Flowers from My Husband

They don’t last, but their message certainly does.

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(13) Anonymous, February 24, 2014 8:18 PM


I agree with you 100%, my Dad used to buy my mom shabbat flowers when I was a kid overseas. Now, actually for years, my husband has been buying me shabbat flowers every week and I appreciate them so much. I miss them when I am in Israel but when he is there we stop on the highway and he buys flowers! All men should be told before they get married that this small gesture means so much and brings happiness to the home.

(12) Honey Aron, August 16, 2013 4:41 PM

Shabbos Flowers lasting memories

As a florist in Chicago, I have my own FFEELING about flowers for shabbos.or a simcha. Flowers don't last forever neither does food or music, but these elements enhance and enrich our lives!

(11) Harry Pearle, August 16, 2013 3:05 PM

Flowers and Shabbos Candles Show an URGENCY

I was thinking also of Shabbos candles, which are also perishable. But I think flowers and candles can create a sense of URGENCY. This can add vitality to Jewish living. (Let me also suggest the use of gimmicks like the EASY button from Staples. You hit the button and it says: that was easy. Because something is easy to do, does not mean we have to trivialize it. Flowers and candles don't have to be trivialized and neglected. They can encourage us to live life with more job, SIMCHAH. Shabbat Shalom!

(10) Anonymous, August 15, 2013 5:26 PM

I saw you speak live in Jerusalem. I needed to see you speak. You were frustrated after your talk because we didn't understand you. I am sorry for not trying to understand you. I think I can understand now.

(9) Suzanne, August 14, 2013 8:39 PM

Flowers are nice, however ....

...even if you buy flowers very inexpensively - they do add up. Say you can buy something "thoughtful" for about $7.00. Well, that's $28.00 a month. Then multiply that by 12 and you have a bill of $336.00 for the year. I know that flowers are nice but when you are raising a family and every penny counts - it can be just another expense and put more financial straine on families who are stressed enough. I was never insulted when I didn't get flowers and I never thought my shabbots lacked anything if there weren't any. Of course, I loved it when I DID get them but. for a lot of us you really can't have it all.

Mati, August 30, 2013 10:22 AM

Who says you have to buy them?

I think if I plucked some wild flowers and wrote a little note to my wife, she would understand why I can't buy them and appreciate them the same. So it's not so expensive, Suzanne.

Nancy, May 7, 2015 10:11 AM

To commenter #9 Suzanne

It sound like Shabbos in your home is truly something special. I agree with Lori that flowers are lovely and of course they give our Shabbos tables an wonderful touch. On the other hand, if this weekly purchase puts a dent in your budget then it really is not practical for your family.

(8) Melissa, August 14, 2013 5:14 PM

What about flowering plants?

thanks for the sentiment, Lori

(7) ruth housman, August 14, 2013 4:48 PM


Today I went out and bought some sunflowers, because they "called to me", and I brought them home to bring a touch of the outside, of what nurtures me, Nature, into our home, because I was feeling the burden of our old dog, that soon, he will be leaving. I spend a lot of time with flowers, as I get an infusion every single day, from a WEB site called The Secret Language of Flowers, and they are, astounding. In fact, they mirror what we have in our lives. Today, among others, it was an agave plant, that was like a standing lamp with many torches, all yellow, blooming from its outstretched arms, up and down, that single, sturdy, green stalk. And I see ballerinas and tutus, all dancers, in many flowers that come my ways, these "daze". And for me, I see a menorah itself, in the way, plants and trees do branch. And so to buy flowers, to brighten our smiles, to make us feel the light, is truly to do what you say. I do it. Every single day. I am on my knees in my garden, and I constantly write about that JOY. Perhaps in depth this is a Garden Story, as Eden was surely The Garden of Paradise. Perhaps it's Shabbat for me every day, as that's how I live it, rejoice in it. YES! , it's good to have a very Special Day, to stop, to contemplate this total beauty, of Creation. I am stalking the wild asparagus, and I know this story is about LOVE. This is a liminal time: Elul. A words so much about what is liminal, what is veiled, and about a lifting of veils, about wedding bells, Dodi Li!

Ani, Ani Yodeah

(6) IrisB, August 14, 2013 4:40 PM

Very sweet gesture

I am very happy that your husband shows his appreciation to you with the flowers. A wonderful gesture. I too save all the cards/notes I receive.

Many years ago, I after the birth of my first child, I started sending my mother flowers on MY birthday. Why? As a way of saying thanks for having me. I made a point of telling my children that I do this for Grandma because of what she has done for me.

When my daughter-in-law gave birth to my first grandchild, I gave her flowers and have given her flowers on his birthday as a thank you for making me a grandma. My son now gives his wife flowers on their son's birthday. He apparently has gotten the message I have been trying to teach him in a subtle way.

To everyone reading this - send flowers to someone you care about, even if there is no special reason. It WILL MAKE THEIR DAY.

(5) Shmuel, August 13, 2013 4:51 PM

Insight for a male

Thanks for your insight. As a man, I looked at flowers as a perishable item that often barely lasts a few days till it decays, smells, and is thrown out. Not exactly a romantic sentiment, but pragmatic. You have shared with us men an insight into how women think differently. This is usually a somewhat closed door for us men. I hope to act accordingly.

(4) Anonymous, August 12, 2013 3:45 PM

Great suggestion

Hi. This is a great suggestion. This is very easy to do and something that I know will bring my wife a lot of joy. I should have been doing this all along.

(3) smb, August 12, 2013 6:51 AM

Giving to each other, spending time together among other things definitely helps to strengthen the relationship

(2) Ronna, August 12, 2013 1:14 AM

My divorce

My ex husband when asked why he divorced me without a fight r 1. Bc I wanted Shabbas flowers an 2. I wanted to keep my families tradition if exchanging Chanukah gifts, an he wanted to keep his own of not. He was offended by the gifts I got him. To me I was raised in a home where a table wasn't set for Shabbas with out the flowers. To the extent after my parents divorced my brother would go every Friday with my dad to buy flowers for his 3 daughters. Simply without flowers on the table it wasn't a Shabbas seuda just like where I board without the candles in the middle of the table it's not Shabbas

(1) Alan S., August 11, 2013 8:38 AM

Buying flowers does send a wonderful message. Of course, there are other ways to send the same message. The man who treats his wife like a queen in speech and deeds, sends the same message.

Lisa, August 18, 2013 2:47 AM

Speech & in deeds!!! are nice, albeit I'd rather be treated respectively !! To have a nice guy with middot & flowers? Then I would say you hit the jackpot! ???


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