Charlie and the Chocolate Factory

How do we give to our kids without spoiling them?

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Comments (12)

(12) sherry, May 28, 2008 2:26 PM

They want to be taught

I and my husband raised 7 children and now have 10 grandchildren. 3 of whom live close enough that I get to see them often. The ice-cream truch comes by a couple times a day and the girls wanted some soft ice-cream, I went to get them money and they all said no..they wanted to earn it and asked for chores. So I gave a list of chores to them. They did them all and joyously accepted the money they earned. They''re very normal kids. I think the children that have everything handed to them are sad and empty inside.

(11) r, April 29, 2008 11:35 AM

True parental love is helping the kids to learn what is right

I had seen snippets of this movie while on a plane about 18 mos ago and was horrified by what I saw, esp since it was listed as a kids movie. What a relief to have it brought up here for discussion. Those spoiled brats did not deserve their sadistic punishments so much as their misguided parents did!
The scariest part, however, is that so much of Western society is being raised like this: the future citizens have no idea --much less training in -- "delayed gratification," or much less, foregoing a whim or desire. Or sharing. Parents dont realize that often they cave in to the kids' pestering out of laziness, not love. How can such parents be role models for sticking to principles; setting up priorities according to values not impulses; WORKING towards EARNING an object that one desires; etc etc etc What a sick, sick selfish society is being created! SCARY, REAL SCARY!

(10) Ron, April 15, 2008 6:27 PM

Comment on (2) Amanda 4/15/2008 9:57:00 AM

I agree with Amanda. It's true. Children not only need structure, they _want_ structure. There's a time in life when parents and children develope friend relationships; however, these friend relationships should be reserved for later in adult life. Have you see those child-parent relationships that seemingly are based on friendship? Where's the heirarchy. A parent can lose a child's respect fast by not acting/being the parent. Children look for structure, demand structure, require structure. Without structure, they fall apart. It's like that you know. So in relation to Amanda's post, again, I agree. Amanda was only able to say it more concise than me. Here I go typing an essay on the topic. :-)

(9) Anonymous, April 15, 2008 2:39 PM


yet how is it that so much of our society to whom it is so obvious in the movie, doesn't realize what they are doing to their children by overindulging them, and not allowing them to experience frustration.
it is called spoiled for a reason. ew.

(8) Amanda, April 15, 2008 9:57 AM

Strange, but true

Children really don't like being given everything they ask for. They think they do. But the reality is that a loving parent who sets firm, but fair boundaries is what them really want. That is why even if a spoiled child gets everything they demand they continue to act out.

(7) Ron, April 15, 2008 9:45 AM

Appreciation through example.

Children will see many things and will seemingly be attracted to them. Being impatient with a child leads to the child and yourself building up frustration. If a child is allowed to watch useless television, they will develope a lazy lifestyle and be influence by all the advertisements. There's much to say on this topic than merely typing a quick thought in a comment box. What worked for me, not being spoiled is: While around 5-9 years of age, my dad would take me along his work route when he needed to collect money from certain stores that newspapers were delivered to. Passing by many vending machines in a day tempted me for wanting many sorts of candies, especially Hot Tamales. My dad said no once or twice and the other times continued about his work, me tagging along. It wasn't long until I realized I wasn't getting any candy. I didn't throw a fit, I just ended up accepting the circumstances. My dad wasn't a penny pincher, but to this day, I pass up the candy isle, although I do spend some time thinking how I eating some yummy candy would be so delicious. But from being young, I learned to appreciate what I had by my dad setting an example. This scenario of candy can be extended to many other wants and desires I had. Thank the G-d of Jacob my dad gave me what I needed and when I needed it. Isn't out Father in heaven the same, too. We can rely on His faithfulness to provide for us. What better example, too, then is was my dad, taking after our Father.

(6) Zissi, April 14, 2008 7:57 PM

Spoiling children can only bring bad

Spoil a child when young, pay the consequences later. My son is only 16 months old and we have no intention of spoiling him. In order for children to grow up healthy, happy and responsible, give them treats once in a long while and make them work for them the other times.

(5) Anonymous, April 14, 2008 11:20 AM

Spoiling a child when theyre young brings bad results later on in life. We should give our children what is necessary and even reward them once in a while for doing good. But no overdose of thingss because it is not healthy for them.,

(4) Anonymous, April 14, 2008 11:15 AM


(3) Rosen, April 13, 2008 11:00 PM

avoiding raising a moocher

One of the best ways to avoid raising a spoiled child or a moocher is have him/her do chores to work for what they want. It's the discipline I grew up with almost 20 years ago.

(2) sharona, April 13, 2008 4:27 PM

my opinion

you should see in the original movie, she was even more annoying lol.
But seriously, when children become spoiled, you become their slave who is under their command. Instead, we should prevent this from happening by setting bounderies when they are young. Give them what they want once in a while. But if it's not appropriate at that moment, set the limit and stand firm on your position.

(1) Anonymous, April 13, 2008 1:17 PM

You have to give them limited things and not everything that they desire for


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