Why Can't We Be Friends?

Bottom line, we are one family.

Comments (15)

(13) Shir, August 4, 2017 4:33 AM

good stuff

this is super inspirational. It's the seemingly insignificant stories that can teach a lesson of Jewish unity in such magnitude.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman for spreading thought-provoking messages!
(Slight confusion in the video as to who was the protagonist in the story of the "Jewish fellow")

(12) Joan Levin Sacks, February 16, 2012 3:23 AM

I wish you could see the smile on my face after reading this message.

Thank you.

(11) José Manuel dos Santos, January 19, 2012 11:41 PM



(10) Philip M, January 19, 2012 9:09 PM

Wonderful message

Thank you R' Friedman! Looking forward to more vblogs! I miss learning with you in the Holy City.

(9) reuven, January 19, 2012 1:49 PM

Jews and others

I would answer that ideally that all humanity should be friends and care for one another; but the starting place is with those who are closest to you. We start with family and extend outwards. If one cannot relate well to those immediately in proximity, one is going to have trouble relating properly to those with whom has less connection. If we can love and respect our fellow Jews, we have a solid starting point for extending this love to all of humanity. Similar to the idea that if one does not love and respect him/her self, it will hamper having love and respect for others. Universalism is the ideal; but it must grow out of a particularism-a foundation upon which to build. Otherwise, if one reaches to high too soon, there is a danger of failure on the most fundemental level. (note the two paragraphs of the 'aleinu prayer).

stacy, December 16, 2013 8:16 AM

At opposites

I struggle to relate with....anyone (or maybe, everyone would be the better word as it seems that way at times.)However my family I especially have trouble with. We have not had good relations it seems like for all or must of my life. Then, or I should say 'now' it is my husband that I have difficulties relating with. I have suffered for I find it hard to relate. Relate, re-late, rel-ate..repeating this word over and over in my head, relate?...How do I relate to myself?
I am oppose myself. For sometime now I thought of G-d as just a line from which we enter into this existence, a means for 'all that is & is not' to expand it.s awareness and knowledge through us. I have had the belief that we create our own reality. We are given exactly what we think and believe ...I had changed a belief and did not realize that it happened. Not until now, while I listened to the other blog on the four meditations. Rabbi Gavriel, I had let go of the belief that G-d was in control and a power greater then my own...I used to think of myself as small, real small I felt this way in the core of my being. Yet something happened to change the thought that something else was in the driver-seat to this little person taking on the full responsibility for what happens to me. I feel re-awakened{{buzzing}} with the relation of relating with G-d as the driver. shew, what a re-lief. I feel blessed to have found this site. Thank you for your enlightening words video blog and Thanks to you reuven, I must now ask what fundamental levels and where may I 'note the two paragraphs of the 'aleinu prayer'? I am still trying to find 'my way' I thought I knew,i knew not.

(8) raisy, January 19, 2012 4:21 AM

the commonalities forged by belief in One G-d are way greater than the differences between us

If you think about the profundity of these words 'chaveirim kol yisroel' the conclusion--for me--is that by accepting the sovereignty of G-d I am a transformed human being. From one who thinks that I can control my destiny to one who understands there is a Power greater than me to whom I owe servitude. This understanding--which all kippah-wearing jews accept unites us in such a powerful way that the differences between us shrink in significance. Also, accepting G-d as our Father makes us all brothers and then the feeling of connectedness and responsibility surfaces. Judaism is awesome!

(7) Raúl Ávalos, January 19, 2012 12:13 AM

nice capsule

Beautifully encapsulated menssage!

(6) Lori Fredericks, January 17, 2012 11:42 AM



(5) Rosen, January 16, 2012 2:08 PM

Jews and Gentiles

Since we are all created in the image of G-d, and that every Jew is responsible for any/all other Jews, how much do our friendship as Jews extend to the Gentiles?...I understand that Jews should marry Jewish, and IMHO, Jews intermarrying eliminates the purpose of being Jewish. That's why I firmly believe that neither missionaries nor intermarriage should extinguish the Jewish light. One can't or shouldn't have his cake and eat it too with "the best of both worlds."

Cc, January 16, 2012 7:00 PM

please explain your intention, are you asking a question, etc.

(4) Rafi Lazarson, January 15, 2012 6:43 PM

A great and Happy Beginning!

I love you, Aish! Great job, Rav Gav! Thank you for helping me get things into perspective. You thoughts very much mimicked mine, I just needed to hear someone else say it. You also gave me some other food for thought. I can't tell you how many times hospital staff and others have told me "no one does what you people do", or similar words, because of volunteering time and helping each other in various situations. It makes me so proud to be a Jew when I hear that. Chazak Rav Gav! I look forward to hearing many good things from you in the future. Rafi

(3) Eliav, January 15, 2012 1:01 PM

right on the mark

Classic Gav Friedman. Great message, nicely encapsulated, fantastically delivered.

(2) sharona, January 15, 2012 6:55 AM

just like a family has sibling rivalry so do we Jews sometimes, but deep down love each other May we Jews be pleasently inspired to have unity. Together we are strong, thank G-d

(1) R K, January 15, 2012 6:53 AM

Thanks for sharing this timely piece

I'm so glad to see such a positive and heartfelt message online in this troubling time.


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