Wiring Our Kid's Hard Drives

Everything we say to our kids goes in, and one day they're going to access it.

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(15) Joey, November 25, 2011 10:38 PM

Flip Side

I’m surprised you didn’t mention the flip side—to be careful what you say to your children, because it, too, really sticks! Remember, everyone, negative comments can harm their values or self-esteem. Thanks for this video and God bless all!

(14) willy, November 6, 2011 5:55 AM

love you

I thought that I might share this. my wife and I have had the pleasure of raising 5 children. Jeff, our first, was diagnose at the age of 6 as being severely mental retardation and autism. Jeff does not communicate. because of him hitting my wife when I wasn't home we have placed him in an group home which has helped out much for his behavior. off and on since he was five I have prayed and asked G-D that he would have Jeff one day to tell momma that he loves her. We know that he loves us but for my wife to here that he loves her would be an special moment for her. Jeff has taught our family an lot over the years. For one we know what it means to love someone unconditionally, because for years not only did he show no love but to give him an hug he would push you away. We bring Jeff home every other weekend. On the weeks we don't my wife on Friday gives him an call and talks to him even though it is an one way conversation. She always ends it with an "bye Jeff , love you". This pass Friday for the very first time Jeff said " love you". Jeff is 30. that night when I prayed all I said was thanks.

(13) Chana Penina, October 28, 2011 5:33 AM

Yasher Koach

Thank you, Lori. I know on an intellectual level you're right. I worry that there is so much unhealthy influence out there, that my kids will be blinded by it. They are all, B"H, bright kids, and I see them making the right choices often. I know that because I'm not a hypocrite, most of what I'm teaching them will stick. Hypocrisy is the most dangerous trap out there, as is the disrespect of individuality. Giving your kids the tools they need to avoid these traps is difficult, as it often comes from people that should be role models to our kids. Our kids are so precious, we have to imbue them with as sturdy a foundation as possible, otherwise the structure won't be sound. I give you and your family credit for not being hypocrites and standing up for our homeland. May you see much nachas from your son and your entire family, and may G-d keep your son and all our children, safe. Yasher Koach

(12) Anonymous, October 27, 2011 1:43 AM

Thank you, Lori

Thank you so very much Lori. Your optimism and genuine nature give me a sense of calm and direction.

(11) Sabina Flores, October 26, 2011 2:54 PM

wired into the hard drive

What about your home in the U.S. It is wonderful to have Israel and to do good for Israel. I am proud to be Jewish American.

(10) Ann Brady, October 26, 2011 2:47 PM

My Four-Year-Old Grandson

My youngest grandson has developed a sad habit of taunting me with the words, "You don't know anything." Perhaps he is repeating his parents words, I do not know. But I have replied that he should not say such unkind words to me, his grandmother who has lived a long time and who has learned a lot about much. After considering your fine message today, dear Lori, I have a feeling that of all my grandchildren, this will be the one who will, as a grown man, someday say to me, "Nana, you are one of the wisest people I know."

(9) Rabbi Reuben Israel Abraham, CDR, CHC, USN, October 26, 2011 2:04 PM

Never stop teaching your children - no matter how old they are.

Shalom, Rebbetzin Lori! Your words are filled with wisdom. I had the pleasure and honor of meeting you in the lobby of the King Solomon Hotel in October of 2010. You continue to inspire me and confirm my decision to become a Jew. Todah Rabbah.

(8) Margarita, October 25, 2011 11:52 PM

Thank you

Thank you for this story and may G-d keep you and your children save. Am Israel Chi :)

(7) Sharon, October 25, 2011 9:26 PM

important lesson here

Wow! That is really encouraging. My kids roll their eyes so often, I really have become discouraged. But I think you have a valid point. Sometimes we parents have an effect even without realizing it.

(6) Rivka, October 25, 2011 6:53 PM


Very beautiful story and it gives hope to us parent that think our kids are not listening but hopefully their "hard drives" are storing the information to be used at a latter date. I enjoy your short stories you are a woman of valor!

(5) Anonymous, October 25, 2011 5:45 PM

I am a big fan of your videos, but this one is now my ALL TIME FAVORITE!! It is simply the BEST video you have ever done. Let me also thank you for the close captioning. Several members of my family (z' l) experienced severe hearing loss at a young age and they would have been very glad to know about the close captioning you provided. Please continue to provide this most valuable service. Thank you so much.

(4) Anonymous, October 25, 2011 5:07 PM

Home is where you designate it to be.

You want to advance Torah please go right ahead. I draw the line at hookwinking another Jew for political gains. The Torah addressed this point with "Lo teshaker ish beamito". My Aliya experience was unlike your sons experience. In the demographic war being fought against an Arab majority in Israel make sure you don't hookwink your fellow Jew into becomming a Korban.

(3) Andria, October 25, 2011 3:54 PM

Thank you

Thank you for sharing this beautiful story! Also thank you for the encouragement that it does stick with them!

(2) Chana Miriam Zelasko, October 24, 2011 7:48 PM

A Bracha

What a Bracha, that your son has parents with such wonderful values. ה' ישמור עליו Chana Miriam Zelasko, Ramat Beit Shemesh

(1) ana, October 23, 2011 12:11 PM

teaching kindness--a must see for anyone who knows a child

in a somewhat similar manner to this, rabbi joseph telushkin speaks about teaching kindness to children and changing the world. here is a very short youtube clip of it. i think it's so important. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mtuuBUMIg3c


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