I was born in the Bronx in 1973 with cerebral palsy. There were not too many services for people like me. If you were disabled you were either put in an institution, which was a horrific place, or your family took care of you. More often than not you were put in a horrible place.
Thankfully, that did not happen to me, but other horrific things did.
There are certain things that a father should never do to his son. Trust me, I know. When you have alcoholic parents it's not easy. It's double hard to deal with when you're challenged. The beatings I endured were horrible. “My drink made me do it…” so he told me years later. After he died I went to the grave and forgave him, but sometimes you never forget.
My mother said to my dad, “You have two choices mister: you either can get yourself assistance or go to jail.”
My mother was also beaten badly to point of having mental health issues throughout her life, but my mother was there for me every step of the way, especially when I was a baby.
The doctors kept on telling my mother, “He has mental retardation.” My mother said, “No. Please check again.” My mother arranged for a battery of tests to be done on me, and the doctors eventually found out I had minor cerebral palsy with a stiff gait.
Lawrence Seiler
Over the years I went to physical therapy at The Rose F.Kennedy Center in the Pelham Parkway Section of the Bronx and got myself stronger and stronger. There were people that took care of me in life, like my grandmother and grandfather who took over the parenting role after a while because the abuse was just too much to endure.
I was in a special education school and then mainstreamed to regular education. I knew I wanted to help people in a positive way. So I studied human services and received my Associates at LaGuardia Community College at Queens, New York. And then I got my BA in Journalism at Lehman College. I was going to make a difference in people's lives, one way or another. Even though I had bad things in my life happen, I wanted to make lemonade.
When I first came to Lehman College I encountered a lot of negativity. People said things like, “Oh you will never be a news reporter – they would never hire you. You’re disabled and retarded.” I kept on hearing that blasted word. Oh how I hated that darn word.
Then I met a mentor who changed my life. His name was JJ Gonsolez, formerly of Channel 2 News NY where he was a news director. He was my professor at Lehman College and he took a liking to me and an interest in my work. He also invited me to Bronxnet Television which was a public Access TV station at the college where he was the news director for a half hour news show. I started doing news stories on health and disabilities, dealing with every topic from autism to Alzheimer’s.
When the news show folded because it was too expensive, I helped produce a show called Special People, Special Issues which was a half hour program that focused on issues for and about the special needs community. Bronxnet ended in 2015 because I needed to make more lemonade.
I was already married by 2011 to a beautiful wife. We even visited Israel to see family.
In 2015 my wife and I moved to Vermont. We had some struggles – the lemonade needed to get sweeter – but the Bronx was no longer a good place for people with disabilities. There’s way too much stress, so we moved to Vermont, to continue the mission of helping people through journalism.
Abled and on Air is a TV program that focuses on helping people learn how to be independent, as well as teach them through the people we interview on how to be productive members of society. There are many misconceptions about people with special needs; people always assume things. They think special needs people are not smart enough to get a job or they cannot dress properly or think properly.
One of the major things that bother me is people think that people with special needs cannot get married. One of the best things in my life is my wife and my family. Even though my wife has challenges with walking issues and other things related to her being a survivor of the attack on the World Trade Center in 2001, we are extremely happily married and deal with life as it comes.
I also value the closeness I have with God. People also assume that people with disabilities can't go to shul for religious services, and for years that was a problem. But that changed when my family took me to shul in Brooklyn and I've managed to find organizations like Yachad. They find ways to simplify the siddur so we can still be normal in every sense.
The lemonade keeps getting sweeter over time. Here’s the recipe: Whatever life throws at you, just use it to make yourself stronger and never give up.
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(24) Anonymous, March 14, 2021 3:49 AM
Inspired
Life gives you bitterness and you make it sweet keep it up keep writing write more
(23) Anonymous, March 14, 2021 3:40 AM
Moving on to be great
You are a champion to all people with challenges keep up the great work you are doing
(22) Draizy Junik, March 10, 2021 4:21 PM
Inspiring article by a wonderful person
It has been a pleasure to meet Lawrence and very moving to learn more about his childhood experiences.
May you continue to go from strength to strength!
Much love from Chabad of Vermont
(21) Penina, March 3, 2021 4:16 PM
Bravo!
I think you're wonderful. Stay well.
(20) Suzanne, March 3, 2021 3:48 PM
Inspired
Thank you for sharing your story.
(19) Raymond, March 3, 2021 3:20 PM
Thank you for sharing....
Lemon signifies pain........lemon-aid signifies gain? In other words " no pain .....no gain"? with our trials in life we help someone else in the same situation.....it is a comfort to know we are not alone....in this world? thank you! for your testimony.
(18) Jonathan, March 3, 2021 2:39 PM
This was a very nicely written article on the trials and tribulations of a person with a disability and your journey to get better there will always be challenges no matter if you are Spanish African american Brazilian italian and so on disability effects everyone in this world and this article is a good way to get the message out In the world
(17) Jerry Brown, March 3, 2021 2:44 AM
Blessing
My friend is a blessing to us all
(16) Anonymous, March 2, 2021 9:54 PM
Very Good Reminder!
While I had heard the expression about making lemonade when life gives you "lemons" this great article made it come to life. I often struggle with accepting difficult circumstances, and probably could use some of that emotional energy to focus on converting those circumstances to lemonade, which could be why G-D gave me the "lemons" in the first place! Thanks again:)
(15) Anonymous, March 2, 2021 9:48 PM
Thank you for sharing your story on how you managed to change your life from bitter to sweet. Keep writing and helping those who think their challenges are the worse. You are inspirational.
Thank you
(14) Carol L Tabas, March 2, 2021 9:10 PM
Awesome attitude
I was thrilled to read this and feel that someday those with disabilities will be seen as just another human being.
(13) Alexandra, March 2, 2021 6:15 PM
Beautiful, beautiful article, todah rabah
(12) Anonymous, March 2, 2021 5:37 PM
Very inspiring
Yes I'm a fellow lemonade maker though for different reasons. I applaud your resolve, your strength and resilience. Thank you for sharing your story. My friend's son, now in his late 20s is autistic. His mom got politically active to get him the services he needed in Long Island. In spite of his challenges he graduated from high school, is prized by his employers as a terrific worker and has a decent social life. Dating is harder for him since choices are limited. More men in his circke than women. One day he should find a nice girl.
(11) Carol, March 2, 2021 5:28 PM
Wonderful article.
Thank you for writing this wonderful article and for sending it out to be read. You give a meaningful, heartfelt and important message. To me the bottom line is: we must each look at the other and try to see that other person’s humanity. It is there. Afterthought: we must also look at our own humanity and allow for making lemonade as needed. All good things going forward.
(10) Gerard Smal, March 2, 2021 3:59 PM
Brilliant
Thank you so much for sharing, wow I salute yu, to stand up against all the odds. I work myself with a lot of disabled men ,injured during national service. Your words today was very uplifting , and I thank you.
(9) Kevin, March 2, 2021 3:24 PM
You are an amazing person and your life and the article you wrote are very truly inspiring!! Thank you and may Hashem bless you and your family with everything that you need, as well as want always!!!
(8) Karen Arieli, March 2, 2021 10:11 AM
Awesome
Hi Rabbi Lawrence -
You should live and be well and have a meaningful career and life and beautiful relationships till 120. I also am a fellow-lemonade manufacturer and we are all working at it for the "Big CEO" in the Heavens. We should continue to make him and ourselves (humbly) proud!
Thanks for the inspiration!
(7) Anonymous, March 1, 2021 10:37 PM
Mazel Tov!
Mazel Tov! Keep fighting the good fight and thank you for sharing
(6) Alan J, March 1, 2021 10:27 PM
Really deep
Enjoyed immensely. When life is tough the tough get going with g-ds help. Please write more about your experiences
Nina Kotek, March 2, 2021 10:50 AM
Yes, I enjoyed this, but I kept feeling there was another story I wanted to hear at every turn!
Please write more!
Lawrence Joseph Seiler, March 2, 2021 9:13 PM
Thank you for the great comments
Thank you will write more I must inspire with more ? Ade
Lawrence Seiler Journalist
(5) Judi Joy, March 1, 2021 10:10 PM
Loved Larry's article
I met Larry & his wife when they bravely moved to Vermont in 2015. We have been friends since then & I have been a guest on his TV show several times. They are wonderful people!!
(4) Harvey Wecker, March 1, 2021 5:34 PM
Amazing Story
Rabbi NachmaN SAID : NEVER DESPAIR A WONDERFUL & AMAZING story Inspiring
(3) TIKVA WECKER, March 1, 2021 5:28 PM
EXCITMENT
I was so excited about what you wrote and you are truly a champion
(2) David w, March 1, 2021 2:48 PM
Love it. We can learn a lot from your life. Continue to make lemonade. I think this article can bring people courage to meet their challenges.
(1) Nachshon, March 1, 2021 2:15 PM
Absolutely loved these lines here. You must be British in another gilgul:
Bronxnet ended in 2015 because I needed to make more lemonade.
In 2015 my wife and I moved to Vermont. We had some struggles – the lemonade needed to get sweeter
Thank you for making me laugh despite all my nisyonot. I realized that I can frame life like you do: things happen because Hashem wants me to make some sweeter lemonade. Chazak u'Barukh!