How not to perform the mitzvah of visiting the sick.

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(13) Ari, March 1, 2012 8:31 PM

Gevaldig !

Great job! Very funny and hit on so many topics that people spending time in the hospital hear over and over again from well meaning but uninformed 'friends'. Everyone becomes an expert at whatever is ailing the person they decide to visit, and then feel it their duty to share their advise.

(12) ronen fuksbrumer, December 13, 2011 1:39 AM

awesome. teaches a real lesson through humor. i would love to join them in the next video (shiva house visit?).

(11) Anonymous, December 2, 2011 1:11 AM

best to keep your mouth shut

Last friday I ran into a friend that was going through a difficult time . She had sustained an injury, and 2 other members of her immediate family also underwent physical ailments. , She told me that a well meaning friend actually said to her that she didn't daven hard enough on Rosh Hashanna . Go figure!!

(10) Anonymous, December 1, 2011 11:22 PM

I agree about...How NOT to make a shiva call?

I just want to say i agree with with person who wrote that they should make one how NOT to make a shiva call. I unfortunelly recently sat shiva for my mother A"H. and the things people came and said to my family or even to each other in front of us was was so hurtful. Its such a hard time and people can make it even more painful. They can ALSO bring you so much comfort if done in the right way.

Anonymous, December 23, 2011 4:01 AM

yes we need a shiva one.

(9) Sam, December 1, 2011 12:58 AM

If you think you've exaggerated, not by much.

That was great! I have seen and heard comments like those, although not about the paddles....I don't think. Maybe someone should write an etiquette book on how to visit the sick. (Visiting The Sick For Dummies?) The problem is, the people that really need it, probably wouldn't read it. I think we all make tactless comments from time to time, usually when we're uncomfortable. It probably would also help people to imagine themselves in the position of the patient and try to figure out what you would want someone to say to you. It's not a good idea to overstay, unless you're close family or you're asked to. And for heaven's sake, don't stand at the base of someone's feet. Stand at their side. It's difficult for them to see you if their laying too flat, and if they're wearing a hospital gown, they are feeling vulnerable about that position. It also makes them feel at a psychological disadvantage. There are many hospitals that have agencies that send kosher food and provide other services. Usually it's called Bikur Cholim, but there are also other agencies. Make sure that the family checks out if there is one available to them. They sometimes provide all your Shabbos needs, too, including a place for relatives to stay. And if you have some time, most are always looking for volunteers. Thanks for the laughs, they were hysterical.

(8) Carl, November 29, 2011 3:29 PM

Funny !

This could have been a Woody Allen(?) movie!

(7) Baruch, November 29, 2011 1:35 PM


Brilliant piece! How about considering doing the same for how not to pay a shiva call?

(6) richard, November 29, 2011 9:23 AM


Only one word describes this ...SICK. Even worse is when people are like that in real. I've seen it and it's TERRIBLE. How do you get THEM to see themselves in these roles??? As Rabbi Salomon would say "Something to think about"

Uriel, November 30, 2011 1:20 AM

Thats why this is "How NOT to preform the Mitzvah."

(5) Lee, November 29, 2011 6:38 AM

this was great

When I was in the hospital I got at least a a third of these comments from family.

(4) Jerry, November 28, 2011 3:50 PM

As a volunteer Jewish Hospital Chaplain....

Great check list for me, to remind me of what needs are to be met & how I can best be of service

(3) Anonymous, November 27, 2011 9:21 PM

Pathetically true. It may also be helpful to show the other side - meaning, how you should perform the mitzvah of visiting the sick.

(2) Malky, November 27, 2011 5:11 PM

Great! Mussar with humor!

(1) L, November 27, 2011 10:58 AM

Loved it. Very funny.

yehudit channen, December 8, 2011 8:12 PM

I adore this video!

the actors here are fantastic! this is one of the funniest videos I have ever seen! Leave it to the Jews to give themselves tochacha through black humor! Keep up the great work!


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