If you're committed to encouraging others, ask yourself, "What can I say to this person to encourage him?"

Asking ourselves the right questions will enable us to bring out the best in ourselves and the best in others. Your brain searches its database to come up with a potential answer. A successful salesman asks himself, "What can I say to motivate this person to buy what I want to sell him?" A person interviewing for a job will ask himself, "What can I say to show that I have the qualifications to be successful on the job?"

Because you know that everyone needs encouragement and that you can greatly enhance someone's life by saying words of encouragement, train yourself to automatically ask, "What can I say to this person to encourage him in beneficial ways?"

  The more frequently you ask yourself this question, the more experience and expertise you will gain in this area.