What Is Gossip? (Part 2)

Any form of communication that reflects negatively on someone unless there is a positive, constructive purpose.

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Comments (8)

(7) Anonymous, July 29, 2017 8:18 PM

What do you do when someone starts to gossip? How do you stop them? And what can be said? I have this problem on my job with coworkers. Once I got so upset, I told my coworker "Can't you find something else to talk about other than other people. Whatever happen to "food for thought". You're conversations aren't interesting at all". Needless to say, I stopped talking to that person. But there are others I have to talk with. Besides the (work) info I need from them, they ALWAYS manage to add gossip. What can I do?

(6) Anonymous, May 17, 2015 8:51 PM

What about reading and listening to the news?

Hi, you talked about reading gossip. How can I keep informed about current events without sinning? There can be a lot of negative things said about people, especially our leaders, in the news. Can anyone give wisdom on how to approach these things?

(5) Anonymous, March 26, 2015 9:55 PM

Being old, French and a long time admirer of Lori, I would appreciate her speech performances to be alittle slower, so that I could read the subtitles in real time. Sorry I never before commented my pleasure to listen to her when she still was in America.

(4) SusanE, March 26, 2015 7:33 PM

Always a loophole. So gossipers are always right.

"Unless there is a positive constructive purpose." That is a sad statement. EVERYONE thinks they are right to give information about friends or strangers. It's all bad. No one has the right to speak about another person. "Yes she and her husband bought a beautiful home for $875,000" then had to give it up. I'd love to know why. <-That is also gossip. --- Another example:
"I heard she was arrested one time several years ago for drunk driving". Lori, Should you tell the whole community so they don't let their kids in the car with her? I know 20 women who would LOVE to spread that type of gossip around...of course it's.for a very good constructive purpose No loopholes. It's always bad.

Nancy, March 27, 2015 9:29 PM

To commenter #4 Susan E.

I respectfully disagree with you re: those who gossip are always right. Your first example most certainly demonstrates lashan hara. We have no need to know the specifics of the first scenario. Those details are none of our business. However, the second example is a different story. If I suspected that someone had been arrested for drunken driving, my child would not have been allowed anywhere near that person's car. In the second example we are looking at a matter of life and death. I believe no two situations are exactly alike. Sometimes keeping quiet is the wrong choice and at other times we are engaging in lashan hara. Being able to distinguish the difference will make us better people.

(3) Shelly, March 26, 2015 4:35 PM


Lori, loved part 1 and even more so, part 2. Looking forward I part 3. Refraining from gossip is VERY difficult. Believe me, I don't sit around and plan to gossip about others. Yet it takes an enormous amount of effort to bite my tongue and not give in to the "delight" of knowing something about someone. I am heeding your words and making more and more of an attempt to refrain from gossip. If one does something (or refrains from doing something) on a continual basis, it becomes habit. Hopefully, it will work for me. Perhaps he best advice, in a nutshell is, if you don't have anything nice to say about someone, keep your mouth shut. Looking forward to part 3! Thanks Lori.

(2) Dvirah, March 25, 2015 6:20 PM


Often in teaching one can impact more strongly by using a real-life story to illustrate the point you want to make. It is very important, to avoid Lashon Hara, to make sure that no one in the story is identified or easily recognizalble.

(1) Nancy, March 23, 2015 12:03 AM

Parameters re: helping someone.

Sometimes what we think of as being helpful might actually be quite harmful. What is our motivation for helping another person? That is the $64,000 question. I look forward to Part 3 of this great series!


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