of people who are surprised that I'm religious simply because I'm nice. I hold open doors and give seats to pregnant ladies and let others go first. I don't fight over pennies. I'm nice to people-even "secular" Jews.

Now I gotta say I live in a town full of religious people and I find them to be fine people. I consider myself blessed to be a part of their lives. None of them are any ruder than the average Israeli. But that's my point.

You see when you put on religious garb I believe you take on an obligation to be more polite more kind than the average Israeli. You are wearing the garb of holiness and your actions should reflect that. Not to G*d...he doesn't need uniforms to tell the players apart.

Being rude in tzitzit is putting a stumbling block in front of the blind. So many people use the behavior of religious people as an excuse to remain secular.
They remain blind to Torah because they do not like how religious people behave. Its a weak excuse, but its not uncommon. The work of a thousand tzaddiks can be undone by one rude Jew.

Do I accept the idea that religious people are more rude than others? No. But when you choose to wear religious garb you represent Torah and when you double park or cut in line or argue over pennies or refuse to let someone in in traffic or any of the other sins that Israelis commit every day...what are you saying about Torah?

Jerusalem was destroyed because Jews couldn't work together. Rudeness. If religious Jews aren't going to take the lead to rectify that unkindness in Jewish life then who is?