Forgiving the Kapo

How to overcome your pain to forgive someone who has hurt you.

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(4) Anonymous, September 17, 2021 5:05 AM

Not a good example or definition of forgiveness

The kapo mentioned in this story did not ask forgiveness nor did he demonstrate remorse, at least as the story is told. The store owner did a remarkable thing by not bearing a grudge, but this is not "forgiveness" The christian concept of forgiveness is very different than the Jewish concept. A Christian would say he forgives someone for their evil ways. He would even say he forgives Nazis for what they did, even if he himself was not a victim of the Nazis. But this is not how Jews see it. If the evildoer does not show remorse nor repent and does not ask his victim DIRECTLY and personally for forgiveness with sincerity, THERE CAN BE NO FORGIVENESS. There can only be a letting go, which is not forgiveness.

(3) Roza E, September 15, 2021 1:37 PM


FORGIVING an Enemy or Person who has caused you harm,. Can be a Difficult thing. It takes a Strong & Godly person to forgive Atrocities & Hurtful deeds... I Try my best to do same.... The HOLOCAUST to me is An Unforgivable SIN..

(2) Steve schwartz, September 14, 2021 11:59 PM


did the kapo ask for forgiveness?

(1) Alan S., September 14, 2021 10:20 PM

Have an easy fast Rabbi Sytner.

Your weekly videos are truly excellent, but no one can bat 1.000. Your like at 0.999. As another famous Jew says, Pretty, pretty Good.
Unless I missed something, when and where did the kapo ask for forgiveness from the factory owner? In my humble opinion, I don't think this is the story to illustrate that bearing a grudge is just unneeded baggage. Had the kapo recognized the man he beat decades earlier, and asked for forgiveness, then this story would merit the issue you portrayed.

Anonymous, September 15, 2021 1:57 PM

He did it for Hashem and for himself

The factory owner did not forgive the kapo for the kapo's sake, he did it for Hashem and for himself. Because the factory owner was a good person who realized that he only wanted to do Hashem's will in any given situation and he understood that Hashem would have wanted him to bring more holiness into the world and to enable one more person to observe Shabbos.

Alan S., September 15, 2021 2:50 PM

I am not a learned person...

and I can't know that this is what Hashem thinks or would want. I do not think this is a situation of bringing more holiness in to the world by permitting another person to observe Shabbos. Would a person as evil as this kspo was/is really observe Shabbos? Would the most humble of men, Moshe, do this?


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