Marilyn Monroe isn’t usually held up as a Jewish role model. While the actress underwent a non-Orthodox conversion to Judaism before marrying her third husband, playwright Arthur Miller, when she died she was buried in a Lutheran ceremony. Yet Monroe’s Jewish links have been back in the news recently as a New York auction house prepares to put her siddur, her Jewish prayer book, up for sale.
Estimates are that the siddur will fetch thousands of dollars. Ms. Monroe apparently annotated it, adding her own comments and thoughts to the Jewish text. “It’s worn, there is no question about it. It has been clearly used,” explained Jonathan Greenstein, a Judaica expert who examined the volume before it goes under the hammer in November 2018.
Marilyn Monroe reading from a Hebrew prayer book, writing comments in its margins and giving voice to her deepest hopes and feelings? It’s not the typical image of the actress. How many of us take the same time to read and explore and think about Jewish prayers? How many of us own a siddur, and if we do, when was the last time you added your own thoughts and annotations?
When I first read about Marilyn Monroe’s siddur, my mind went back to my first Jewish prayer book. Growing up, I never owned one. Siddurs were for synagogue, not the home.
That changed when, as an adult, I began to learn more about Judaism and discovered the centrality of prayer in a Jew's life. My first siddur helped me channel my desire to connect to God in a concrete, tangible way.
I was amazed to discover that there are beautiful Jewish prayers for every occasion, from the first moment one wakes up in the morning to the last words one says at night. Thanking God for the miracle of being alive for another day helped me to appreciate life as a gift, not something to merely take for granted.
In fact, the very act of reading timeless Jewish prayers changed the way I looked at and related to the world - and to being Jewish. Knowing that I was reciting the same prayers, penned by luminaries such as King David, that Jews have said for thousands of years gave me a feeling of connection to the Jewish people I’d never had before.
Perhaps this feeling of being part of a timeless, spiritual tradition is what moved Ms. Monroe to thumb through her siddur. Her example can inspire us to acquire our own and to spend time getting to know the prayers.
Most American Jews, a 2017 survey found, belong to a house of worship. But while only about 19% of Jews reported attending services at least once a week, a whopping 29% said that they pray at least once a day. That is up from 26% in 2007. Jewish women in particular are more likely to pray: 31% of American Jewish women reported finding the time to pray each day.
Praying is always important in any form it takes. In fact, it’s a Jewish tradition to pour our hearts out to God using our own unique words to connect. Formal prayer has an important role too, allowing us to access the words and thoughts of people who came before us to give voice to our deepest emotions and hopes.
There are many excellent siddurs on the market. The Artscroll Siddur is a classic, used in homes and synagogues the world over. It is a comprehensive siddur, with prayers for weekdays, Shabbat and some holidays. It contains commentaries and explanations and facts about Jewish prayers. http://www.artscroll.com/linker/aish/link/Books/9780899066509.html
The Koren NCSY Siddur contains commentary, essays and diagrams to explain and enhance Jewish prayers. This siddur contains prayers for weekdays and Shabbat and some holidays. Designed for youth, its clear descriptions are useful for teens and adults alike.https://www.korenpub.com/koren_en_usd/koren/tefilla/siddur-prayer-book/the-ncsy-siddur.html
As Marilyn Monroe’s annotated siddur goes to auction, it’s changing many people’s thoughts about the actress. It would be nice if it could change our perceptions of Jewish prayer books too, inspiring us to take time to read and think about the meaning of the timeless words of Jewish prayers.
(8) Ron, October 26, 2018 9:18 PM
I learned to write in my siddur in yeshiva. I love the familiarity and sense of ownership yeshiva guys have with their prayers and their siddurs. Of course you would not scribble notes (or place post-its) in a sacred sefer torah, but in your siddur... use it like the tool that it is, a tool for connecting with Hashem.
(7) Rachel, October 25, 2018 12:02 AM
Is it acceptable to write in the margins?
I was concerned that writing in a sacred book could be considered a desecration. If I have a question, I make note of it on a separate piece of paper and then ask my rabbi.
Nancy, October 25, 2018 11:39 AM
To commenter #7 Rachel
Re: Writing in the margins. I have actually been afraid to do that, which is why I use small post-it notes. It helps me to write a short note on the post-it itself.
(6) uri, October 23, 2018 6:34 PM
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Anonymous, October 25, 2018 11:41 AM
To commenter #6 Uri
Marilyn Monroe had a HORRIBLE childhood and was exploited in adulthood. From what I have read about her, I got the impression that her acting talents were never fully realized. Perhaps we can all have rachmones for the terrible life experiences she had.
(5) Anonymous, October 23, 2018 2:00 PM
Use of Statistics
"...a whopping 29% said that they pray at least once a day. " I believe that this statistic comes from the Pew Research Center. Pew reports in the same study that 55% of Americans pray at least once a day. Based on that comparison, the number of Jews who pray each day hardly looks whopping. Was the author being sarcastic? Glass half empty or half full?
(4) Anonymous, October 21, 2018 8:04 PM
For siddurim, Hertz is a golden oldie
The Authorized Daily Prayer Book compiled by Rabbi Joseph H. Hertz z"l, chief rabbi of the British Empire in the early 20th century, remains for me as comprehensive and serviceable as any siddur to date. It includes the daily, Shabbos and full holiday liturgy in Hebrew and English translation with extensive commentary. It may be less elegant that some more recent versions such as the ArtScroll, but in seeking a specific bracha/blessing for some special need, such as entering the hospital for surgery, it has never failed me.
(3) Shelley Rothman=Benhaim, October 21, 2018 5:44 PM
Get the RCA edition of the Artscroll Siddur
Dear Yvette, thank you for a beautiful article, both about Marilyn Monroe, and Jewish prayer in general. If one of your readers is considering buying the Artscroll Siddur, I highly recommend the Rabbinical Council of America edition (RCA), as it includes the prayer for the Welfare of the State of Israel, as well as for the soldiers in the Israeli Defense Forces (Tsahal), two prayers that are missing in the regular edition of the Artscroll Siddur.
(2) Anonymous, October 21, 2018 2:26 PM
Nice article
Thoughtful comments. Well written.
(1) Nancy, October 21, 2018 12:34 PM
Re: Making notes in a Siddur
I like to take small post-its and place them near a specific passage which resonates with me. My Chumash contains MANY such post-its. :-) One particular prayer that gets to me is Asher Yozar. I am humbled as I read it in my Siddur each morning. I have a post-it there so I can turn to it immediately.