Sometimes Quality Time is Enough

Those surprising little gestures make a real impact.

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Comments (9)

(9) Maria Dodoc, November 27, 2021 12:42 PM

Thank You!

(8) Anonymous, November 22, 2021 1:07 AM



(7) Nancy, November 19, 2021 12:48 PM

Using time wisely

Life gets very hectic and sometimes a curveball means we don’t accomplish a goal on a given day. I have always treasured the idea of using snippets of time as productively as possible. Thank you rabbi. Good Shabbos.

(6) Dvirah, November 19, 2021 11:05 AM


With respect, I have reservations about the wisdom of showing up unexpectedly at a spouse’s workplace or child’s school . What if it’s not a good time for them? The spouse may be in a meeting or the child taking a test. Also they may be subject to teasing because of the visit. Not meaning to be negative but I agree that such surprises are best given at home.

(5) Joyce Aldrich, November 19, 2021 4:00 AM

Little Things

Little things really do mean a lot. My Dad would surprise us with a special box of lollypops. He was a commission salesman, so couldn't buy us much, but he'd surprise us with these, when he could afford to. I'll always remember it as an act of great love for us.

(4) Sheila Kirche, November 19, 2021 2:37 AM

Your emails are always so inspiring.

Thank you Rabbi Sytner I just love your videos, they are the highlight of my day when I receive them from a fan in Sydney, Australia

(3) Mordechai Shuali, November 18, 2021 2:42 PM

Increasing Jealousy or Worse

Great idea, and very important advice. I would only question if the doughnuts should have been brought to school where other students may become jealous or, much worse, may put a wedge between other students and your children, or between those students and their own parents. What about those who don't have one or both parents or they are too ill, or work far away. Keep the surprises inside your homes.

(2) Harry S Pearle, November 17, 2021 5:17 PM

TRY WAIT (Hit PAUSE more often, and don't rush, rush so much)

Rabbi Sytner, I have mixed feelings about what you suggest.
Yes, we may not have so much time, but we can slow down, and give some time.

One of my neighbors has the license plate: TRY WAIT.
He explained to me that this is a saying in Hawaii, and he was so impressed.

I suggest that discuss ways we might SLOW DOWN, all the time.
TRY WAIT comes from Hawaii, but isn't it a Jewish concept, too? THANKS Much H

(1) Alan S., November 17, 2021 3:46 PM

Another beautiful thought provoking essay by Rabbi Sytner.

I hope you bought donuts for the teachers and school admins too!


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