“Beautiful morning,” my husband said as he left today. “Don’t forget to notice it.”
Wow, does he have my number! It’s not that I don’t appreciate beauty when I see it – I’ve even been known to point a particularly spectacular sunrise out to him (probably because I was opening the blinds at that exact moment) – but who has time? I’m always so busy. There’s always so much to do. I’m running from bed-making to laundry to class preparation to teaching to making dinner to…we all have our drill. And it's heightened at this time of year – with all the holidays and all the meals. So it’s a nice thought, possibly even an uplifting one, but who has time?
he Almighty has apparently decided that I must make the time. Yesterday as I was rushing from grocery store to grocery store, cooking one Yom Tov item after another, squeezing in household chores and prayers (yes I know they shouldn’t be an afterthought that was squeezed in) and a shiva call and a class, as I was moving too quickly down the street after parking my car, I tripped.
I can’t blame any obstacles in my path, not physical ones anyway. I was just klutzy. I just wasn’t paying attention. My mind was four steps ahead and I missed the moment and lost my footing. I went flying and landed with a thump, on my shoulder, sprawled on a neighbor’s driveway, my keys half-way down the street.
“Did anyone see you?” asked one of my children, prepared to die of mortification. I reassured said child that I was quite alone. “I just wanted to know if there was anyone there to help you,” she (oops!) claimed. Good save, I thought. But there wasn’t. I picked myself off and limped home.
But something felt different this time and an hour and a half later I was at orthopedic urgent care being examined and x-rayed and fitted for a sling for my broken collarbone. Yes, you read correctly – the one that requires my arm remaining immobile or risk further injury (God forbid), the one that prevents driving or exercising or lifting anything heavier than a coffee cup (actually the pain prevents that!) and forces me to violate a strongly held principle and use paper plates for Sukkot!
I can’t run around now. I have to move very slowly and gingerly. And you know what it’s giving me a chance to do? You got it – notice the morning – and the afternoon and the evening – and all points in-between. No more rushing around. More sitting, more interacting with my family, more sunrises and sunsets.
I kept reliving that moment when I fell. If only I’d gone slower. If only I’d been more mindful (to use the current trend). I wouldn’t be in this position. And I might still be forgetting to notice…
(4) BatTikvah, October 13, 2019 5:03 PM
May you heal quickly!
Thank you for this reminder. Sorry you had to get to it in this way. It is a good lesson for all of us. Hashem will get our attention, one way or another. I pray you heal quickly, but never forget to take the time to just be with Him and with your family.
(3) Michael rizer, October 13, 2019 12:04 PM
It’s a good lesson for all of us. And I can’t tell you how many times in my life I have heard people say I don’t have time for that I’m too busy they miss out on so much
(2) Anonymous, October 10, 2019 6:03 PM
Could Hashem force you to slow down in a less hurtful way?
This notion is a common thought process that I see frequently on Aish.com and other similar sites. Something like, Hashem (G-d forbid) visits sickness or injury on us to remind us that He is still in charge. As G-d fearing as I may (or may not) be, I think this idea looks too much like 'cause and effect', a too convenient way to tidy up the misfortunes that exist in the world.
We just don't know.
I am the first to say that as humans, we surely do not understand G-d's ways, for better or worse. I am not convinced that there is a distinct cause and effect that we can easily surmise. With all due respect to the Rebbitzen, I have difficulty with the idea that "I am super busy without any spare time to stop and smell the roses. I am busy climbing the ladder of success, trying to make my world a better place, but - bang - off the ladder I fall because G-d wants me to be more deliberate or to slow down.
After many years of reading Rebbitzen Braverman's columns, I can surely attest to the fact that she is the one person that is always thanking G-d, for everything.
Does Hashem truly visit 'sickness' or an 'accident' on us to purposely slow us down or to make us appreciate the good in our lives once we are over the bad?
I don't have the answer. I just wonder if Hashem truly punctures periods of happiness and busy times to specifically slow us humans down to force us 'stop and smell His roses".
Better minds than mine have spoken to this idea.
(1) Dorothy Frances Goldstein, October 10, 2019 9:20 AM
Thinking About WHAT I’m Doing WHILE I’m Doing It?
Can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been unnecessarily injured just because I haven’t yet cultivated this skill. One classic: Planning to sort through some clothes, I had left the pile (on their hangers) on the end of the bed. The resulting gash on my leg was a horror. Favorite line from the follow-up doctor “you’ve got to calm down & get over yourself.” Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with all of us. “Mom With A View” is favorite of mine.