How Husbands and Wives Talk to Each Other (Marriage Part 1)

How do you speak to the most important person in your life?

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Comments (10)

(10) Dan Alexoff, February 22, 2017 5:00 PM

Nailed it!

I have searched for part 2! Will be sharing this in a men's Bible study. Thank you.

(9) Anonymous, November 13, 2015 12:28 PM

how do I speak to my husband

thank you. My husband is a great person. But he is not very sensitive of my needs. I do get very frustrate with him.

I love him very much and I know I am not easy person either.
I need to work on my behavior and stop thinking he will change
thank you so much.

(8) Anonymous, September 7, 2015 11:21 AM

Breaking the mold.

Although my parents (z"l) loved one another, my mother very often spoke to my father in disrespectful tones. Alas, I have found myself doing the same thing far too many times when speaking to my husband. Just because my mother did this it does not mean I need to do the same thing. During this coming year, I resolve to THINK before speaking to my husband. Am I being respectful? That is the question I resolve to ask myself before opening my mouth. Yes, aish readers you read it here first. :-) Thank you Lori Palatnik for bringing up this CRUCIAL topic. Shana Tova.

(7) Chaya, May 8, 2015 1:32 AM

thank you for the mussar.

This was just what I needed to hear this Lag B"omer!!!How easy it is to justify my behavior! You really got me thinking!!!! Thank you for the subtle mussar!!! I hope I can make change....

(6) maddie, May 8, 2015 12:16 AM

Thank you.

(5) Dolores Testerman, May 7, 2015 7:22 PM


bottom line - are we USING the people we love for our own gain of self? or are we loving them and USING our selves to benefit THEM with our love???

(4) Shoshana-Jerusalem, May 7, 2015 6:29 PM

that recording

Actually, every word IS being recorded, and someday (on the Day of Judgement) it will be played back for us, in front of everybody.

(3) Shira, May 6, 2015 6:42 PM

heartbreaking reminder

So heartfelt & honestly said. It seems so obvious & reasonable, as it should be! Yet when tempers flare it's too easily forgotten & reflex tones & 'tudes kick in. Your words are a necessary & timely reminder. May they stay with us next time we are about to speak less-than-kindly to our spouses.... Thank You

(2) Anonymous, May 5, 2015 1:25 AM

How True

Thanks for this amazing reminder. Your comment about taping ourselves reminds me of a story. As a newlywed, my friends aunt had a horrible temper and used combative, negative and demeaning language. Her husband could not get through to her until he taped her and played it back. She was so inspired to change and she is now so softspoken and positive. He saved his marriage and really saved her life. Sometimes we dont even realize how we sound...

(1) Sharona, May 3, 2015 9:24 PM

Many times couples feel frustrated and want to get their message across but do it in a way that is not productive. When a couple is very negative, they don't accomplish anything but ill feelings. And when blaming each other, they become defensive and don't hear the other's message.

A couple should calmly say how they feel. For example, if it's a money issue, instead of one saying, "Why do you spend so much?" They could say, "I'm worried about our finances. I know we are both working hard, but our expenses seem to be exceeding that." - The other feels sympathetic and says, "I'm worried about that too, maybe we can cut back on......." - This way, a couple can work things out and keep their relationship healthy


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