Daniel Kravitz owns Denver's Home Again Furniture and, like he says, you never know who will walk in the door. Saying only that he toned down the language a bit, Kravitz tells the story of his encounter with a unique customer:
“I receive a phone call answering a classified advertisement I placed to sell a black bedroom set for $250. During the conversation the young man on the other end of the line says he has only $700 – and do I have enough furniture in my store to furnish his whole apartment?
"I ask how big his apartment is. Turns out in addition to the bedroom set, he needs a dinette, a sofa, tables and a lamp. I say, if you’re not picky, I can furnish the apartment for $700.
"He didn’t show up until the next day.
"A man walks in, shocking in appearance. He’s a skinhead. Tall. 6’2”. Trim. In his early 20s. Sleeveless T-shirt. Dark pants. Doc/Martin boots [made in England, very popular with the subculture, punk rockers, skinheads, etc.].
“On his arm are tattoos. I cannot help but notice what they say: Kill N***ers and Jews. I realize right away who this individual is.”
Are you Dan? We spoke on the phone yesterday. Do you still have the black bedroom set?
“I say: ‘You’re the young man who says you have $700 to furnish your apartment.' I show him the bedroom set. We walk around the store. I can give you this sofa, and these tables . . . in 20 to 30 minutes we figure out what he wants. I throw in some dishes – glad to get rid of them.
“We get back to my counter and desk. I write up a receipt, including the inventory and the regular prices. The total comes to about $1,000, which I discount down to $700. I hand him the receipt for him to sign on the bottom. He looks over the receipt and says, ‘Boy, you really gave me a big discount.’
“I say: ‘That’s the deal.’”
You won’t get in trouble for discounting this much?
“No, it's my own business.”
I really appreciate it.
“I say: 'I’m a man of my word,' and he pays in cash. I help him load the furniture onto a pickup truck. We work up a sweat. When we we're done, I ask him whether he would like to have a Coke, or something else cold to drink. I have no other customers and have time to sit with him. So I give him a can of soda, take one myself.
“Now, this whole time, I kept observing him to see whether he was carrying a gun or a knife. You see that kind of tattoo – he’s not a choir boy.
“When we loaded his furniture his shirt lifted up, and I saw there was no weapon in his pocket. I felt comfortable he didn’t have a weapon.
“So I say: ‘I couldn’t help but notice your tattoos. Do you really believe that?’”
Hell yes I do.
“Have you ever hurt anybody?”
Yes.
“How many blacks and Jews do you know?”
I don’t need to know any. I know they’re bad. Blacks are trying to take over the white women. Jews are controlling the banks and the government.
“I say: ‘I hate to tell you – I disagree with your propaganda. I grew up in Park Hill around a lot of black people. Unless you know somebody you can’t make judgments about a whole culture.’
“I saw that he was not connected to what I said. So I say: ‘I bet you don’t talk to your mother and father – if my son had the tattoos on his arms that you have, I wouldn’t talk to my son. I don’t think you talk to your parents.’”
No, I don’t.
“I realized I hit a nerve.
“The next thing I say: ‘It wasn’t that many years ago that your mother held you in her arms, and she loves you. I’m a parent. I know that your parents are hurt and miss you, and don’t approve of your ways.’
“Then I say: ‘I want to share with you . . . I’m Jewish.’”
No you’re not.
“Why would I lie to you about that?"
You don’t look like a Jew.
“What does a Jew look like?”
Not like you.
“I point to my front door and show him my mezuzah, and tell him that Jews put it on their doorposts.
“And I have a siddur, so I open it up and say: ‘See, this is Hebrew.’
“I show him my store hours and say: ‘Notice, I’m closed on the Sabbath. I live as a Jew.'
“'What you think of Jews is not right. I pray with people who have numbers on their arms. You're part of a group of people who believe that the Holocaust didn’t happen. Not only did I lose family members, I pray with people who have numbers on their arms.'”
No, it's a Holohaux.
“'Absolutely not true. You know what? I think you’re a nice guy. I know by some of the things you’ve said to me how appreciative you are that I gave you a good deal. I know that your mother and father raised you with good values. Why you are a part of the neo-Nazis, I have no understanding.'
“'One of two things is going to happen to you. You’ll end up dead, or you’ll end up in prison and some huge bubba is going to take you for his wife. You need to think about what you’re doing. These are the only two possible paths if you keep on doing what you're doing.'
“'You told me you’ve hurt people. Do you want to hurt me?'”
No. You’ve been nice to me.
“'I’ve only been nice to you because you gave me an opportunity to be nice to you. You hurt people you don’t even know because of the color of their skin or their religion. You need to think about that. The people you hang around with don’t care if you’re in jail or dead. But your mother and father do care.'
“Then another customer walks in.
“'Listen, I can’t talk more now, but if you want to talk to me more I’ll be glad to talk to you. I want you to think about what I’ve said to you because everything I’ve said is true.'
“I didn’t know what he thought. But he came in with the prejudice that Jews are greedy and money-grabbing. He had to realize, here’s a Jew who just gave him a really good deal, helped him load his truck and sweated with him. I think what hit him was when I said: ‘It’s not long ago that your parents held you in their arms.’ He left.”
Months later, maybe a year later, he came back to Kravitz’s store.
“He says to me: ‘Do you remember me?’
“I say: ‘Of course.’"
At this point in the retelling, Kravitz tears up.
“He was dressed completely different. His hair was grown out – no more shaved head – normal hair. He didn’t look like a skinhead. He was wearing a long-sleeve shirt, jeans and sneakers. He looked like a whole different person.
“I ask: ‘Did you reconnect with your parents?’
“‘Yes I have.’
“He says: ‘I need to give you an apology. I realize now how offensive my tattoos were to you and how hurtful they are. I can’t afford it now – but I’m going to have those tattoos removed.'
“He gave me a hug and I’ve never seen him again.”
Reprinted from The Unexpected Road
(32) Alexander E Gibson, January 22, 2021 7:53 PM
Whos cutting onions in here?
That's such a good hearted representation of who we are as a people, and to the hate filled people out there it's never too late to change your ways. This is how you set a good example, leading with love.
(31) Esther Mina, January 22, 2021 1:48 AM
Wow. This is incredible, thank you so much for sharing!
(30) Avie Shapiro, January 21, 2021 9:56 PM
Surprise ending!
Great story. But Rabbi Goldberg ONLY tells great stories!
(29) Anonymous, January 21, 2021 4:45 PM
As a holocaust survivor I am learning to speak to our enemies
I got very emotional and admire your intelligence and patience, we need to follow you and explain that most of Jews are nice, like every other nation there are few exceptions. kol hakavod
(28) Raphael Green, January 21, 2021 4:45 PM
Actions give credence and clarity to words
Thanks
(27) Karen Renee Mangham, January 21, 2021 11:13 AM
I have had this happen to me
When I was in school my mother would always tell me it is more important to educate than to hate. She was right ! I had a friend who realized I was Jewish and was shocked..long story short...I educated as my mother taught me and he realized his ways were wrong!!
(26) Karla, January 19, 2021 5:38 PM
A story for the world to hear and live. Thank you for making my day sing.
I wish these stories of kindness were more visible!
(25) Zahava One, January 18, 2021 11:42 PM
Great Great Story
So I'm enjoying reading this almost enitirely but then t dawns on me. A brave, intelligent person decides to take on a huge challenge.
How many times have the rest of us had this chance and missed it? I'd love to be more brave and brighter and better. At the same time, I do the best with what I have, I have a great memory but not a way with words. I guess we have to be open to these situtations.
Lastly, be careful what we wish for. Courage is great, but I wouldn't want to be tested in a horrible way.
(24) cinda schuster, January 18, 2021 10:03 PM
Beautiful!
This story gives me hope?
(23) Anonymous, January 18, 2021 5:59 AM
Amazing story
I have gotten into online arguments with countless anti semites over the last few years. As someone who does marketing & messaging for a living I decided to collect all the anti Semitic conspiracy allegations and refute them in a future show on my Youtube channel. I have surpassed a hundred separate allegations I have refuted.I was not & am not sure how to preface this particular episode and am open to suggestions. Should people be confrontational or more of a soft approach like this man has done when answering anti Semitic allegations online?
Ronit, January 19, 2021 9:04 AM
Link?
Would you mind sharing a link to this youtube channel?
(22) Jane Moxon, January 18, 2021 1:54 AM
I enjoyed reading the story
That was a beautiful story. Very satisfying. I loved the way the questions and comments led the young man on a journey of self discovery and eventually healing.
(21) Julie posch, January 17, 2021 11:38 PM
Absolutely ??
(20) adam, January 17, 2021 10:31 PM
EXCELLENT STORY
THIS IS HUMAN NATURE IF YOU TALK TO THEM WITH RESPECT THEY LISTEN. VERY GLAD TO SEE THAT THE GUY LISTENED AND CHANGED ITS LIFE FOR BETTER.
(19) Bill Brudenell, January 17, 2021 9:28 PM
This is very powerful!
Kindness like this, is the most powerful medicine for what ails our world!
(18) Susanne Fleming, January 17, 2021 9:12 PM
Love is Universal..
Thank you for sharing! Man sees the outward appearance, God sees the heart!
(17) Robin Rebbhan, January 17, 2021 8:57 PM
Nice article
Really nice article. Killing hatred with kindness and love for fellow man.
(16) Ed Pollan, January 17, 2021 8:03 PM
It's a good story it might work but I would not bet on it
Bonnie, January 19, 2021 12:50 AM
Truth and kindness
Made a difference....to this one man......He changed his way of thinking and behaviour by a kind jesture of a Jew ......wish someone could of gotten to Hitler before his murderous campaign .........Remember one sinner can do much damage........somebody is sleeping well tonight because of this turn-around.
(15) Jonathan Bergman, January 17, 2021 7:31 PM
A mitzvah can change a world
A kind act at a difficult moment can melt a heart frozen with isolation and grief This Tzadik knew this person had not walked though his door by chance It was an opportunity to rise above his animal reaction and reach for the sky into the field of Light of The Creator to transform the everyday muck into good soil to plant the best seed
(14) Elaide Gahn, January 17, 2021 7:30 PM
The Answer to Someone's Prayer
A God Encounter of the Finest Kind!
(13) J~Mama, January 17, 2021 6:41 PM
What a Mentsch!
Thank you Mr. Kravitz! Thank you for your vision, wisdom, patience and Mentsch heart. Your willingness to shine your Yiddishe Cupp for an clearly recognized enemy and give such kindness, grace and love brought our entire world to a better place at once. Your recognition and gentle re-education of the aching heart of that once lost, misguided child and help him find home and heart again ... Yashir Koach!
(12) Tara Gray, January 17, 2021 6:17 PM
My story
I'm glad to read more of these stories. I was very much like that skinhead. I spent years in the skinhead movement and had done lots of bad things. To be honest the reason I got out of it is I started a family and I wanted to protect my kids from the government. As I got a bit older my hatred did subside a lot but I held an extreme dislike of Jews. Years later , divorced and looking to date again I met a man through a dating site(for motorcycle enthusiasts, as I loved to ride on the back). In the man's profile it said he spoke Hebrew. He didn't look like a religious man at all so I shrugged it off as there were a lot of white nationalist bikers and he put it on there as a joke. On the night we met I asked him about it and he simply said he indeed spoke Hebrew. As we dated I found out while he thinks his grandmother was a Jew but his parents were Russian Orthodox he had a calling to Judaism and while he didn't convert he tried to follow the Torah as best as he could. I slowly started picking up the Torah myself and listening while he was doing online teachings. Fast forward a few years we are happily married and trying to follow the mitzvot, only eating kosher ,Shabbat ect and would very much love to convert . Hoping it will happen , the only trouble we are having is living rural and it would be very hard to get to Vancouver all the time for the process ( especially since I'm scared of driving far). Hashem willing it will happen
Tova Saul, January 18, 2021 10:10 AM
Good luck!
You have a wonderful inner compass and sense of adventure. If you come to visit Israel, contact me, and I can help your visit in many ways for free. tovasaul@yahoo.com
(11) Anonymous, January 17, 2021 5:43 PM
My eyes filled with tears upon reading this touching story. I suppose everyone can change and all it takes sometimes is a few carefully chosen words to reach deep into someone’s heart. Unfortunately, there are so many people who hate for no reason and it’s so difficult to change the way people think. If this story is true , it’s a wonderful thing.
Chaim, January 18, 2021 3:29 PM
Verifying
It seems too good to be true, but I know both Mr. Kravitz and Rabbi Goldberg and I can verify that it's true.
(10) Julie Thum, ABR, ASP, GRI, PMN, SRES, January 17, 2021 5:23 PM
Response to article
We need many more stories like that & they need to be put out there for all to see
(9) John Barrell, January 17, 2021 3:27 PM
I’m really choked up.
To keep one’s cool. To confront without being aggressive, to help someone reflect through empathy. These things take courage and to see the good even when it’s not so obvious. It reminds me of a story told of Rav Moshe Feinstein ztl, when a black guy leaned into his open window and stole his radio. ‘Wait, you forgot something’, called the rov. The guy stopped still. ‘If you’re going to sell it you need the box’. The guy came back into the apartment. ‘I guess you don’t have a job’, said the Rav .’ No’. ‘Hold on ,’ said the Rav. He phoned someone, spoke in Yiddish. He wrote a name and address. ‘Here, be at this address on Monday, 9am’ The man left with the address and radio. He turned up for the interview, got the job. Every week the Rav would phone up to see how he was doing. He worked well, got a promotion, worked his way up. Eventually he bought the company. He told this story at Rav Moishe’s levoya when someone said to him, ‘excuse me, but why are you here?’
(8) Paul Rein, January 17, 2021 2:55 PM
Not always so easy
Wouldn’t it be nice if it was always so easy. Mr. Kravitz had the good fortune of being one on one with someone who needed something. When the neo-Nazi’s get in a group, then something else happens. I’m afraid this interaction/conversion is the exception, not the rule... sadly.
(7) Bonnie, January 16, 2021 2:47 PM
One life matters....
Beautiful, happy ending......brave store owner not afraid to tell the truth...saved one soul corrupt in his thinking........Faith without works is dead being alone. The store owner acted on his faith by sacrificing his price..helped this man load up, gave him a refreshment drink and spoke the honest truth ....all were vital important to have this man go home and think about the whole episode, only to come back a changed man and most important his way of thinking about Black people and the Jewish people. Reconnected with parents and likely his community ....with a beautiful changed life......all because of the power of words. God blesses us so we can bless others. Shalom, I pray for the peace of Jerusalem
(6) David Kaden Asher, January 13, 2021 6:41 PM
Inspiring
This is so inspiring.. I am not Jewish. I believe that no matter the race, or rreligion, age etc ; we all matter. We are created by the One. By G-d. This article show the power of love can trtransform. Love is a light in the soul. A light which we should let out with how we connect with others and the world. The store owner showed his light and help dispel darkness when the neo-nazi came back changed. Yes , show love in the face of hate. By doing so, it says love is lot stronger.
(5) Ester Scheiner, January 12, 2021 2:23 PM
Wau! So courageous and an intelligent way of handling this situation! So smart! Mr. Kravitz really spoke to his heart! Beautiful!
(4) Morton Friedman, January 12, 2021 12:56 AM
What great kindness and superb self-control by Mr. Kravitz
(3) John Harrison Jr, January 12, 2021 12:50 AM
Oh, the lies!
It's such a shame that many people would spend more energy believing in a lie than take actual time to research any issue to know the truth first. What Germany did to the jewish people was atrocious beyound belief. Anyone who attempts to LIE and state it didn't happen should be so ashamed about themselves. I will always pray that any action against any people, no matter who they are, never is ever repeated. I know why the jewish people are targeted for discrimination by so many, but a day is coming when all people will see that the jewish people are a special people. In the last days, when God wraps His arms around them and says "Welcome Home", all people will realize they have always been His special people. From the days He brought them out of Egypt, He claimed them as His people, and declared He would be their God! FOREVER!
(2) Henry Afamefuna Ilona, January 12, 2021 12:23 AM
Great Article.
One gesture of little kindness, can change an entire life.
(1) Michael, January 11, 2021 8:26 PM
What about today?
Wow. Very thought-provoking....inspiring and courageous approach by Daniel Kravitz.
Seems the book was published in 2012....I'd be curious to hear Rabbi Goldberg's thoughts on how he'd apply it nowadays....
Sondra, January 17, 2021 8:38 PM
What about today?
Agreeing with the person who questioned the date of the book. Times were quite different in 2012. I wonder in today’s world with all the fake news, social media, and congress people being insurgents against democracy itself, what opportunities there might be for this kind of in person interaction.