Shyness, which might seem like the opposite of approval-seeking, is really based on the need for approval. A shy person is afraid others will disapprove or look down at him if he speaks up.

If your goal is to seek wisdom or to correct a wrong-doing, you have no need to be shy. By overcoming your need for approval, you will overcome your shyness. Ask yourself, "Do I have a right to speak up now? What exactly am I afraid of, and would that really be so awful?"