Act Your Age

I just turned 50 and here's my advice.

Click here if you are unable to view this video.

Comments (42)

(42) Adina Pantea, February 5, 2011 9:55 PM

I simply love your wisdom!

(41) Anonymous, January 11, 2011 6:04 PM

how do you act at 60

i just turned 60 I don't feel 60 so you say act your age how am suppose to act at 60.

(40) Tamar, October 15, 2010 1:11 PM

Love your Wisdom--and it was great to meet you in person!

Love your wisdom and thank you for sharing it! It was fun to run into you last night, Thur Oct 14, in the Old City. I was the one who stopped you to say hello about 7:30 PM or not too far from Aish. You looked just like you do on the internet, to recognize you amongst the crowds when surely I was not looking for you was pretty surprising.

(39) Phyllis, October 14, 2010 12:57 AM

my inner child

I am 77 years old. While trying hard to be a responsible, helpful, advice-giving adult, mostly, my inner child simply wants to play, explore the world, and enjoy every last minute remaining to me.

(38) Ayalah Haas, October 10, 2010 4:02 PM

"Ad 120 Shana"

Happy Birthday! And thank you for demonstrating that people of every age have something valuable to offer the world.

(37) Sarah Segura, October 10, 2010 10:25 AM

act your age or accept your age

Shalom Lori. Happy birthday. I quite liked your video. I also liked Sam Annis' comment. 81 and keeping fit, looking after themself. Great! Just be thankful you are not in a wheelchair etc.! I am 57, hair grey and I die it mahogany red! I am taking an interest in hiking and intend to take up horse riding again! You are living to the full your age with the physical fitness you have probably enjoyed all your life. That is just as much acting your age as those who have not looked after themselves. Lori might like to expand on her meaning just to make it completely clear what acting one's age is really about.

(36) Miriam, October 7, 2010 11:01 PM

May you live to 120!

Happy Birthday dear Lori. I wish I could have danced at your party tonight, but this almost 60 year old RN is out of energy. Many blessings.

(35) Anonymous, October 7, 2010 8:44 PM

Mazal tov, at mea be ezrim!!! exellent advice, thank you!!

Mazal tov, at mea be ezrim!!! exellent advice, thank you!!

(34) Marlene Wiltshire, October 6, 2010 3:20 PM

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday Mrs Palatnik and may you be blessed to see many more birthdays! May you continue to bless us with your wisdom and advice. Thank you.

(33) sam annis, October 6, 2010 7:29 AM

I don't want to act my age.

If I acted my age I'd be ready to srettle into a wheelchair. My hair is all white but I color it because it gives me a psychological stimulant which make me feel younger. I play tennis, do 40 pushups every morning, and 100 situps on a parallel board. If I acted my age I would be in an old age home. I have never lost my sense of humor or an active mind, so don't tell me to act my age. I;ll be 81 next year.

(32) Anonymous, October 6, 2010 4:17 AM

Happy Birthday Lori!

Hashems' continued blessings!

(31) Sara, October 6, 2010 4:03 AM

Yom Huledet Sameach!

Happy Birthday. Not to downplay your being 50, but each day we are reborn again, and given a chance to love and enjoy life. Yes with maturity, but also with a joie de vivre and passion.

(30) Mitch, October 6, 2010 3:11 AM

Happy Birthday!

Thanks for all you've given the world! Happy Birthday! 'Til 120!

(29) Alan Drake Tyree, October 6, 2010 1:50 AM

Happy Birthday!

Happy 50th birthday Mrs. Palatnik. Just think, after all this time you've inspired me with your wisdom, before you gave me any advice. I'll try to take your first peice of advice to heart. Again happy 50th, and just to let you know, I'm turning the big three zero, this October 28th.

(28) Anonymous, October 5, 2010 10:46 PM

Way to go Lori,,,mazel tov,,,on making it to another year.

We all love you.

(27) Anonymous, October 5, 2010 10:23 PM

Happy Birthday Lori!

Wishing you another 50 years of heath and happiness.

(26) Keith, Woking. UK, October 5, 2010 9:20 PM


...Wow!... I'd never have thought it!.. Hey, have a really Happy Birthday, Lori, & thanks for your really meaningful videos.. Toda rabah!.. I hope you get masses of votes too! G-d bless & shalom.. Keith :)

(25) Nancy, October 5, 2010 8:50 PM

It keeps getting better.

Happy birthday, Lori! You, my dear, are wise beyond your years. I am 65 and I love having enough of life's experience to help and give meaningful advice to others.

(24) Paul, October 5, 2010 7:45 PM

Happy Birthday Lori !!

Happy Birthday Lori !! May your wishes come true !!

(23) Odelia, October 5, 2010 7:19 PM

Mazal Tov!

Happy Birthday Lori. Thanks for all the advice! May Hashem bless you to keep inspiring others.

(22) Carolyn, October 5, 2010 7:14 PM

Happy Birthday

Lori, I love you! You are so sensible and so amazing. I love your advice. I turned 50 a long time ago, and I don't mind acting my age at all. Thank you.

(21) eva, October 5, 2010 5:44 PM


Dear Lori, Happy Birthday. We have a Hungarian custom that on one's birthday - because they were given a gift by G-D, they in turn must give gifts to their family members. It's a very lovely custom - the focus is on what YOU have been given - another year...We watch your videos every week and greatly benefit from them. May you go from Chayil to Chayil. fondly, eva.

(20) Anonymous, October 5, 2010 4:57 PM

Happy Birthday Lori!

I agree with you Lori, parents shouldn't be dressing their little girls up in provocative clothes. That only spells trouble. I was in the check-out line with one customer in her late 60's was being very rude and loud about the lines. The customer in front of me, a girl about 8 was saying something to her mother about that rude other lady, and I heard the mother say to her child, having to wait in line teaches us to be patient. This made the rude 60 yr old even madder. The 20 something mother and her 8 yr old daughter had more wisdom and maturity than the 60 yr old woman. The terrible two's of a child throwing a fit should end when growing up, if one matures and acts their age. When we walk with God, he renews our youth, we can look younger and refresh, we have energy as in our youth. We are innocent in our thoughts, we have a simple and believing faith in God. However, we have matured in our character, and matured in knowing God. Lori, watching your videos for a while, you had that before 50. Enjoy your new discovers at 50 and on. We'll come back every week to learn and be inspired by you. Share the wisdom, were listening.

(19) Miryam, October 5, 2010 2:25 PM

Lori- You are amazing!

MAZAL TOV!!!!! Happy Birthday to a real Tzadeket. We all are so grateful to you for sharing your Jewish wisdom with us. I recognized you and we spoke at Ben Gurion airport last year when you were leading a women's group. I forward many of your videos to my large e-mail group. Stay well- Ad meah v'esreem! Miryam

(18) Guy Sutton, October 5, 2010 2:24 PM


Lori, what a wonderful time and marker in one's life. It is cute as just the other day Rabbi Schmidt told us about the Talmud and the 40 then 50 rules.... I am 45, suppose I have 1/2 of the wisdom under my belt! :) I wish you a wonderful birthday and many many blessings are sent your way, may Hesham bless you and be close to you and your family always..... Your friend, Guy

(17) Gedalyah, October 5, 2010 2:21 PM

Dear Lori - you're a delight! (Childlike vs. Childlish!)

Happy Birthday, dear Lori! I've always enjoyed your "mini-shows", mostly with your humour and definively your wisdom! There's none more to write. Mazal tov! Your just turned 70yr old fan and admirer.

(16) andria, October 5, 2010 12:53 PM

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday to you! May this year be filled with health and peace. I am very thankful for all of your advice and look forward to more every week!

(15) Moshe, October 5, 2010 12:19 PM

Happy 50th!

Always ready to listen to wisdom. I'm glad you can "officially" give it now, even though in my opinion you have been for awhile. I will turn 50 in 5 months. I pray that I will be able to use wisdom that will help others and still listen to others who provide it. B"H

(14) Anonymous, October 5, 2010 10:39 AM

UNTIL 120!

(13) Anonymous, October 5, 2010 9:57 AM

happy birthday lori!

may you continue to give us such great advice and wisdom! shanah tova and much love from israel.

(12) Anonymous, October 5, 2010 9:47 AM

To lovely Lori

with thanks for the lovely birthday card to yourself and all of us

(11) sandra, October 5, 2010 9:44 AM

happy birthday to me too !!

you must have read my thoughts - today I am 50 and feeling fine about it - each age brings its charm and 50 is good. young enough to do all the things I did at 40 but in a much more relaxed way, much more level headed. No more drama, I look forward to a relaxing pleasant time. And... a big NO to plastic surgery - Meryl Streep once said " how will people see my character - each line is a road map of my life and I love it"

(10) Brenda, October 5, 2010 9:29 AM

Mazeltov to you - may Hashem bless you until the age of 120 plus. I am over 50 in years, but feel very young - there are times that I act my age and there are times that I don't and I believe that one is only as old as one feels. Sure the years are catching up, but I don't think that one has to be frumpy in ones "old age". I believe in smiling and laughing and grandchildren and that keeps me young. That's my "thinking" - but mazeltov once again to you.

(9) G.M. Grena, October 5, 2010 3:44 AM

Lori Looks 30!!!

And she speaks with the wisdom of a 70-year-old, so I guess the numbers balance out in the end! I hope you had a wonderful & blessed birthday, Mrs. Palatnik!

(8) richard black, October 5, 2010 3:21 AM

happy birthday

My birthday is today.I watched your blog today.I.m older than you,by a decade and I really love the advice you gave....I needed to hear it ...thanx a million..Chazak

(7) Leslie, October 4, 2010 7:27 PM


Hi Lori, Thank you for keeping it real. I also turned fifty this year and, though I had assured myself that it was only a number; I do feel different in subtle ways. I'm not going to stop tinting my hair or using anti-aging moisturizers, but I do feel a different affinity towards life. I feel more of a commonality with other women now(perhaps because I never had children). I recently began menopause and my thoughts have changed quite a bit. I used to think that "old ladies" went through menoopause--while in my late forties I was in complete denial that I was approaching menopause. Now I embrace it as yet another stage of life. If life were compared to nature's changing seasons, I believe that I would be in the beginning of autumn. Interestingly, this is the first time that I have really enjoyed the fall. It used to seem that, after the leaves fel,l that the barren trees were clawing at a dark sky. Now I relish the crispness of the air and the beautiful color of the leaves and I know that in the winter the earth is renewing itself to put forth beautiful foliage for the next spring. And, therefore, I have come to the conclusion that after the autumn and winter of my own life, I will die and prepare for the transition of the next one. I enjoyed your video very much. And, on a more practical note, I agree with you about kids having to grow up too soon--they will miss so much. And, although I see nothing wrong with collagen injections, I see alot wrong with men and women who don't want to be called grandma and grandpa. Children and GRANDCHILDREN are a blessing. To not embrace one's age is to not embrace the fact that you have given more time to live. I didn't always think this way. I used to say, with a smile, that "after 30 you don't have to tell anyone your age". Friends would nod in agreement and smile. One day a stunning co-worker of mine in her late forties replied with "I'm proud of my age." I am grateful to have heard that statement as I am now proud to be 50!

(6) Tzip', October 4, 2010 4:46 PM

Happy Birthday~

Happy Birthday from a big fan! keep the advice coming!

(5) Anonymous, October 4, 2010 3:00 AM

I agree and happy birthday!!

I guess a lot of people just feel that if they look their age, they won't look attractive. It's an incorrect attitude, but I'm just trying to be objective and understand where these people are coming from by getting all this cosmetic surgery. In any case, I completely agree with these words of wisdom. Very well said, now we just have to get the message out to the wider population! In any case, happy birthday Mrs. Palatnik, and may you have many more birthdays to come!!

(4) Marco, October 4, 2010 1:22 AM

50th, the year of jubilee

I would like to share with you the happiness of celebrating my first 50th birthday just few days ago. My life, somehow, was surrounded by the Almighty´s protection and blessings. Now I learned a beautiful lesson regarding the meaning of the number 50 in the Scripture. As you may know, the Hebrew alef-bet (alphabetic characters) does not have any numbers, but all the numbers are built using the same characters as in the words. Additionally, every single character has a particular spiritual meaning. The Hebrew character NUN has the numeric value of 50, and represents the spiritual light in the man´s soul, and perpetual fidelity. NUN implies hope, redemption and our future resurrection, light in the darkness, spirit in our body. NUN means also prosperity, fish and eternal. For six years the land should be worked, but the seventh year should rest. This cycle should be repeated during seven times (49 years), but the 50th year should be declared as jubilee. In the year of jubilee (Lv., 25, 8-16) all the purchased land was returned to its original owner. The family´s heritage, then, in this way may still exist. After all, the land belongs to God and. Also, in the year of jubilee all the slaves must be free. This year of jubilee was announced by the sound of shofar. The shofar was originally used to guide the sheep in the way back to home. Joshua used the shofar before the ark of the covenant around Jericho (Jos 6.6). Jubilee is the end of slavery and the beginning of freedom, the end of oppression for getting place to happiness and real rejoicing. Shavuot) is celebrated in the 50th day after the seven weeks when Israel came out of Egypt (slavery) . The book of Isaiah, also, describes the messianic time, the last time, as a jubilee year (Is.61, 1-3). Now you may know why I rejoiced. Coming to this age means a lot to me, and I wished to share my happiness with all of you. Blessings to all of you.

(3) SusanE, October 3, 2010 6:24 PM

Happy Birthday Lori.

I like this poem : Warning' by Jenny Joseph. I believe it was the forerunner of the Red Hat Society. When I am an old woman I shall wear purple With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me. And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter. I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells And run my stick along the public railings And make up for the sobriety of my youth. I shall go out in my slippers in the rain And pick flowers in other people's gardens And learn to spit. You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat And eat three pounds of sausages at a go Or only bread and pickle for a week And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes. But now we must have clothes that keep us dry And pay our rent and not swear in the street And set a good example for the children. We must have friends to dinner and read the papers. But maybe I ought to practice a little now? So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple. >>>_______________________________<<< As I get older, I find that Age is a state of mind. I don't want to be seen as slow, or as needy. Seeing my reflections from the mirror or throught the camera lens, show my real-age self. But, looking out at the world through the same eyes, it seems as though I am still 35. I still have the energy and the passion for life and people. I hope I never 'act' my age. Hope you like the poem. Thank you for the advice.

(2) Cousin Renee, October 3, 2010 12:20 PM

Happy Birthday Lori

Happy Birthday Lori...No matter what your age, as long as I've know you, you've been an shining inspiration; you teach by example and your words (professionally and personally) always touch my heart. May Hashem continue to Bless you and Yaakov and your Beautiful Family with all His bounteous Blessings. Thank you for all you do to help others, myself certainly included. Love, Cousin Renee

(1) Anonymous, October 3, 2010 12:08 PM

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday,Lori. Many more. You are so right about acting our age.


Submit Your Comment:

  • Display my name?

  • Your email address is kept private. Our editor needs it in case we have a question about your comment.

  • * required field 2000
Submit Comment

Receive Weekly Spirituality Emails

Sign up to our Spirituality Newsletter.

Our privacy policy