The Secret to My Parents' Magical Marriage

Every single morning of their marriage my father made my mom breakfast and wrote her a love note.

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Comments (15)

(15) B, November 12, 2020 9:23 PM

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(14) Anonymous, November 5, 2020 8:45 PM

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(13) Ellen kline, November 2, 2020 5:40 PM

Shelly Grafstein please email me. What a beautiful tribute !
I have tears. My Mom, Shirley is 95 and well.

Best,
Ellen ?

(12) Anonymous, November 2, 2020 8:59 AM

What a wonderful man! He knew the secret to happiness was making his wife feel loved and valued. In turn I'm sure she loved him to distraction too.

(11) Marianne, November 1, 2020 10:31 PM

I have a husband for almost 38 years just like your Dad.

He only writes me a card for my birthday, but each and every day he holds me in his arms, looks into my eyes and tells me what I mean to him and how beautiful I am. A marriage is like a garden, if it is cared for, nurtured and fed, sometimes weeded of only non-beneficial weeds and appreciated daily, it will produce fruits for all to enjoy, give beauty and become more amazing to behold each year.

(10) Betty Matz, November 1, 2020 9:56 PM

Beautiful

So nice to see a couple who continued to do all those loving behaviors throughout their relationship.

(9) RA'ANAN, November 1, 2020 9:16 PM

PERFECT!!!

NEEDED!!!
THANKS!!!

(8) Anonymous, November 1, 2020 7:38 PM

May G-d always bless The Berman Family with love!

(7) Shellie Berman Grafstein, November 1, 2020 5:20 PM

Thanks for your comments

My parent's marriage put a lot of effort, respect, love, and laughter into their marriage to make it what it was. They adored each other. Their personalities were totally opposite, which helped in this case. We used to joke that my mom could make best friends with a wall. She was so friendly. My dad was an introvert They had very similar values and a passion to be the best version of themselves.

(6) Anonymous, November 1, 2020 4:41 PM

So beautiful. So inspiring.

Thank you for sharing this wonderful insight into a beautiful marriage. Such a lovely video.

It reminds me of a story my mother told me the other day. She's been in hospital for the past month, and it was her birthday last week. She told the nurse it was her birthday and one of them asked her how old she was. She told her "89". The nurse said, "Oh, I wouldn't have guessed that. I would have guessed 82, 83....what's your secret?" My mother replied, "A good husband." ( my father passed away back in March 2009, so it's clear his goodness made her life that much better and has helped sustain her.)

May both your parents' memories be for a blessing.

(5) Shifra Slater, November 1, 2020 4:05 PM

Beautiful!

Shellie! What a beautiful idea to share all that . Many people will surely learn from your father and begin to show their love and appreciation more than they did before - and all the merit will accrue to you!

(4) Nancy Weisbrod, November 1, 2020 3:41 PM

your parents' influence

Shelley, your parents' influence on my marriage; your mom - PS Cooking means I love you, your dad - first time hearing about an 'ethical will' evidently fueled by his love for his wife.

(3) Anonymous, November 1, 2020 3:18 PM

Thank you very much for sharing a glimpse of a love that transforms lives.

This video graphically depicts moments in time that show what it means to love humanity as well as oneself. To be other centered and to think on things that edify life and joy.

(2) Anonymous, November 1, 2020 2:43 PM

Amazing

A good spouse is a bissel mazal! She hit the jackpot! We should all be blessed w spouses who love us & respect us ! A good mother in law is an extra bonus ( I wouldn’t know, but I’ve been told) !

(1) Alan S., November 1, 2020 2:09 PM

Wow!

What a wonderful tribute to your parents. When a person has an fairly imperfect marriage like mine, just knowing that an almost perfect marriage exists, like the Berman's had, is very inspiring. Both of your parents were obviously deeply in love. Additional words could not describe their marriage any better.

 

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