Growing Each Day by Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski

Cheshvan 7
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And you shall love Hashem your God ... (Deuteronomy 6:5)
And you shall love your neighbor as yourself... (Leviticus 19:18).

Both of these statements are positive commandments. We might ask: How can a commandment demand that we feel something? Since love is an emotion, it is either there or it is not there.

The Torah does not hold that love is something spontaneous. On the contrary, it teaches that we can and should cultivate love. No one has the liberty to say: "There are some people whom I just do not like," nor even, "I cannot possibly like that person because he did this and that to me."

We have within us innate attractions to God and to other people. If we do not feel love for either of them, it is because we have permitted barriers to develop that interfere with this natural attraction, much as insulation can block a magnet's inherent attraction for iron. If we remove the barriers, the love will be forthcoming.

The barriers inside us come from defects in our character. When we improve ourselves, our bad character traits fall away, and as they fall away, we begin to sense that natural love which we have for others and for God.

Today I shall...

try to improve my midos (character traits), so that I will be able to feel love for God and for my fellow man.

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Comments (1)

(1) Anonymous, October 16, 2018 7:03 PM

The Lord God almighty if I may utter so allows free will. Nonwithstanding still people are guided to take care of their neighbour where ever one may find themselves. If one cannot help then at least pray for the other person and try not to harm the other person. This is regardless of gender status/preference, sexuality, race, ethnicity, religion, religious sect, culture, class and background, poor, rich, powerful, weak, ability, married, single, with children, childless or if any slight was done between one another in which forgiveness certainly helps. Forgiveness done alone helps to life off a burden, forgiveness done with another but not with the other concerned party is helpful, forgiveness done with the other person is one step agreement in your relationship with them. Fable/parable: a person was in the countryside carrying a heavy load. The person came across another person. The other person proposed that the person could carry the load. So they walked together but after a while the burden was telling. They then decided to leave the load at that spot and walk together taking on the burden of one another. They walked on feeling free and happy with each other but more so with their environment that they now took notice of. Thank you.


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