Don't Blame, Don't Complain: An Update

And now you can order your own band!

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Comments (21)

(18) Keith Dickter, May 12, 2020 3:32 PM


How do I order my don't complain bands?

(17) Jeffrey Harris, July 24, 2019 11:03 PM

Buy the band

Lori, where can i buy the band?.

(16) Sara Miller, December 8, 2016 3:55 PM

Don't blame, Don't complain band

Where can I order the Don't blame, don't complain bands?

Sara Miller

(15) Suri, November 30, 2016 3:21 AM

Truly Inspiring!!!

Thank you

(14) Paulina Kattan, July 2, 2012 3:31 AM


Wow! I'm soo impressed that you remembered the exact words i said!this year I won and I never imagined that I would be able to help and inspire others. Thank you soo much for an amazing experiance!

(13) Raisy, October 9, 2011 10:59 PM

Can you publish a list of 'winners'?

Hi Lori, I got the band and am working hard at this. I know this makes me sound like a baby, but how 'bout printing names of people who've held out for the greatest number of days? Or offering your CDs to those that make it to a certain amount of days w/o switiching? I need motivation--though I know the real prize is becoming a more content person. Thanks, Raisy

(12) cecile shore, September 16, 2011 1:57 AM


Lori, You really have aspecial way, of putting great messages accross. Your sincerity, is a special gift! Love Cecile

(11) Captain Carl, September 9, 2011 8:18 PM

What a great idea!!!

This will be much better than the rubber band I have been wearing on my wrist. This will be a permanent fixture on my left wrist, too. I see this as an eternal goal and reminder. Life and death are in the power of the tongue. One with true faith should never complain against ADONAI. Thanks for the great idea, Lori!!!

(10) Akiva, September 7, 2011 7:40 PM

Don't Blame Campaign

I think 21 days is too unrealistic. It is going to make people give up too quickly. Let's do maybe 1 week or 2 weeks.

(9) Mati, September 7, 2011 4:58 PM

If one doesn't complain....

...nothing would get changed for the good. We would accept that even though our orders we made (food, computers, cars, etc.) were not what we asked for, yet accept them anyway, we would accept that child molestors live in our neighborhood, we would not motivate ourselves to improve something that need fixing, etc.

Laya, September 11, 2011 4:25 AM

complaining is different than complaining

Hi Mati, I think the spirit of this is that we stop whining and blaming but it doesn't mean we can't correct, repair or build. It doesn't mean we're complacent. I, for one, see the complaining that is a waste of energy in my life. This program is not about not having boundaries. It's about not blaming when you see that you need to set one. Take responsibility and repair where you can. Great challenge Lori, you are really changing the world, one moment at a time. Wow!!!

Alan S., September 12, 2011 10:33 PM

"complaining is different than complaining" Huh?

(8) Dennis, September 7, 2011 7:54 AM


Lori how is it going with the U.S. citizenship test ?

(7) Deborah, September 6, 2011 11:32 PM

Works for gossip too

My sister's high school gave out these bracelets a few years back with some sort of message printed on them, to help the girls remember to refrain from gossip.

(6) ann, September 6, 2011 6:18 PM

I'd lose weight

just by slipping the band from one wrist to the other ALL DAY LONG>>> I have a lot to work on this forthcoming year. : )

(5) Barbara, September 6, 2011 4:54 PM

The best reason for getting Aish every week

Dear Lori, Your videos are the main reason I continue to receive Aish videos. You remind me how good life is,how thankful I should be, and I sometimes feel like you've looked into my heart. My friends often tell me I'm an anomaly - someone who is truly happy with my portion. Even so, a little lashon hara or jealousy creeps in and needs squelching. What do I have to be "satisfied" with? Hubby and I just celebrated 39 years of marriage. Not always easy, but I look at him and remember the good qualities that I don't want to lose. My four children have made excellent choices in their spouses/soignificant others (and likely spouse when they finish school)(maybe not who I'd have chosen, but good choices nonetheless). My oldest son, a rabbi, called last night to share that they are expecting their 2nd child B"H. My adopted grandson is as precious to me as anything in the world and was also an excellent choice for my daughter and son-in-law.. I help emotionally and financially whenever needed. My children all have wonderful in-laws who have become close friends. Recently retired, I've become more active in volunteer work (president of my Hadassah chapter, a 24/7 job - wish it was 24/6 but not everyone recognizes how important that Shabbat break is). I'd use up every word allowed, but for now, I just want to say thank you Lori, you are truly heaven-blessed for your wisdon and sharing, and have made me a better person for it. Shana Tova um'tukah!

(4) Alan S., September 5, 2011 10:42 AM

Something to truly strive for. There are probably hundreds of ways to help oneself stop blaming or complaining: 1. don't interact with people. 2. don't expect much from people. 3. don't open your mouth. This topic could actually be the basis of a Jewlarious column.

Jennifer, September 7, 2011 9:42 PM

Alan has a great idea. Like the old joke: Today I was so happy! I was so thankful! I felt good about everyone and everything! But then I got out of bed..."

(3) Anonymous, September 5, 2011 5:10 AM

Thank you!

Thank you!!!

(2) Debbie, September 4, 2011 9:29 PM

Great Bar Mitzvah project

Wow, I was just thinking of some sort of appropriate bar mitzvah project or theme for my son's upcoming bar mitzvah next April...I'm going to see how we can work this in...What a great thing it would be if we gave a bracelnt out to each and every person who attends at the bar mitzvah (with an explanation, of course!)....Do you give discounts for buying in bulk???!!!

(1) Kim, September 4, 2011 10:10 AM

What a great idea and very appropriate for the month of Elul!

It would also be useful for a campaign for "Lashon Hara" or gossip (but would probably be even more challenging). Can anyone share their experience with children taking part in this campaign. If it works for this, it could work for many other things as well, for example, anger management.


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