When you consult someone to increase your happiness, know what you want, and ask for it. It's common to ask for what one doesn't want. "I don't want to be depressed." "I don't want to be so miserable." This way you might end up speaking more about depression and misery than on mastering joy.

You might need to discuss the roots and causes in order to change what can be changed. But keep your main focus on joy, happiness, and self-mastery. If this is what you really want, keep your focus on what you can do in thought and deed to create it.