Donating a Kidney

Should you tell your parents?

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Comments (13)

(13) Yaakov Ben Shmuel, November 29, 2015 5:37 PM

At this point in time, I think as a parent,

I would want to daven for my son/daughter

and do Xtra mitzvos to merit them.

Yaakov Ben Shmuel

(12) Richard, August 28, 2015 2:31 PM

Before or after

We raised our 3 daughters to be self-sufficient. So, whatever they do with their lives is their choice. Afterwards is just fine for me.

(11) Bill Martin, August 28, 2015 5:55 AM

I am not sure our parents need to know at all. Why worry them. In addition, I enjoy your videos very much.

(10) Anonymous, August 28, 2015 12:50 AM

I 'd want to know beforehand

I would want to daven beforehand amd support her pre and post- operatively

(9) Anonymous, August 27, 2015 7:53 PM

depends on situation

I donated a kidney 2 1/2 years ago and did not tell my parents until after it was done. I knew that if I told them and they forbade me from donating, kibbud av v'am would come first and I would not be able to donate. I think age makes a difference here. I was 57 when I donated and my parents are in their 80s. On the other hand, if a child of mine would want to donate I would want to know so that I could support them and daven for them

(8) sylvia, August 27, 2015 6:34 PM

donating a kidney

I hope if my girl will do somethink like this she will come and ask me for at before and I want to make sure I am there for her and will help her

(7) Joyce, August 27, 2015 5:37 PM

may prove to be unwise to donate for our family

Since cancer is quite often an issue with our family, donating a kidney would have a serious caution. The knowledge ahead of such an operation would give the opportunity to put some facts into the mix.

(6) pamela, August 27, 2015 5:09 PM

A Mom with 2 Sons

Hi Lori,
As a very concerned mom and very involved in my sons' lives (one is 19, the other 22), I would definitely want to know if they were going in for surgery, major or minor.
If I were told after the fact, I would be disappointed, because I'd want to possibly be at the hospital and being informed of the procedure.
Also, if, G-d forbid, in the unlikely event something went very wrong, it would kill me that I wasn't there for my adult child.

(5) sandra, August 27, 2015 5:07 PM

I Would like to know on the last day so I could pray for all to go well for everyone involved.

(4) Anonymous, August 27, 2015 3:10 PM

Our son donated his kidney to his father, it was a most difficult period for all. But as a parent I would certainly want to know in advance, and not the night before. I would be offended if our son was doing something so great and he kept me in the dark about his actions.

(3) Christine, August 27, 2015 2:04 PM

December 2, 1980 I donated to my younger sister.

I donated to my younger sister December 1980. Everything is still, thank God, going well for each of us! Bless you for doing what you did!

(2) Nancy, August 26, 2015 11:53 AM

Lori, I would do exactly what you did.

IMO you handled that situation perfectly. If you had told your parents weeks before the surgery and then it had to be postponed, I'm guessing they would be very worried. However, if you had told them after the surgery was over they would have been upset about not knowing beforehand. Obviously I don't know your parents, so I am only speculating here. However, this is what I would have done in your situation.

(1) CarminRosenthal, August 23, 2015 10:20 AM

To tell or not to tell

As a parent, I have a right to know about the health and well being of my children, and also to be able to share this blessing of my child for saving an others life. Both child and the mitzvoth are a gift from G-D.

Continued blessings to you and your loved ones.


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