Parents or Kids: Who Needs the Other More?

The answer isn’t as obvious as you think.

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Comments (7)

(6) MARVIN SILVERSTEIN, November 15, 2016 5:42 PM

OPTION: proplems seek answers

How can " our " experience / knowledge help you?
> KEEP TRYING & SEEK HELP. Others may have a new answer.

(5) Anonymous, January 25, 2016 5:16 PM

Unfortunately not always true with every parent

Your video does not address the sad situation of the parent who wants nothing to do with her child (adult). What do you say to the adult child whose mother publicly states that she "hates" her daughter and spews ugly words to other relatives to try to turn them against this child? She turns her back on her grandchildren from this hated child. I don't think this is the type of parent you are referring to in your video, however, this type of family dysfunction is quite common these days and needs to be addressed. How about a video to help us rejected "children"?
Thank you.

(4) willy, January 22, 2016 3:56 PM


I am 63 years old . dad died in72 mom in 87. i have a child with autism .he is the first in my family .. when Jeff was real young. on seperate occasion i talk to both my mom and grandma about it. even though their counsel was what i was going to do.i still charish their input .grandma even said G-d gave you that boy you do what you have to for him. i will always miss those moments as well as treasure them. Willy

(3) Anonymous, January 21, 2016 5:23 PM

this is talking about normal situations, not cases of emotional abuse etc. right? because in such circumstances it is unwise to "reach out" to them for advice and guidance, not after finally escaping such a thing.

Anonymous, January 22, 2016 9:42 PM

To commenter #3

I am so very sorry you were emotionally abused. I also agree with your assessment re: self care and preservation.

(2) Myriam, January 21, 2016 4:42 PM


BH Lori, you hit it right on the nail! Now apply this to our relationship with H". It is the exact same thing and we should strive to have a more clearer parent/child connection with our ultimate Abba. I like to keep my parents happy and proud of me and Heaven forbid that I should hurt them!!! How much more can we and should we do this for H"? He gave us 2 important mitzvotz: love Him above all else and love each other. Isn't that what our parents want? Love them above all our aunts, uncles and relatives and to love our siblings? Wouldn't the world be a better place if we all loved H" as we do mom and dad and try to make Him proud and not hurt Him? Just thinking out loud! Gut Shabbos

(1) Anonymous, January 18, 2016 5:39 AM

not always

Sometimes parents are so entrenched in being needed and being in control, that they really don't want us to be independent. In their mind yes, they want to see us move on and get married but that other sick need (yes, sick) prevents them from helping the chid to become independent. Let's remember our Avos. Avraham had to leave his father, as did Yaakov and the shvatim (for better or worse) certainly acted contrary to their fathers wishes. People talk about kibud av v'aim being hard but in this age of shiduch "crisis" sometimes it's the other way around. Kids need that separation.


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