How I Moved on After My Wife’s Death

How do you come back from the shock and pain of knowing your love has died and will never return? Ari, a single father of three, shares his moving story.

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Comments (8)

(7) Anonymous, December 28, 2017 2:43 AM

A truly inspiring story

Thank you so much for posting this. I would like to get in touch with the young man in the video. If I could write him directly or if you would be so kind as to pass along a message to him I would appreciate it. Thank you

(6) Ra'anan, December 26, 2017 8:44 PM

Ari, big hugs to you!!! Ra'anan in Jers

Ari, big hugs to you!!! Ra'anan in Jers B"SD

(5) Judy Feld Carr, December 25, 2017 3:59 AM

Beibng a young widow.

I too was widowed suddenly some years ago when I was 33. years old, with 3 little children.
I am so proud of what you are doing to manage to give your little children the strength they need after the terrible loss of their mother.
You also must remember that you cannot be a support to them emotionally until you find the strength for yourself.
Don't ever forget your wonderful memories, and be strong continue you life. Hopefully, , you will find deep love again ,as did I..
Judy Feld Carr, Toronto, ON

(4) Lisa, December 24, 2017 8:01 PM

Your lucky bc you could have taken the other path.... depressing & dark!!!

Your kids are lucky to have an upbeat dad!! Yasher Koach to you!!

(3) Goldie Huttler, December 24, 2017 6:13 PM

Thank you for sharing

Thank you for sharing your strength. I am so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away 2 1/2 years ago after a 7 1/2 year battle with cancer. I, too, am raising three children, ages 12, 15 and 18. And, like you, I don’t understand why Hashem runs the world the way he does, but I do take comfort in knowing that he does run it. My first concern was, and remains, my children’s emotional well-being. And I’m doing my best to rebuild, returning to school at age 51. You seem to be a kindred spirit, appreciating the love and sympathy of those who genuinely care about you, while eschewing self pity. I also found sanity in music, particularly during the first year phone my husband‘s passing. The Jewish response to tragedy is to build. It comes easier to some then to others. Your story gives chizuk to those struggling with adversity. Thank you again for sharing.

yehudis, December 29, 2017 2:16 AM

my father died but I have an amazing mother

Kol HaKavod for sharing your story and your strength! Your kids are so fortunate to have a loving father to raise them and may you have much joy from them. I too was a little girl when my father died, and my brother was even younger, but G-d gave us an incredible mother who not only raised us but nurtured us with every fiber of her being and we have many happy memories. Now that I am a mother think back to that time and am filled with awe at how she did this all by herself, and thank G-d for her every day. Your children will do the same.

(2) Anonymous, December 24, 2017 4:04 PM

Kol HaKovod

כל הכבוד to you!
Hashem gave you a challenge and you did not question, pity yourself, nor go into a depression. You lifted yourself up and faced the test with full trust in the Almighty, raising a beautiful family.
May Hashem send you a kind, warm, beautiful and righteous woman to enable you to build a Bayit Neeman B'Yisroel through joy and happiness.

(1) glenda LaFont, December 24, 2017 3:51 PM

What a fine young man.


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