Charlie Harary on Tisha B’Av: A Day of Yearning, Not Sadness

The point of Tisha B'Av is to focus on what life would be like with the presence of God in it.

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(34) Mordechai Shuali, July 25, 2021 4:36 AM

The Ideal Is That Moment in Which I am Living Right Now!

While certainly we mourn/yearn for greater clarity and the open dwelling of HaShem's presence in this world, nonetheless we live RIGHT NOW in the most ideal of all moments. The time and place in which we find ourselves is the VERY PLACE where HaShem wants us to be. The time and place and the particular opportunities for serving Him they present are exactly what He wants for us and is tailor made to help us reach our shleimus.

(33) Taratoot Esther, July 30, 2020 10:00 PM

Sooo helpful ! Fasting and foggy to hear this woke me up!!!

Powerful and sooo meaningful Thank you !!!!

(32) Anonymous, July 30, 2020 8:27 AM


(31) Cary Sprung, July 30, 2020 2:49 AM

Unlocking The Greatness Of Tisha B'Av

Focus-On Those Who Have Been Take From Us During This Abnormal Abysmal Crisis so far
Total Indignity and Disrespect for the Honor due to those who have been take from us
I this crazy abnormal world-Shiva would be considered a Bracha
As always,Thank You for Your Erudition-Have an Easy and Meaningful Fast

(30) Anonymous, July 29, 2020 7:50 PM


If Tisha B'av is not about sadness but about mourning, why do we go thru the pain that has befallen us over the years? why do we sometimes focus so much on the bad things that have happened to the Jewish people?

(29) YAB, July 29, 2020 3:21 PM


Wow. This video made me cry. It is just so easy to say that I don't want to have to do with Tisha Baev, but this just makes me want to do with it. Who's with me?

(28) Roberta Gornish, July 27, 2020 7:44 PM

Brought tears to my eyes and yearning within my heart!

Mr. Harary can deliver a message that is always so powerful, because he speaks from within a deeply spiritual place. This is great!

(27) marvin SILVERSTEIN, July 8, 2020 2:05 PM


I am NOT an Observant Jew. I do wear my Kipah / Yamekeh. and I KNOW HASHEM [ ON MY RIGHT SHOULDER] tells " all" that yes I am Jewish.
Age 88, widower. walk with walker, cannot write with hands, but I THANK G-D FOR ALL MY ENTIRE BLESSINGS. I DO NOT ACCEPT ALL THESE SAD HOLIDAYS. ROSH HASHANA / YOM KIPPUR = YES Plus Pesach.

(26) Fay, August 12, 2019 3:03 AM

So inspiring

Thank you so much, this whole day was uplifted by the perspective on it given in this message.

(25) Yitz Greenman, August 11, 2019 10:26 PM

Poignant and on the money

Focus. Excellent piece. Thanks again Charlie for your insights. Yitz

(24) Marshall M. Silverman, August 11, 2019 7:48 PM

Extremely Thought-Provoking Video

Extremely thought-provoking video. Hashem often speaks to us through other people, and this is clearly one of those times. Thank you for this video. It hit my soul on a very receptive day. I think my life has just been changed a little, for the better.

(23) Deborah MACT Litwack, August 11, 2019 3:59 PM

Really liked this one Charlie!

Regards to the mishpacha

(22) Sandy, August 11, 2019 2:26 PM


Thank you, Charlie Harary (and Aish) for sharing these thoughts. I do my best to build my relationship with Hashem on a daily basis and I appreciate the wonderful analogy.

(21) Anonymous, August 11, 2019 1:59 PM

nice thought!

the idea of becoming more focussed on HIM and the wish to be closer is a very true one. But it cant displace the sadness we are supposed to feel that through the generations we havent managed to get ourselves together enough to merit a rebuilding!the unnecessary crying of the time of the spies leads to REAL crying through the generations

(20) Benzion Eliyahu Lehrer, August 11, 2019 1:42 PM

Nice whathe is saying that it applies more so to the rest of the Jewish Year and not so much to the day of Tishb'Av

The Jewish year is a progression of the light of God from Beyond to this world, and once we reach the fifth book of the Torah the book of Devorim, this light is fully here to the physical, and therefore needs complete renewal. The reason for this is that once the light has reached the physical, it is at the same time detached from higher spiritual source. For this reason the book of Devorim does not begin the Hebrew letter Vav-as rashi explains by ואלה משפטים, that the Vav connects what is here to what was previous. However by the fifth book of the Torah which correlates to our lowest soul level- Nefish, and also to the second ה of God's Name- which denotes malkuth this physical world, begins "אלה דברים"- without the letter Vav, meaning that are lower physical self it's a bit cut off from our higher self. reconnecting is of course-תשובה which as I learned from Rabbi David Aaron the name of the Arizal hachodesh, תשוב-ה to return the ה which denotes are physical actions in this world that we do with our five senses because numerical value of this letter is 5, to return it to our higher self. Rabbi David Aaron points out interesting enough that's so too, in English repent has the same meaning because a pentagon is a five-sided building. on Tisha b'av, we are indeed cut off, down here with a lower selves, and at this point of the Jewish year the only way to reconnect is with a new and higher vision as we will soon have Shabbat Chazon. At that point the yearning can just begin and during Elul and Rosh Hashanah we begin the process of bringing the light of God from Beyond to this world. 0526187701

(19) rabbi, August 11, 2019 12:39 PM

On the dot

THANK YOU ! wonderfull.

(18) Shoshana-Jerusalem, August 11, 2019 12:08 PM

Very true, but.........

It is a very sad day. Your excellent video clarifies why we should be sad and what our focus should be. See the video, on this page, "The heart- rending cry".

(17) good jew, August 11, 2019 5:32 AM

very meaningful

(16) Anonymous, August 11, 2019 4:13 AM

Beautiful thought, but I found the pictures very distracting.

(15) Joey, August 11, 2019 1:29 AM

It occurs to me that this lesson is especially useful given Elul coming up—if we start to yearn for God now, we're in a better mindset to move closer to him in the coming months.

Thanks for your insights, and God bless!

(14) Karla, August 10, 2019 8:38 PM

Thank you for this presentation/lesson.

Your inspiring words touched me deeply, Mr. Harary. You've shown me a new focus for Tisha B'av.
May God bless you and yours.

(13) Lorrie, August 10, 2019 9:27 AM

Truth expressed to power of His Living glory. Amen

Very well presented. Esp re Heart walls “broken” through... nothing remains expect Light. Truth. = Fathers Everlasting Presence. Amen.

(12) Harry Pearle, August 9, 2019 6:29 PM

Temple Destruction (Stumbling Blocks or Stepping Stoned?)

There is a saying I found,"
"The only difference between STUMBLING blocks and STEPPING STONES is the way in which we use them"

Perhaps we can look at the destruction of the Holy Temple as stepping stones for the future redemption.

Thank you, Charlie. Take it easy! (EASY Button idea)

(11) Anonymous, August 9, 2019 4:55 PM

Amen. Thank you Mr. Harari for your work and dedication to Klal yisroel.

What a blessing Mr. Harari's clear message of how to shift and focus on yearning during Tisha B'av is. Because it is also the day of my dear friend who happens to be my son in law's mother, all the more so. Thank you for your continued committment to klal yisroel and to teaching so clearly. Your work continues to be an inspiration to me and so many people out here in Los Angeles, May you and your family be blessed and may we all merit the clarity of which you speak through our focused efforts. Right now. Amen.

(10) narges ebrahimi, August 9, 2019 8:57 AM

I learning Torah. I love Jewish ???????

(9) Andy Barak, August 8, 2019 6:29 PM

That was so uplifting Mr. Harary. Thank you so much

Thank you so much Mr. Harary. Very uplifting message and O so necessary now.

(8) Anonymous, August 8, 2019 3:58 PM

Great video, thanks!

So we'll said! Thank you for putting together such a powerful message and sharing it with us all!

(7) Anonymous, August 8, 2019 3:47 PM

To Rabbi Harary :
Thank you very much for the message ( I learned something from you, so i must call you Rabbi Harary )

(6) Natalie Berenstein, August 8, 2019 3:02 PM

Charlie Haray is always excellent. This video just shows that again. This is very very excellent!

(5) David Almoslino, August 8, 2019 2:00 PM

Charly is spot on again

Please pass on, this is terrific!

(4) Leah Bleiberg, August 8, 2019 11:48 AM

Home run

What a powerful video! Really brings home the point of what our goal should be for Tisha bAv.

(3) Alan S., August 8, 2019 11:27 AM

I always love Mr. Harary's videos.

Mr. Harary always presents a compelling video and thought. One suggestion for this video however would be for a more realistic storyline. I understand taking liberties with a story to make a point, but I found it a bit dubious that the son was sitting shiva even though his father was still alive. But the point was made well. Yasher koach! to Mr. Harary.

(2) Shaindel, August 8, 2019 12:15 AM

Very Clear Explanation

Thanks for this very clear explanation of what Tisha B'Av is really about. I got a lot out of this.

(1) Nancy, August 7, 2019 1:19 PM

The more we focus on HIM the more he will focus on us

Last week I was in a stressful situation. I had to drive on a parkway which always makes me feel jittery. There was no viable alternate route to my destination at that time. I asked for his help and my trip was made much more bearable.


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