Think Ahead First

If you could change anything this upcoming new year, what would it be?

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Comments (7)

(6) Tom Sullivan, September 16, 2014 3:15 PM

very insightful

great learning. To live like a king! Head, educated heart, then action. something to live by, if it was so easy. Normally, I just go to #2.

(5) Anonymous, September 14, 2014 11:04 PM

Thank you for this important message! I always enjoy your short but important points that are presented with such such clarity! Hashem should give us all strength this year and may we merit to finally be able to "breathe" the Geula!

(4) anonymous, September 14, 2014 9:55 PM

I don't agree

Nechama that is not what is done. I'm not allowed to stay and go into the JCC. We do bring the kids the day before to meet the teachers and play for twenty minutes, but gradual with 3 yr. Olds is not done like that.

(3) Anonymous, September 14, 2014 8:18 PM

As an experienced Jewish early childhood educator, my response is that every facility has its policy regarding the beginning if child care for very young children (3). In some cases, the parents stays, with the child, for a few hours. This can be repeated as needed. In the case of a child who needs more transition time,itt is sometimes helpful for the parent to stay with the child for more time; at the beginning, in the classroom; as the child becomes more comfortable, the parent can then sit outside the room. When the parent and the teacher see that the child is ready to stay without the parent, the child can be told that the parent will return at (name a specific time). Also, the parent can give the child an object/scarf, etc. to hold onto until mommy comes.

(2) ELIZABETH, September 14, 2014 7:07 PM



(1) Nechama, September 14, 2014 3:47 PM

First Day at Day Care

You never drop a 3-year old at day care just like that. You stay there with her for an hour and take her home. The next day you stay for two hours. The next day, after she sees that it's great fun to be there, you leave her after an hour. It should be done gradually.

That's what my children do with my grandchildren.

Alan S., September 14, 2014 10:01 PM

Well intentioned, but....

Your comments are well intentioned, but not for everyone or every situation. In addition, I know many a nursery or pre-school teacher that encourages the opposite but permits this approach as well. BTW, don't you think that Rabbi Sytner already knows this type of gradual approach?


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