Lori Gilbert Kaye: A True Woman of Valor

May her memory be a blessing.

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Comments (18)

(8) Raymond, May 4, 2019 1:10 PM

Only the Good Die Young

Time after time, it seems that it is the kindest, most wonderful human beings who end up being victims of acts of pure evil. I do not quite understand why this is, but I have to say that that can sure discourage one from being a good person. Why be good, if the result is that G-d removes us from this Earth?

Eli K, May 6, 2019 8:45 AM

I hear your pain...

I can hear the pain seeping between the lines of your comment, but I'd like to share a response that I hope will ease it a bit.
There are also many people who leave this world without changing it in the slightest or impacting those around them for the better. They don't get articles written about them, or eulogies publicizing their greatness. They go quietly, and go unmissed.
When someone so great is taken from us, it encourages those of us who are left to get to know their legacy and emulate it. To the contrary of your comment, it behooves each of us to be a better person once we learn of the great life that was led - and lost.
So please, continue striving for higher. And don't worry - G-d is not out to get you for it.

(7) Joseph A Apicella, May 1, 2019 1:20 PM

Torah and Lori

The closest many people will come to the Torah is the life story of Lori. Such people are a blessing to humanity.

(6) Elze, May 1, 2019 11:06 AM

I got to know this wonderful woman Lori because of this video. Even her tragic death is an act of kindness because she saved so many through her brave act. May Hashem bless her family and the Congregation!

(5) Jerrey Weiss, May 1, 2019 5:06 AM

What a senseless waste

What a senseless waste of as beautiful life

(4) Timothy Breuninger, May 1, 2019 2:36 AM

Selfless Love

Lori sacrificed her own life that others might live. There is not a word in the english language to describe that kind of love. Two questions:
1. Is there a Hebrew word that describes such love?
2. Was Lori the daughter of Dr. Gilbert, former team physician for the San Diego Chargers, Gulls, and Rockets?
Timothy Breuninger
El Cajon, CA

Jewish Mom, May 1, 2019 10:26 AM

It's called mesirut nefesh

Mesirut nefesh (or the American-yeshivish version - mesiras nefesh) would be the closest Hebrew term: willingness to sacrifice one's life for the love of a cause - whether the love of G-d, others, goodness or justice.

Timothy Breuninger, May 4, 2019 9:50 PM

Thank You

Thank you Jewish Mom

Alan S., May 1, 2019 3:44 PM

She was the daughter of Dr. Richard Gilbert, a podiatrist and former team podiatrist for the San Diego Chargers.

Anonymous, May 1, 2019 9:27 PM

Hebrew word for Love

There is no word in hebrew that describes love the way we know it today.
The hebrew word for love is "ahava." The root word of "ahava" is "hav," to give.
To give to make another happy is the definition of "ahava." That is true love.

Anonymous, May 4, 2019 9:51 PM

Thank You

Thank you

Anonymous, May 4, 2019 11:06 PM

Thank You Alan S

Thank you Alan S for verifying what I thought to be true. As a volunteer chaplain, I first met Lori while she was visiting her mother. I met both Lori and her parents at the same time. From the moment I met her I knew there was something special about her. She carried with her a presence of love and influence. Her dad told me he once worked with the Chargers and other sports teams in the medical field. After conversation and prayer, I offered him a free copy of the book "They Thought for Themselves: The Story of Ten Amazing Jews" by Sid Israel Roth. Dr. Gilbert received it with joy! I pray that book was a blessing to his entire family. Lori Gilbert Kaye was herself an Amazing Jew!

Reuven Frank, May 2, 2019 5:13 AM

Yes. "Ahavah"; BUT...


You have no ideas of the ENORMOUS Honor you pay to her memory with this question!

Words that come straight from Biblical Hebrew are imbued with layers upon layers of meaning.
In the Kabbalistic numbering system, "Ahavah" (love) is linked strongly to the concept of Oneness (through the Hebrew sord for one: "Echad".)
Oneness and unity.
The true Jewish concept of love is "To Be One".
One with God.
One with yourself.
One with your spouse. and, lastly, and perhaps most greatly,
One with the Jewish People.

Lori exemplified and embodies this idea with her life, literally and figuratively.

(Jews just LOVE to tell stories and I'm no exception:)
Rabbis are not just teachers of Talmud and one of mine had a particular gift for lessons that were character building and developing.
He told my group once, that Rav Aryeh Levine (active in much of the 20th century) went to the doctor with his wife.
Rav Aryeh said to the doctor, "Her foot hurts US."
He embodied the sharing in her pain as their pain.

My Rabbi then said, "The problem is that, today, with our spouses [he included himself in this and told us so], this is a really nice story.
For Rav Aryeh, it WAS like that.

There is a concept in Judaism that every Jew is accountable to some extent for every other.
Some of us feel it more and some less.

Lori clearly felt it a so much more.

Anonymous, May 3, 2019 12:07 PM

Beautiful Post

Thank you !

Timothy Breuninger, May 4, 2019 10:21 PM

Thank You

Thank you very much Reuven Frank for diving deep into Biblical Hebrew and revealing this layer. Thanks also for your kind words and for that good story that illustrates true love.

(3) Laura, May 1, 2019 12:57 AM

Mrs. Gilbert-Kaye is a blessing. May all of us be led by her example. May her family always be surrounded by love and peace.

(2) Anonymous, April 30, 2019 3:38 PM

Lori the hero

Tragedy is not an adequate word to describe what happened on that fateful day. What a waste of a wonderful, productive life. And I need to say that it also proves my position that no good deed goes unpunished. It’s a cynical view, but it’s proven over and over again loud and clear.

Her killer will live a life of hell on earth, but it’s no consolation for her family and friends.

(1) Jonathan Easton, April 30, 2019 2:16 PM

Only Tears

Only Tears from us in this world. But certainly, the gates to Gan Eden are open for Mrs. Lori Kaye.


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