Yom Kippur (September 28, 2020), the day of atonement, is the culmination of the High Holidays. It is the day in which God's love for His people is strongest. We fast, pray, and repent our past mistakes, and God lovingly reaccepts us as His special nation. Yom Kippur marks the end of the period of judgment begun on Rosh Hashanah, our final chance to return wholeheartedly to God and receive His forgiveness. On this day God's hands are opened wide, eagerly awaiting our repentance and reconciliation.
Following the sin of the Golden Calf, Moses pleaded with God to forgive the people. Finally on Yom Kippur, atonement was achieved and Moses brought the second set of Tablets down from Mount Sinai.
From that day forward, every Yom Kippur carries with it a special power to cleanse our mistakes (both individually and collectively) and to wipe the slate clean.
This works on two conditions:
(1) We do a process called teshuva – literally "return." Teshuva involves four steps:
- Regret – acknowledging that a mistake was made, and feeling regret at having squandered some of our potential.
- Cessation – Talk is cheap, but stopping the harmful action shows a true commitment to change.
- Confession – To make it more “real,” we admit our mistake verbally, and ask forgiveness from anyone we may have harmed.
- Resolution – We make a firm commitment not to repeat the harmful action in the future.
(2) Though the combination of teshuva and Yom Kippur atones for transgressions against God, it does not automatically erase wrongs committed against other people. It is therefore the universal Jewish custom – some time before Yom Kippur – to apologize and seek forgiveness from any friend, relative, or acquaintance whom we may have harmed or insulted over the past year.
Angel for a Day
On Yom Kippur, every Jew becomes like an angel. In the Jewish understanding, angels are completely spiritual beings, whose sole focus is to serve their Creator. The Maharal of Prague explains:
All the mitzvot that God commanded us on [Yom Kippur] are designed to remove, as much as possible, a person's relationship to physicality, until he is completely like an angel.
Just as angels (so to speak) stand upright, so too we spend most of Yom Kippur standing in the synagogue. And just as angels (so to speak) wear white, so too we are accustomed to wear white on Yom Kippur. Just as angels do not eat or drink, so too we do not eat or drink.
This idea even has a practical application in Jewish law: typically, the second verse of the Shema, Baruch Shem, is recited quietly. But on Yom Kippur, it is proclaimed out loud – just like the angels do.
What can you not do on Yom Kippur?
There are five areas of physical involvement from which we refrain on Yom Kippur:
- Eating and drinking
- Washing, bathing and showering
- Applying oils or lotions to the skin
- Marital relations
- Wearing leather shoes
Throughout the year, many people spend their days focusing on food, work, material possessions (symbolized by shoes) and superficial pleasures (symbolized by anointing). On Yom Kippur, we restore our priorities to what really counts in life.
As Rabbi Eliyahu Dessler writes:
On Yom Kippur, the power of the [physical] inclination is muted. Therefore, one's yearning for spiritual elevation reasserts itself, after having lain dormant as a result of sin's deadening effect on the soul. This rejuvenation of purpose entitles a person to special consideration and forgiveness.
Structure of the Day
On Rosh Hashana, the Books of Life and Death are open and God writes who will be granted another year of life. For many, this decision hangs in the balance for nine days until Yom Kippur, when the final decision is sealed. With this in mind, the prayers of Yom Kippur are designed to stir us to mend our ways:
- The Yom Kippur prayers begin before sundown with the haunting melody of Kol Nidrei. The Torah scrolls are all removed from the Ark, and the chazzan (cantor) chants the Kol Nidrei prayer three times, each with greater intensity.
- The special Yom Kippur Amidah (standing prayer) incorporates the Al-Chet confession of our various mistakes. With each mention of a mistake, we lightly beat our chest with the fist – as if to say that it is our impulses that got the best of us.
- The Yizkor service – said in memory of loved ones – is recited following the morning Torah reading.
- The lengthy Mussaf service features a recounting of the Yom Kippur rite in the Holy Temple in Jerusalem. A highlight was the High Priest entering the Holy of Holies – the only person to do so, this one time a year. The Mussaf service also records how the High Priest would pronounce God's holy name, and in response the assembled Jews would prostrate on the ground. When reaching these passages, we too prostrate ourselves on the ground.
- At the Mincha service, we read the Book of Jonah, the biblical story of a prophet who tried to “flee from God” and wound up swallowed into the belly of a huge fish.
- While a regular weekday has three prayer services, and Shabbat and holidays have four, Yom Kippur is the only day of the year that has five. This final prayer is called Ne’ilah, literally the “closing of the gates,” which serves as the final chance to ensure that our decree for the year is “sealed” in the Book of Life. At the conclusion of Ne’ilah, the shofar is sounded – one long blast, signifying our confidence in having passed the High Holidays with a good judgment.
- At the conclusion of Yom Kippur, Havdallah is recited over a cup of wine. There is no blessing on spices (unless Yom Kippur was on Shabbat), but we do use a Havdallah candle – which should be lit from a flame that burned throughout Yom Kippur.
The Fast Itself
The Yom Kippur fast begins before sundown, and extends 25 hours until the following nightfall.
During the afternoon hours leading up to Yom Kippur, it is a special mitzvah to eat a festive meal.
For making your fast easier, hydration is the key. Avoid coffee or coke, because caffeine is a diuretic. Heavy coffee drinkers can also avoid the dreaded headache by slowly reducing the amount of consumption over the week leading up to Yom Kippur. (See Aish’s “Guide to an Easy Fast”)
At the festive meal, eat a moderate portion of food so as not to speed up the digestion process. After you complete the festive meal, leave some extra time before sundown to drink.
In Case of Illness
If someone is ill, and a doctor is of the opinion that fasting might pose a life-danger, then the patient should eat or drink small amounts.
The patient should try to eat only about 30 ml (one fluid ounce) and wait nine minutes before eating again. Once nine minutes have passed, one can eat this small amount again, and so on throughout the day.
With drinking, try to drink less than what the Talmud calls "melo lugmav" – the amount that would fill a person's puffed-out cheek. While this amount will vary from person to person, it is approximately 35 ml (just over one fluid ounce) and one should wait nine minutes before drinking again.
How does consuming small amounts make a difference? In Jewish law, an act of "eating" is defined as "consuming a certain quantity within a certain period of time." Otherwise, it's not eating, it's "nibbling" – which although is prohibited on Yom Kippur, there is room to be lenient when one's health is at stake.
The reason for all these technicalities is because eating on Yom Kippur is regarded as one of the most serious prohibitions in the Torah. So while there are leniencies in certain situations, we still try to minimize it.
Note that eating and drinking are treated as independent acts, meaning that the patient can eat and drink together during those nine minutes, and the amounts are not combined.
Having said all this, if these small amounts prove insufficient to prevent the health danger, the patient may even eat and drink regularly. In such a case, a person does not say Kiddush before eating, but does recite "Grace After Meals," inserting the "ya'aleh veyavo" paragraph.
Now what about a case where the patient's opinion conflicts with that of the doctor? If the patient is certain he needs to eat to prevent a danger to health, then we rely on his word, even if the doctor disagrees. And in the opposite scenario – if the patient refuses to eat despite doctors' warnings – then we persuade the patient to eat, since it is possible that his judgment is impaired due to illness.
Wishing you a meaningful Yom Kippur!
(19) Liz schmidt, September 27, 2020 2:16 PM
Such a blessing to learn about this great day
I am doing this fast for the first time! I’m so excited to be able to cleanse such an in-worthy vessel! I need a miracle!! God bless you!!
(18) Randall adkins, September 18, 2018 10:23 PM
Interesting, have a blessed Yom Kippur.
(17) Donna Furman, September 21, 2015 12:01 PM
A very well written and informative article. It managed to answer a few questions that I had.
(16) Paul Zepeda, September 20, 2015 10:21 PM
Fasting on the day of Atonement
I am a diabetic and observe fasting on Yom Kippur (Atonement). I am hyper-glycemic (high blood sugar). I use a glucose-ometer to monitor my sugar levels. Since I don't eat or drink anything for 24 hours it does bring my sugar levels down. To be safe, I get up twice during the night to check on my sugar, then also monitor it during the day. So far, I haven't had any problems as it doesn't drop below 70 which is still safe. As a precaution ,I keep some glucose tablets handy!
(15) Anonymous, October 2, 2014 6:13 PM
Great!
This is great! Thank you so much for posting this!
(14) Anonymous, October 2, 2014 5:35 PM
Eating on Yom Kippur is not so simple
Wonderful article, straight to the point.
However, eating on Yom Kippur is far from simple. One must consult a competent Orthodox Rabbi to receive specific guidelines for each individual as no two situations are alike.
(13) Anonymous, September 29, 2014 4:31 AM
Excellent!
This is so helpful! Thank you so much for posting this!
(12) Jo, September 16, 2014 6:57 PM
Jewish holiday/Day of atonement.
Very interesting.
(11) Manuel, September 4, 2013 3:24 AM
It´s good to know
(10) Anonymous, September 13, 2010 12:17 AM
Thank you for this article and I have been reading everything that I can. I have to take several medications three times every day. Believe me I don't like to, but I must for my health. I am going to try to follow the rules. I must because I don't want anything to stand in my way of making this Yom Kippur faithfully adheared to. I have to take ginger and I use the crystalized (sp) ginger to ward off stomach pain. I believe this would fit into the size of something small. I hope so and I hope that everyone gets sealed for a splendid year and all through their lives. Thank you Rabbi Simmons for another well written article.
(9) Anonymous, August 30, 2009 6:01 PM
uplifting,informative, and interesting!
The High Holiday Reader provides a wonderful mix of interesting and thought-provoking articles. Everyone who reads it will experience a great deal more this year when they prepare for and experience the holidays at home and in the synagogue. Thank you!
(8) howie, September 9, 2008 2:06 PM
yom kippur eating
This will be the first Yom Kippur in about 11 years that I will be fasting. After being on some heavy medications for that time, this is my first Yom Kippur of the meds. It has changed and I no longer require daily doses of the med's cocktail, but take one self administered injection per week. While the med indicates a healthy diet, I believe that I can commit to a day of fasting.
(7) James, August 21, 2007 2:22 PM
Fasting as a fulfilment of excitement
I have sometimes found that when I am really excited about something I can hardly eat. Almost as if I have lost my appetite. Is there a possibility that I can feel such a "Purim" in "Yom Kippurim" that I become "too excited to eat" thus fulfilling the fast?
Curious about the Festival.
(6) Bruce, October 2, 2006 4:48 PM
A Helpful Tip for the Fast
Many find doing without water to drink as the hardest task(people dry so easily)try this,place pebble(nice clean would be nice)underneath your tongue this keeps the salivary gland lubricating your insides and fights drieness,used by legionerres way back when.
Jeffrey Siegel, September 21, 2012 5:39 PM
You can also accomplish the same thing by moving the tip of your tounge against the roof of your mouth to create more moisture.
(5) TomerSariel, October 1, 2006 7:52 AM
I want to thank you for this nice article, it helped understand a little better the meaning of Yom Kippur.
(4) MichaelShatz, September 11, 2006 6:43 PM
The Fast at Yom Kipper
The article was very informative and I learned something new. But, I must tell you I don't particularly want a easy fast. I want to feel hunger, not only for my mortal body, but also to symbolize my hunger to know G-d, to be better. I want to feel thirst, the thirst of wanting to have a closer and morre meanful relation with G-d. I'm 55 years old, and I find that though when I was young, I loved G-d, but I did not have the relationship with Him that I should. Now, I hunger and thirst for it and am seeking it.
Thank you for the article. A blessed Yom Kippur to you and yours.
(3) Dr. Sharon Jefferson, April 21, 2005 12:00 AM
Wonderful
Thank you for such wonderful information.
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(1) Devorah Tikvah, September 12, 2002 12:00 AM
great article!
I am a diabetic, and this was exactly the information I needed to know for the approaching holiday. Thanks!