Alone on Valentine’s Day

Judaism’s heightened sensitivity to others.

Comments (6)

(5) Anonymous, June 14, 2016 9:47 PM

I also dislike baby showers.

Baby showers are NOT a Jewish custom. I have been to 3 of them in my life, and have turned away when the mother to be opens up the gifts. If a woman is dealing with infertility/stillbirth/miscarriage, that woman should not have to attend a baby shower for anyone.

(4) Ms. Cute, February 15, 2016 10:07 PM


I'm not a Mother and I don't have a boyfriend (although that's nice) but I could honestly care less about this on Mother's Day and Valentine's Day, respectively. I am just ecstatic that I have my 93 year old Mother to love on Mother's Day and also my twin sister on Valentine's Day because she is my true friend. Just sayin'. It's not so 'bad'. Baruch Hashem. Lucky me.

(3) Anonymous, February 15, 2016 5:17 AM


The Torah is very specific in saying to not take up the holidays and traditions that are the norm of the society you are living in. This also goes for clothes and what ever may be "in" that is from that society. We must not loose are selves Trying to fit in to a foreign place/society. We are different and that's okay. It's how it's supposed to be. May we all return home soon, where we don't have to deal with these holidays. #LiveLoveIsrael

(2) Anonymous, February 14, 2016 5:44 PM

Beautiful Lori such important and wise advise to share awareness to another's sensitivities

(1) Anonymous, February 14, 2016 4:30 PM

No, these are most certainly NOT Jewish days.

Re: Valentine's Day. It is a Hallmark Holiday. Period. It's just another way for the retail industry to make more money. Re: Mother's Day/Father's Day. Ditto. For those people who are suffering, my heart goes out to all of you. Perhaps it would help you to remember that these "holidays" only last 24 hours. When they are over, we don't have to think about them again for another year. Also, if you have lost someone close to you please be good to yourself today.

Dvirah, February 14, 2016 6:40 PM

Christian Days

Actually, Valentine's Day is a holdover from Mediveal Christianity wherein Valentine is the patron saint of lovers. Like Halloween, this is one of the days that were so popular they survived secularization and have become, as you say, Hallmark days. But Lori is very right when she points out that they are rooted in Christian thought and practice.


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