The Three Most Important Words in a Relationship

And they’re not what you think!

With thanks to Dr. Meir Wikler and Rabbi Paysach Krohn.

Comments (20)

(19) nigel, April 1, 2021 3:40 AM

good insights

(18) Anonymous, June 25, 2014 12:40 AM


when I told my husband that the title of the video was about the most important three words, you know what he said?
"YOU ARE RIGHT!!" either way it's okay!

(17) Jaya, December 20, 2013 6:33 AM

Three important words

Indeed , these three most important words reveal honesty and most importantly honesty with the self . Without which no relationship can work , least of all relationship with the self.

(16) Lisa, March 3, 2013 4:04 AM

"I'm sorry" seems so shallow compared to " I was wrong"

To say those words & really mean it takes strength! Good for anyone who is strong enough!

(15) Hersh, March 1, 2013 6:03 AM

4 most important words

In today's relationships the four most important words , that show you are willing to really communicate are " I'm off my phone".

Lisa, March 3, 2013 4:07 AM

I'm off the phone....

Circa 2013... You are so right !! These 4 words are priceless!!

(14) Anonymous, February 28, 2013 8:12 PM

I, too, have 3 very important words...

The most important 3 words in my marriage are "I appreciate you".

(13) zvi, February 28, 2013 5:43 PM

You are correct

This is spot on. Some of the best times in our relationship were after one of us said those words. A true repentance requires an effort not to repeat the transgression, so (in addition to that effort), I usually also add "and I'll try not to do it again".

(12) len, February 28, 2013 4:59 PM

I have 2words that Always works--------


(11) Anonymous, February 28, 2013 4:14 PM

"I am sorry?"...

"Please forgive me?"

(10) Neil Gelerter, December 6, 2011 4:03 PM

Only 3 words?

I have another 3 words that I find very important. They are Thank you Hashem. And please forgive me. All these words if used at the right time and to the right person(s) would help us to bring Moshiach now. You can find me on Facebook if you care to.

(9) Johanna, June 25, 2011 1:14 PM

Brings peace! Shows humbleness.

Honestly, I have always used those words with my husband, children, sisters ... ... all unpleasant arguments come to an end peacefully. It leaves the other person with nothing much to say further. I see nothing wrong in saying those words for the sake of peace.

(8) lisa, June 16, 2011 1:33 AM

Does "I am wrong" mean the other one was right??

I think these 3 words are very liberating.......I think if we say them sincerely they can elevate us. Aish is gr8...thanks for putting out the worlds greatest videos!!

(7) , February 22, 2011 6:56 AM

ilike very mch

(6) d, February 3, 2011 2:17 PM

i wish my housband would watch this!!!!(hes always right!!!!

(5) DEBORAH, January 27, 2011 5:55 PM


i am proud of Judaism

(4) Tsivya, January 25, 2011 2:17 PM


Some of us were taught by example that being wrong is life threatening; if you are wrong then your validity is called into question, that you are small and of no worth. There are people who have panic attacks when someone disagrees with them.

(3) Claudemiro, January 11, 2011 3:12 PM

Why is it so hard to say?

It's really hard to say we are wrong. Why? I wish I cound understand the hardness of saying it. My wife always tell me that I am wrong but I just can´t agree with her on this subject. Yes, I think I am always right (althought I know I make many mistakes). Why is it so hard to agree with people that desagree with us? Any help? My e-mail is and I would welcome your suggestions. Thank you.

(2) Anonymous, October 13, 2010 9:47 AM

Thank you!

Thank You......

(1) Anonymous, February 23, 2010 2:18 AM

just 4 u

read & weep


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