The Nanny Diaries

Do parents spend enough time with their children?

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Comments (16)

(16) Eliav, July 15, 2008 3:13 PM

there's a lot in this clip

As a professional who works with struggling teens, I can testify to the truth portrayed in this clip. The damage done to a child who does not receive his parents' unconditional love is great, and repairing it extraordinarily difficult. Parenting is without a doubt the most challenging job that I have encountered on this planet. But there's no greater failure than not even trying. And it's not even the quantity that counts, it's the quality. 15 minutes of your undivided attention is worth three hours of sharing you. The greatest investments we make are the energies that we put into the people we love. Spend time with your kids, get to know them, let them know you. You're not perfect, they know it, and they don't care. But whoever you are, that's whose attention they want. Please give it to them.

(15) Nava, June 27, 2008 2:53 PM

do parentsspend enough time with their kids?

My parent's, thank G-d are nothing like the moms in this video. They are always spending time with me and we always have a ball. But being a child makes me able o try and see another child's prospective more easily. I can understand how that might feel. I think most orthadox peaple who although they travel a lot, they still somehow manage to, through their busy lives, find time for their children. I think thats becuase their children arent something they make way for in their lives but their children are PART of parents lives. Children are IN their parents lives. They share it. And that is a very special thing.

(14) Raquel, June 27, 2008 3:42 AM

a need for a balance

I have given up a career as a lawyer to look after my 3 kids. There have been great moments, bad moments and "I am getting crazy" moments, too.
I love my job as a mum, but I also resent not having a life outside the home. I find the company of other mothers very boring and the incessant chat about kids is beyond the call of duty.
If I had had the insight to have kept my job on a part time basis and being a part-time mother, I guess I would have been happier. One does not need a brain to do laundry or the mindless daily chores. One certainly needs a balance in order to function well.

(13) Ronni, June 15, 2008 8:49 PM

Not Black & White

If only it was so clear to people that their behavior is so destructive. I know several young couples who leave their infants all day in daycare and theyjustify it with phony studies about it being good for their baby so they don't have to feel guilty, or they talk about how they need to work and they have no choice because they need the money when what they mean is they refuse to lower their living standards for their childrens' sake and so on. The are really loving warm parents otherwise so you give your opinion but then drop it because as they say "you can bring the horse to the water, but you can't make him drink". Our society has been so brainwashed it's pointless to start fights and arguments with otherwise lovely people, I just really feel bad for their children.

(12) Anonymous, June 12, 2008 8:24 AM

you can't win!

I stayed at home and brought my children up. Now as adults two of them resent it and think of me as lazy for not working and if I had worked they could have had more like their friends.

(11) Yak, June 11, 2008 7:12 PM


Read the book - "Nanny Diaries" - very very very sad (all true) will rip your heart out - but very good musar (ethical instruction)!!

(10) Jason, June 4, 2008 8:51 PM


There''s a reason why shabbat is more than just a Friday night dinner...

(9) zera kodesh, June 4, 2008 2:49 PM

was a stay at home mom, so is our daughter, best kids and smartest kids in the world, respectful to every one

(8) Anonymous, June 4, 2008 1:56 PM

That is NOT! the question, the question is...

The question IS!, When will male & female, FIRST get MARRIED!, THEN!, (try) to have children, ** WITH! G-D!?? (that is a CHOICE!)

(7) rodney, June 4, 2008 1:32 PM

not enough

too good to be so short. the nanny should diffuse the excuses, the rationalizing, and self-justification mind games of the parents who are being addressed.

(6) charlie, June 4, 2008 7:11 AM

all very well but

What happens if husband looses job, gets ill, can''t cope. Wife goes out to work, gets ill both can''t cope.
Do they struggle to learn and get on with it as things are knowing some things are beshet or divorce because that might give the women a better chance of the perfect life she so craves for.Any answers to

(5) gl, June 3, 2008 10:56 PM

Someone once said that there are just a few short years during which our children chase after us because they want to be with us. After that, we have to chase after them.

(4) AR, June 2, 2008 10:31 PM

''what are we building: ourselves or our children?''

Our purpose in marriage is spouse bonding simoultaniously with child bonding. This is building the house and planting seeds for the future in which they need emotional support!!! we tend to forget how backwards our society is today and what a mother''s role is. a homemaker isnt something to look down upon but to be proud of. the role of a mother is not to be undermined... (spoken from a priviliged stay at home mom).

(3) Shoshana, June 2, 2008 6:21 PM

not funny

I though Jewlarious was funny. This is sad, and so so true!

(2) Anonymous, June 2, 2008 2:24 AM

how sad...and SO true

as a child raised by many a babysitter and when i got "older" (12) i was a lock and key child...coming home to an empty house every day. i am an adult with my own home and family now and am still suffering the ramifications of not having had a mother. I was never deprived of anything materialistic, but the love and warmth of a secure home, i never had......PEOPLE WAKE UP, YOU HAVE A NUMBER 1 PRIorITY TO BE THERE For YOUR CHILD, OTHERWISE YOU''LL BE DEALING WITH TERRIBLE GUILT For THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!

(1) suzy, June 1, 2008 5:00 PM

so true, we need to make time for family while they are still young. Otherwise, it''ll be too late.


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