For me, Aliyah was easy. I was 22, not a worry in the world, and going out with a cute Israeli who would later become my husband. I had dreamed of coming to live in Israel since I was 15, and arriving was a dream come true.
Blessed with a positive, optimistic nature, I was only slightly exasperated with the bureaucratic hurdles, the long lines, and the difficulty of understanding the language. The scorching summer heat and humidity were difficult, and I missed the summer rain and thunderstorms of my native Johannesburg terribly, but hey, it was nice to see blue sky every day.
Living in the middle of nowhere without a car, it never bothered me that it could take about two hours to get to work by hitchhiking, or that there were only three busses a day. Standing at the bus stop I could see the mountains, smell the wild flowers, and tangibly feel the beauty of Israel. I was young and oh so happy. Enchanted with this country, filled with joy for being here in the land of my people, the land that God gave us.
Now, almost 20 years later, slightly greyer (only slightly) and with a few more wrinkles, I still feel that same passion and love for Israel. I still feel tremendous emotion when I see the Israeli flag, and although I have issues with the government, I am extremely grateful to live at a time when Jews are ruling in their own land.
Kind of like a good marriage: in the beginning it's all bliss and romantic idealism, then 20 years later the initial romanticism is over, in its stead is a solidified, firm love and friendship, still giving rise to moments of passion and delight.
People from all over the world have come to live in Israel, overcoming unfathomable hurdles:
The Russians -- after years of harassment behind the Iron Curtain, how incredible to welcome the Refuseniks (Jews from the former Soviet Union who were denied permission to emigrate to Israel) and their brethren. Seeing Anatoly Sharansky walking onto Israeli soil was one of the highlights of my life.
Ethiopian families that walked thousands of kilometers in enemy territory, every step in the burning sand one step closer to the holy land. The horrific conditions in the refugee camps in Sudan wiped out thousands, yet despite hunger and harassment they persevered in order to fulfill their dream.
My father-in-law came from a wealthy family in Tunisia and wore a suit and tie every day. When he first came to Israel he lived in a shack and picked oranges for a living. My mother-in-law laughingly remembers the barbaric conditions of the "ma'abara," refugee camps in the 1950s, providing tents or tin huts with no electricity or water as temporary accommodation. "How could you bring up children like that?" I ask her, mentally envisioning my stack of Pampers, my dishwasher, my flushing toilets. "We were just happy to leave Tunisia," she simply replies, "happy to leave the persecution and fear."
I think of my sister living in New Jersey. Their 4-story two-family home is gorgeous. Shoppers' paradise is a short drive away. Every worldly convenience is available, often on clearance. Why on earth would they leave? Yet Israel is pulling them closer, and families are uprooting their stylish existence to come and live in a country that materialistically can't compare.
What is it about Israel that is pulling them?
Living in America (or Johannesburg for that matter) is like living in a big vat of toffee. Toffee is yummy; it is soft and sweet and tastes great. It's oh so comfortable to lazily float in its thick gooey embrace, surrounded by delightful smells. When you are hungry, just open your mouth and partake in the most delicious of treats. But the extravagance of living in toffee can wear thin. After a while the sugary taste becomes sickly sweet. The thick texture cloys in the throat, and you find yourself stuck in the sticky morass. It is extremely hard to climb out of the smooth walls of the vat, so much easier to just sink back in and indulge.
That is why coming back to Israel after a visit to America is so refreshing. It's like a cathartic detoxification after a massive binge. Israel is unpretentious; what you see is what you get. Struggling for survival, Israel doesn't play games. And despite the constant threat of war, terrorism, demonization by the world press, water shortages and no lack of other problems, Israel is flourishing. Just look at what we've accomplished in merely 60 years: Israel is one of the world leaders in hi-tech, our army is top notch, and our democracy, economy, technology and medical expertise easily match Europe and America.
Israel is the land of opportunity – and I'm not talking about business opportunity, although this does abound in Israel too. I'm talking about spiritual opportunity. Israel is a land where every Jew is connected to each other. Despite tremendous cultural, religious and social differences, there is an underlying thread that connects us all. The recent war in Israel's south is a perfect example. While our soldiers fought, entire communities mobilized to bring food and supplies to army bases down south. Toys, treats and basic essentials were collected for families sitting in bomb shelters. Prayers and special learning sessions were held by yeshivas and seminaries. Children from war-torn southern communities were brought en-masse to the center of the country where they were treated like royalty. There was a tremendous sense of cohesion and solidarity in the country.
With all this opportunity for spiritual growth, it isn't that surprising that Jews from all over the world are coming to Israel. Instead of sinking into a sticky quagmire of toffee, Jews are choosing a better life for themselves.
When the Aliyah planes come I'm literally bawling, tissues clutched in my hand, while my husband looks at me incredulously. I cry because despite my ramblings I am aware that leaving it all behind still requires a sacrifice, and I'm overwhelmed at the courage of people who do so.
It's not easy to live in Israel, but this is truly the only place Jews should be. I'm so thankful that we have a country to come to; that I'm alive to witness the biblically-promised "ingathering of the exiles" to this sun-soaked, spiritually shining, magnificently beautiful God-blessed land.
And when you come, no doubt I will be there, crying out of joy, and welcoming you home.
(23) A. Kramer, April 24, 2020 11:07 AM
Terrific and Inspirational
Excellent writing, totally puts into perspective the specialness of Israel, what we have given up to live here, and how worthy it all is. Well done
(22) Alice, February 5, 2019 11:01 AM
Wow
Excellent article, well written and emotional. Makes me just want to jump on a plane and make Aliya.
(21) coming soon I hope, April 2, 2011 6:54 AM
Please pray for our family to return to Israel.
(20) Mallory, October 16, 2009 3:14 PM
Thank you for this article. My husband and I are considering Aliyah right now and this confirms every thought I've had about the difference between the US and Israel. This only increases my desire to make Aliyah.
(19) Dave, October 4, 2009 2:57 AM
I know of no Hebrew lineage...
...But I feel so drawn to Israel and feel in my heart of hearts that I am to go. I can't explain it and it makes NO sense on any level of logic. I am not from the tribe of Judah, or any other tribe that I'm aware even though my mother is absolutely convinced we are descended from a line of Sephardic "Jews", even though there is no direct proof of this. Regardless, I am led to go there but since I have no proof of being "Jewish", I have put the brakes on, but they aren't "holding"...I will go and Yah will open the doors for this gentile.
(18) Olina, May 30, 2009 11:47 AM
nice analogy
I really liked the comparison of America being like living in taffy. It is nice to be in comfort, but it can make you spiritually sick because comfort allows no room for growth. You become out of shape and are not getting the nutrients you need.
(17) Rachel Uzvolk, May 15, 2009 2:25 AM
What an inspiring article. Its wonderful to read how despite all the hardships, home is home. It IS difficult to understand how people who can see all the antisemitic threats happening daily, are still being covered in their toffee. Good for you - for your eloquence and exhuberance.
(16) Rita Lewis, May 6, 2009 8:02 AM
Well done. The writer's enthusiasm is infectious.
I think most people would come if they didn't have commitments and family to worry about. Your writer makes it so tempting and worth morth than a cursory thought.
(15) Merle, May 5, 2009 2:47 PM
wow keep up the amazing writing
Mandy kol hakavod,you make us proud to be living here in eretz.
(14) Ande, April 30, 2009 4:34 AM
Going back to U.S. for a visit
You managed to articulate my feelings! I made Aliyah only 18 months ago and went back to the states once. After a few days I wanted to change my flight and come back sooner. It is hard here and I wonder every day how I will make it financially and will I have to go back. But I have no doubt where I want to be, where I should be, and where I belong-here in Israel despite how hard it is!!
(13) Anonymous, April 29, 2009 9:28 AM
For Ruth Housman
THANK YOU for your perspective.
(12) Beverly Kurtin, April 28, 2009 8:07 PM
Attitude!
Wow! What an amazing great attitude. Thanks for your perspective.
(11) avi, April 28, 2009 5:22 PM
my dream
i just turned 21 and i too am planning on getting up, leaving everything behind by the summer of next year. it is scary. but when i read a beautiful piece like this i kno everything will be ok. thank u!! thank u!! thank u!!
(10) Avraham, April 28, 2009 8:52 AM
You summed it up!
Dear Mandy, What a great and appropriate article. Israel has it's pull, especially its people (and family). Keep up the great writing.
(9) Rachael, April 28, 2009 3:51 AM
We are all struggling together as Am Yisrael
wow - i almost have the same story- i made aliya at 23 when i was already engaged to someone here, and now i live on a yishuv with 6 buses a day (better than 3!), and hitchhiking to work is the norm. im still adjusting...it's definately hard coming from america where i had everything i wanted... but today as the siren rang for yom hazikaron in rami levi, )as i stood next to a palestinian that had just packed my bags for me)....i cried as i felt the unity of all jews here in israel that all are struggling together...something you won't feel in america!
(8) Anonymous, April 26, 2009 6:24 PM
VERY DIFFICULT LIVING IN ISRAEL!!!!!
I have lived in Israel for 15 years & find it extremely difficult. Thank G-d, I have two wonderful synagogues which I love & a great circle of friends. This is what keeps my incentive to remain in Israel. I married an Israeli woman over 25 years ago & have had a very difficult marriage from the very beginning. There are many cultural differences, but I really got messed up in this marriage. Being a very gentle American, it is extremely difficult to be married to a very tough Israeli. There are also gentle Israelis. Not all Israelis are like this, but in general the Israelis are very tough. When I first came to Israel as a tourist, I also saw all the good in Israel & in the people & I still see good in a lot of the people, but I also see more objectively & admit that there are many problems in Israel & many cultural differences. Before I came to Israel as a tourist over 25 years ago, people who have been to Israel warned me not to live in Israel & marry an Israeli, but I refused to listen. I regret my decision until today that I didn't finish college because making a living is extremely difficult aside from my difficult marriage.
(7) esther, April 26, 2009 5:58 PM
wow amazing
i feel like i wrote this myself...the words are identical to my thoughts. i love you israel and i will be home one day<3
(6) zipporah, April 26, 2009 5:17 PM
ALIYAH !
Dear Mandy ! I am a Cape Town Gal living for the past 30 years in Toronto, Canada. I have yet to visit beautiful Israel, and I will b"h. A few years ago I had a dream and in the dream the voice seemed to whisper in my ear "ALIYAH" I do not speak Hebrew and at the time asked my Rabbi the meaning of the word. I know the dream is a clear message and time will tell! Thank you for sharing your story, I may just look you up one day !! Shalom
(5) David Morris, April 26, 2009 1:14 PM
Beautiful & evocative article
Beautiful & evocative article - reminds me why I came here 20 years ago and why I still love it so much, and have never looked back.
(4) Anonymous, April 26, 2009 10:21 AM
very touching
(3) Jimmy Fink, April 26, 2009 9:37 AM
Thanks
Thanks for understanding and there are many that want to come but because of regulations and rules we cannot. Jim in ARK
(2) ruth housman, April 26, 2009 9:23 AM
knee deep in toffee
Many years ago I went to Israel and I was begged, as a teenager, about to start college in Toronto, to forget those plans and to remain. It was a pull for me and I considered and reconsidered many times. I am aware as I write this of the word Siddur, that aural connect within "reconsider". Why did I return to Toronto? I was an unhappy teenager seeking roots and meaning from life. I didn't have a strong pull to return to Toronto, and the pull towards Israel was deep. But something got me back on that plane, and I wasn't happy through those long university years. I was still searching. It has taken me a long time to find roots and the "routes" traveled were many, bringing me here, to Boston, where I have a beautiful, growing family and have found meaning and happiness. But there are deep problems here, too. There is poverty, there is cruelty, there are problems of inequity and inequality. I fight for civil rights. I fight for the environment. Life isn't a bowl of toffee or caramel. I think, wherever we land, if we are truthful to what's there to be healed, we can find it, everywhere. It's that notion of tikkun olam. I certainly find it here, and I love Boston. I love this time of cherry trees and blooming lilacs. I love the fact that a River runs through it. I haven't lost my love for Israel. I visited recently and felt so pulled to Jerusalem and elsewhere. I felt the vibrancy of all the Biblical stories and yes, there was a rootedness here, that made me feel also I had come home. Perhaps it's possible to have more than one home. I know it's possible for me, experiencing as I do, massive synchronicity that is daily, to "live in two places", in the here and now and in the "hear" and now, because what's going on with this astonishment of beshert is taking me to places I never dreamed about, towards thinking about life in profound ways, and in finding myself "with God" in all that I do, as if I am partnered in life. I think there is a unity to ALL life and that unity is also expressed in all environments. So I find my way to Jerusalem right here in Boston. We have desert, we have oases, and as I have said, a River runs through it all. ruth
(1) Ari Enkin, April 26, 2009 8:49 AM
Amazing Article! Thank you! Ari Enkin