Your feelings are all temporary. When you are in an unresourceful state, you can calmly and objectively say to yourself, "I am in an unresourceful state right now. Let me think of ways to access a more resourceful state." The more frequently you access serene states, joyous states, empowered states, humorous states, enthusiastic states, and creative states, the more likely these will be your real, spontaneous, automatic feelings. This takes practice. Enjoy the entire process.