Pray for Others First

The secret to getting your prayer answered.

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(8) Yaakov Ben-Shmuel, November 29, 2015 5:26 PM

I really appreciate your presentation on chazal's

''seula'' to have your prayers answered. I never did have the

correct pshat. My understanding was like the one you disapproved.

But I truly relate to your explanation/understanding.

Just 1 point to clarify.

What should the reason be that I still should pray

for myself first, rather than praying for my

fellow Jew 1st? Thank you for all your excellent avodah.

By the way 1 other idea I truly related to was with your

video on donating your kidney. The ending was truly

educational and inspiring.

Yaakov Ben Shmuel

(7) Howard Sanshuck, November 12, 2015 4:31 AM

Prayers For Others

Even though I mostly go to an Orthodox Synagogue for Shabbat, I don't keep the mitzvoth or follow all the rules for Shabbat. Before the age of 60 years I had never been inside an Orthodox Synagogue except one time in the late 1940(s) as a young child when my parents went inside one so that I believe my father could say Kaddish for his father who had just died. They must have created a stir inside there because they sat together! Today at age 70, I do believe that there is a god and he is a divine being without whom there would be no universe. And I pray to him! I pray for others whom I have harmed and I ask him NOT to forgive me but to help them if they are still alive, or grant them a place in heaven and forgive any sins they may have done while alive since I harmed them. Not that I want anything from God, though I am thankful whenever he sees fit to help me in some way. I have been the recipient of small miracles from god. Once I randomly took a book off of a shelf in the Synagogue and opened it randomly and it answered a question about a parsha that I had. I've had many times received the grace of god. I hope that I can live many many more years in good health and use my time and energy to help others and have a pleasant life too.

(6) Anonymous, November 12, 2015 12:12 AM


the Talmud doesn't say that you should find another person to do this with. it just says that if a person prays for someone else then he's answered first.

(5) Anonymous, November 11, 2015 6:36 PM

I do my best to pray for others but as i was listening to what you were saying i wouldn't want the other person to wait for their prayer to be heard and answered in a positive way i to my best of my ability want their prayer and need answered before me unless we can be snswered both together same time. How does one not feel selfish or guilty when in the back of my mind sometimes whether it was my intention or not i cant describe this well but if i know in the back of my mind(not my intention or it comes in later )that my prayer comes first if i pray for someone else.Arent i supposed to pray for someone with out thinking about me and how ill be answerd. i wish i could write more. You said at the end may our prayers be anawered soon i. PLEASE PRAY(DAVEN)
for RIVKAH MINA BAS ZELDA DEVORAH shes about 52 and i found out tuesday morning that she had a stroke and not breathing byherself and half paralyzed not awake please pray for a complete recovery and that she go back to living a normal life full of happiness and healthwith her son and husband. please pass her name around she is in critical condition. Today is my birtday so im trying to enjoy my day but feel guilty doing nothing how does one feel productive and fullfilled. May everyone in Israel and whole of klal Yisrael should have peace and be safe and to get along with each other

Anonymous, November 12, 2015 4:11 PM

It's okay

if your intention of praying for the other person is to get your prayer answered first. Of course! We're only human. But it still works. Because the fact is, you still prayed for the other person.
In general, Rabbi Avigdor Miller teaches, that this world is temporary and at the end, we all go on a "journey" to the world to come. The purpose of this world is to "pack a suitcase" full of mitzvot to take with us on our journey.
I know someone who once told Rabbi Miller that she made a tzedaka party in her house but that the mitzvah "stank"; she was doing it to show off her house and that she's so great. Rabbi Miller told her: "Don't think about why you did a mitzvah. We're all going on a journey. Just pack and pack and pack your suitcase. Just keep doing mitzvot. Don't drive yourself crazy by examining your intentions. Just keep packing."

(4) Anonymous, November 10, 2015 3:54 PM

A cool prayer story

My friend's son was of marriageable age and wanted to marry an Israeli girl since he wants to live in Israel. My friend was having a hard time setting her son up with an Israeli girl since she's here in America and didn't know anyone in Israel who could help her.
She confided this to a Rebbetzin she knows. The Rebbetzin advised her to pray that G-d should send a girl for her son to her. That's what she did.
A while later, a girl from Israel who was visiting called her up. She was involved in a charity and needed someone to help her. Someone told her my friend might help her. My friend suggested the girl come over to meet her. She got to know this girl, liked her, and got someone to set her up with her son to meet. They just got married!
As the Rebbetzin had suggested, my friend had prayed for G-d to send her future daughter-in-law to her and He did; right to her front door, literally!

(3) Sidney, November 10, 2015 12:10 AM


Thank you.
While I heard through the years many explanations of the Talmudical Statement this was really intriguing.
As the younger crowd syas, "Awesome"!

(2) Anonymous, November 9, 2015 9:26 PM

I just did it.

The other day one of my closest friends told me she was having some plumbing problems in her home. This morning I too discovered a problem which needs the attention of a plumber/heating expert. I just davened for my friend and myself.

(1) Anonymous, November 9, 2015 2:15 AM

This works incredibly well!

When I was single, I began to pray daily first for a single woman who had been dating for 18 years and then for myself. Lo and behold, a few months later, I got engaged and left my place of work where I knew her from. A year later, I found out she got married as well.
When I was expecting a child at an older age, I was worried for the baby's health. Every day I prayed first for my friend who had been waiting for a baby for 7 years and then for the health of my baby. (I used to spend five minutes a day, usually while driving, begging G-d for this.) Thank G-d, my baby was born healthy and a few months later my friend got pregnant. She had a beautiful baby girl. (I never told her!)
For years, whenever I prayed for parnasa, money, I first asked for my impoverished cousin. Our situation got better and lo and behold my always-had-been-impoverished cousin is running a very successful business! (I never told her!)
I have used this Talmudic advice so many, many times in my life and it really works!
Before you pray for your self, husband, child, health, success, job, etc. think of someone else who needs something similar and pray for them first. Really, really, really works. For you and them!

Sara, November 9, 2015 7:23 PM

Pray for someone else

Sometimes it does work but sometimes we can pray for someone else but if we are not meant to get it and it is not good for us than we will not get it!

Anonymous, November 10, 2015 3:43 PM

This is definitely true.

Prayer "works" but sometimes it seems like it doesn't. But it still "works". Meaning, it's like putting money in the bank. G-d takes that prayer and "applies" it to something else for us.
Rabbi S. Pincus explains: G-d tells Abraham that he's going to destroy Sedom. Abraham prays and prays for Sedom: If there are 50 righteous people, will you save the city?...40?...30,20,10...At the end, there aren't even 10 good people so Abraham stops praying, knowing it's useless, and G-d destroys Sedom.
Rabbi Pincus asks: Why did G-d tell Abraham about Sedom if G-d knew he would pray and at the end the prayer wouldn't "work" since G-d knew there weren't 10 good people?
Rabbi Pincus answers: G-d wanted Abraham to pray. G-d took Abraham's prayers for Sedom and applied it to Abraham's family, and those prayers built the Jewish people.
No prayer goes unanswered.


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