How to Handle Insults

And not let them get to you.

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Comments (16)

(8) perla, June 20, 2019 2:43 AM

simply and well explained

I have always used that technic and walk away or brush off the insult as I know who I am and I know my values. It also helps sometimes to shed tears to help the insult flow into the river.

Anonymous, June 20, 2019 3:02 PM


Hi Perla,

That’s awesome that you use the technique. And I Love that idea about letting the insults flow into the river… nice!


(7) Laura, June 20, 2019 12:40 AM

Most people tease or bully others because they are jealous.

Anonymous, June 20, 2019 3:03 PM

It’s True

Hi Laura,

There’s no question about it that often people who feel the need to cast insults, are feeling empty themselves. As the Talmud teaches...the empty can with only a few coins makes much noise, but the can that’s completely full of coins, doesn’t make much noise

(6) Mimi, June 19, 2019 11:31 PM

Awesome, powerful and oh so important!

Thank you! I was recently insulted in a public setting by someone who always seems to have belittling and condescending things to say. It hurt. I tried to tell myself that this was her problem, not mine. But I wasn’t really convinced. Watching your video was an eye opener and exactly what I needed to hear- thank you and may you have much hatzlacha with all.

Tzvi Sytner, June 20, 2019 3:00 PM

Kol hakavod!

Hi Mimi,

Sometimes people really don’t think before they say things, and they don’t realize the damage that they do. Kol hakavod for your strength and resilience! It’s totally normal to feel hurt, but I think that your mindset will help put a cap and how much people can affect you.

Kol hakavod,

(5) Anonymous, June 18, 2019 9:20 PM


please put on twitter so all may see and hear Thank you

Tzvi Sytner, June 19, 2019 10:47 PM

Great idea!

Great idea! How?

(4) Diana seminer, June 18, 2019 2:34 PM

Simply fabulous,great advice

Simply fabulous advice
I will use this even as I have a few tears from the hurt

Tzvi Sytner, June 18, 2019 7:26 PM


So glad you found the advice relatable, and please enjoy and use it!

(3) Anonymous, June 18, 2019 2:31 PM

Beautiful message. It really is so simple that it is emet. The problem is when we ourselves do not find our value... because it is very difficult to measure without comparing. And when making those comparisons comes the problem. I will pass the message to my children to see if it helps them with school bullying ... Thank you I wish you many successes and blessings...

Anonymous, June 18, 2019 7:27 PM

I agree!

I completely agree! comparing completely exacerbates the issue, and its totally crucial for kids, bullying, and school!

(2) Happy Monster aka Moishe Goldsteiin, June 18, 2019 11:01 AM


Seeing and making a smiling face is my value.

Something you model every day.

Thank you very much.

Happy Tuesday, Rabbi Tzvi.

Happy Monster

Anonymous, June 18, 2019 7:27 PM


Dear Happy Monster,
Thank you for lovely comments!!!

(1) Nancy, June 17, 2019 5:28 PM

The video I needed to watch today

Todah rabah!!

Tzvi Sytner, June 17, 2019 8:06 PM

So glad!

Hi Nancy,
I'm so glad the video came at the right time for you.
thank you!


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