Forgiveness: Harder to Ask, Or Harder to Give?

When we forgive others, we empower ourselves to better change ourselves.

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(5) Tonna, October 30, 2013 4:11 AM

Thank you...

I believe, for me anyway...I is harder to ask for forgiveness. I find it easier for me, to forgive someone, than to ask for forgiveness. Over the High Holidays, I did venture down that very difficult path...and though it was hard for me...I did it and am glad that I did. I not only learned something about the people that I spoke with, I learned something about myself. epiphany of sorts I suppose. Thank you for your article!

(4) scott, September 7, 2013 5:58 AM

Let it go. It's harder than you think.

There's a movie called "a Bronx Tale" De Nero says that if you want to get rid of someone, lend them money they can afford to repay. They will never bother you again. It's true.

I've been there in my life, having borrowed money that it took me a year to repay...I avoided the guy until I had the money. I was ashamed. And to this day that relationship is strained. Not because the guy is mad at me...he understood and was glad to help. It's me. I'm embarrassed about not keeping my commitment and can't handle that he knows how I behaved. I've made teshuvah...I repayed the money with interest. I asked for forgiveness. And he told me that he forgave me and would do it again. But I can't accept that...maybe I never will be able to.

After Adam and Eve ate the fruit...G*d went looking for them. They being unwilling to return to him...he went looking to call them back. Think about it...he was looking for them to give them an opportunity to receive forgiveness. Amazing. Instead they hid from him and they lied. I believe that he was ready to forgive, but they were not able to accept that forgiveness. They chose guilt and shame over Hashem. Guilt and shame became their ruler. They didn't trust his attribute of mercy. And for that matter kingship. They denied him the kings right to pardon. They doubted the kings ability to pardon.

The rest of history I think is just about getting humans to a place where we can accept his mercy and kingship. Where we can accept his pardon and trust his ability to let it go and continue our relationship with him as if nothing had changed.

He created Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur as rituals to give us a chance each year to do what Adam and Eve couldn't. We're supposed to do what we need to do in order to end the separation and accept his attributes of mercy and kingship. It's the hardest thing we can do as Jews.

Susan, August 17, 2014 2:16 AM

Thank you Scott

Your comment is a gift from Hashem--

(3) Janice, September 6, 2013 5:10 AM

Forgiveness or Pardon

To error is human to give a Pardon is Kingship/Devine; issue the pardon and your emotions will follow.

(2) Anonymous, September 3, 2013 9:13 PM

Have you been eavesdropping on my life!? lol. Thank you for producing this heart tugging video.

(1) Yaakov Meyer, September 3, 2013 3:31 PM

absolutely outstanding and meaningful

Thank you for producing this video


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