Soul Control, Part 5: Listen Up!

I agree totally with Dr. Lieberman. Excellent!

Great video! Thanks!

Low self esteem and unconstructive critisism is unconsciously repeated from generation to generation. Awareness and imagining what "you" felt when you were a child and criticised or reprimanded is a good excercise to practice and recall when you teach and support your children and help to reduce guilt and shame. Our children are an extension of ourselves, they are mini adults in training, and will react to what you the parents say and play it over and over in their mind. Support, a few seconds of eye contact, a sit down expalnation about "sharing" or whatever "ticked you off" will make your kids feel secure, loved instead of feeding your own insecurity taking out the real tension of your day and making you feel powerful. When a child asks why? The because I said so answer causes rejection and hurt. An explanation with no interruptions, a close of the paper or the cell phone can make for special time, feeling good and raise self esteem instead of having kids feel "blamed or the source of parents unhappiness. As someone who works with kids they talk about wanting the time of their parents their understanding and when they do not feel secure at home they will look other places. You the parent create this positiveness in your children. You are the most important person in their lives. Take good care and love watching them grow. EG

I really enjoy Dr. Dave and the Soul Control series. Thank you for bringing it to Aish... I look forward to hearing more.

It can be easier and more tempting to criticize someone for their faults, especially if it is true. As I have experienced, miserable people will want to make others feel miserable, and positive people will want to make others feel good about themselves as long as they have the time to focus on just that. Unfortunately, it can be easier to recall criticism and ridicule, even years after it is said, than it is to think of those who give you praise. I'll look forward to Dr. Dave's next video on why most people nowadays suffer from low self-esteem, whether it's due to the remaining and painful memory or that of perseveration (i.e. cannot stop thinking of a certain issue and/or bringing it up to others over and over again).