Conflict Resolution

Screaming and yelling is not the Jewish way.

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Comments (9)

(8) Tammy Wellman, June 24, 2012 11:43 PM

Let's pray for each other

Lori, I have to confess I also have the same problem. I am praying for G-d to help me over come and be more self-controlled. My live has not been an easy one and I have a lot of physical pain daily BUT even that is NO EXCUSE for "Screaming and yelling". Please pray for me sister.

(7) Rosen, June 24, 2012 12:03 PM

avoiding raising our voices

Raising our voices at people, like people raising their voices at ourselves is really wrong on so many levels. It raises blood pressure on both sides. Plus, it is esp. hard when individuals with autism and austistic spectrum disorder (ASD) are yelled at because their auditory sensories are even more sensitive than a neuro-typical's. I wonder if a reasonable response to a screamer would be to try and calmly tell them, "please don't raise your voice at me." Looking back on the times people raised their voices at me, I feel like I would've wanted to tell them either to not raise their voices at me, or to use their indoor voice, or even say that they have a poor attitude, even though those latter 2 thoughts would likely inflame the situation further...

(6) Jody Kolmen, June 19, 2012 2:02 PM

thank you.

thank you Lori for your video. My mother told me the advice her father (my grandfather Edward) gave her. When I get angry or frustrated with someone, the best way to handle it is to walk away from the person and situation and let G-d take care of it from there.

(5) yacovah, June 19, 2012 1:24 PM

people need to go to anger management

(4) Miriam, June 18, 2012 2:31 PM


Thank you!

(3) Anonymous, June 17, 2012 2:03 PM

Thank you, Lori!

This message had great timing, thank you! Also, your sheitel looks beautiful!

(2) Alan S., June 17, 2012 10:13 AM

One additional comment. The circumstances of the meeting described by the Rebbitzen do not sound like the instances where a Bet Din would be involved to immediately resolve issues of poor party or meeting planning.

Anonymous, June 18, 2012 2:32 PM

Not immediately

but it would be involved regarding money back.

(1) Alan S., June 17, 2012 9:03 AM

Yasher Koach to the Rebbitzen. Now, if only some among us could learn from the message here. Yelling and screaming is often, sadly, the way of so many peoples, groups and nations. It shouldn't be the way of the Jewish people.


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