Tests: Giver Vs. Taker

One of life’s challenges is learning to get out of ourselves.

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Comments (10)

(10) guita, October 4, 2012 10:23 PM

Please speak slower. I love what you learn us !

IIt is easier to follow you when you speak slowe. Thank you !

(9) Anonymous, August 11, 2012 12:40 AM


I suffer from severe depression to the point I can't get out of bed somedays. Helping someone whether I like them or not gives me a reason to get up, and it helps me feel like a person. The most important thing is that perhaps God wants me there to help because it might make both of feel better, physically and emotionally. And who knows? I might miss that person even though we didn't get along. They are in my life for some purpose, healing, teaching, growth, or perhaps a test.

(8) Jong, August 4, 2012 10:20 AM

"Oh, this is a test!"

Wonderful series on test. Lori, I am so grateful that you brought up with this series. So helpful to me. Thank you so much. I look forward to the rest of series!

(7) Karen, August 3, 2012 8:05 AM

I wish i knew about abstence when I was a teenager.

My parents had no foundation to raise me on. I am disappointed in myself as a teenager not to say no. I never realized that finances are everything about marrage. I wish I knew you when I was15 when I lived in Denver. I wish I was raised in a Jewish family when I was young. I am now going through conversion and Jewdism classes and for the first time I am at peace with myself and with God.

(6) diana caesar, August 2, 2012 1:47 AM

good video

Anonymous 3- a person may have a toxic attitude based on something that your volunteering can change. So we can not always judge a book by it cover. Anonymous 1 - sometimes what we feel "obligated" to do the Almighty El uses to change our hearts. That is the reward of the mitzvot that allows us to become a better person.

(5) Reuven Frank, August 1, 2012 12:03 PM

Help, PlEASE

I'm experiencing a test. I am "dieing to know what the other letters in "GKAF" stand for, and don''t think I can wait three weeks (one, each of the next three), to find out. PLEASE, could I have a hint. Thanks. BTW, Great content.

(4) ab, August 1, 2012 11:28 AM

loved this one

thanks - i think the point you made about "its always going to be painful" is such an eye-opener, so obvious yet I never thought about it that way. Really makes choosing the right thing easier.

(3) Anonymous, July 31, 2012 11:13 AM

There is some gray area here, which was not mentioned. If the guy/girl in question is such a negative and toxic personality, then it is NOT healthy for me as the individual to spend time around him/her. In that case, the test would be very easy for me to pass. My own mental health and that of my family is much more important than that of someone who "everybody else is helping out." After all, what's right for others is not always right for me.

(2) Ruth Fingerhut, July 31, 2012 10:44 AM

This was personally helpful at the right time

Thanks, again. This message literally boosted me over me internal panic over a financial commitment that I had to make for my son's education. Part of me always feels bad about having a hard time doing things that others seem to get through more easily. Viewing this is my test, where others have different tests, was exactly what I needed to get through the block and get it done!

(1) Anonymous, July 31, 2012 12:06 AM

It must come from the heart , is'nt that the difference ?


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