Tisha B'Av: The Root of Destruction

The meaning behind the tears.

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(171) Anonymous, August 11, 2019 5:04 AM

I have enjoyed the aish articles for years !!

(170) Anonymous, August 4, 2019 9:19 PM

Great message and true and beautifully and poignantly presented. We have so much greatness and ability in us and we do not believe in ourselves. If you feel an inspiration to do something reasonable, try, learn, fail, but eventually you build the inner conviction and belief in yourself and you will succeed. Why? Because G-d Almighty loves you and wants you to succeed and go from darkness to light, and all we have to do.....is begin. Charlie, great job.

(169) Anonymous, August 1, 2019 11:45 AM

Great, Great, Great!!! Thank you!

(168) Bernie, December 22, 2018 4:31 PM


Hi, How many years between the destruction of the First Temple until the destruction of the Second Temple? Thank so much in advance

Klaudya, August 12, 2019 5:33 AM

1st Temple was destroyed 422 BCE
2nd Temple was destroyed 70 CE

this link is a crash course about T-B'AV

(167) Anonymous, July 22, 2018 3:25 PM

Uplifting, inspiring, and great!

(166) Dina, August 14, 2016 7:05 AM

DEMAND the Third Temple!

The loss of our Holy Temple is the root of all of the problems of the Jewish people in today's world.... We give lip service every day to its restoration, but do we really want the Temple badly enough, with all our hearts, souls and with the very fiber of our being??? I don't think so! If we really wanted it, DEMANDED it, we Jews - no matter where we are in the world - would be out in the streets every day and every night demonstrating, raging, demanding from the "leadership" here in Israel to rid the Mount of the vermin currently controlling it and to start building the foundations of the Third Temple immediately! The G-d of Israel, once He sees that we truly want the Third Temple with all of our being, will take over and do the rest.

(165) Orli Corey, July 26, 2015 10:47 PM

Through G-d

Your message is good but should have emphasized that "with G-d behind us we can do anything that HE tells us to do. It is not about US it is all about HIM. THERE IS NOTHING BUT GOD!

(164) Anonymous, July 26, 2015 1:48 PM

Excellent Explanation

I was the one who thought others imagined themselves to be competent. This is the first time that I really got this. Thank You Mr. Harary. So my biggest challenge was recently, I gave others credit for helping me through it. That is not possible.
I wouldn't be where I am today if not for Hashem. And me doing all the tasks that had to to be completed in order to get
much better.

(163) Esther, July 26, 2015 12:44 PM


Thank you once again Charlie. You are amazing and your words never fail to inspire.

(162) zehava, July 26, 2015 9:15 AM


very clear and inspiriational message. And pertinent to our lives today

(161) andrea, August 5, 2014 11:47 AM

perfect explained exactly what I needed to know!

wonderful explanation just what I needed to know

(160) Joey, August 5, 2014 7:05 AM

I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks, and God bless!

(159) Steven Brown, August 4, 2014 7:24 PM

very well said.

(158) Susan Barth, July 16, 2013 1:01 PM

a perfect 10 for Tisha B'Av

I wanted this Tisha B'Av to be dedicated to self growth and inspiration for brining the moshiah and this was the perfect 10 video to see . Thank you for the brilliant message

(157) ester tarnogol, July 16, 2013 11:38 AM


Very clear words about our mistakes, all the best for you

(156) Chaya, July 16, 2013 2:30 AM


Thanks so much, this video was great. But one thing - I am watching this on tisha bav, and there is music in the background - aren't you not supposed to listen to music on tisha bav? But otherwise, it was very inspirational!

(155) Fangyu, July 31, 2012 5:07 PM

Toda Raba to Charlie Harary

Good insights.

(154) Bat-sheva Cohen, July 30, 2012 9:02 AM

Tefilah B'Har Habayit-- this year! WE CAN DO IT!

Great dvar Torah & video! So nu, let's go up to Har HaBayit B'Teharaha! We CAN DO IT! Contact the Machon HaMikdash for halakhic instructions if you are not aware of them. Become aware of them--there is plenty of room up there where we are allowed to walk! The next generation is depending on us!

(153) Anonymous, July 29, 2012 5:43 PM

wow this was so inspiring and soooooo true!!!

(152) Chani, July 29, 2012 4:37 PM

Even more!

I used this concept when I wrote my sister's graduation speech, and it goes even farther than that. When Moshe Rabbeinu asked the meraglim to find out if the residents of the Land lived in machanayim or mivtzarim, camps or fortified cities, he meant it as a gauge of their strength. If they lived in camps, without protection, they were obviously capable of protecting themselves, strong opponents. If they lived in fortified towns, they were weak, relying on the walls to save them. However, when the meraglim came back, they were so cowed and determined to be afraid that they twisted their own findings! To them, fortified cities, far from being signs of weakness in the inhabitants, were signs of strong people. They took a qualification that was supposed to reassure and made it into a problem. They were so scared, they didn't even give the Land a chance. They even mentioned first that "hayinu beEINEINU kechagavim," that they were in THEIR OWN eyes like grasshoppers, before mentioning that so they were "beEINEIHEM," in the eyes of the giants. Their fear took them over and influenced their entire viewpoint. (Thanks Rebbetzin Twerski!) May we be zoche to be rejoicing in Yerushalayim this time next year.

(151) Anonymous, July 29, 2012 4:33 PM

amazing i love his speaches it really help me undersdtand the fast even morer thank you

(150) Anonymous, July 29, 2012 2:53 PM

great thought for tisha b'Av and always

Fantastic idea, and you are a great example. I could have used this precept of the destruction as a direct result of insecurity... Love it, but one small criticism: the word auspicious is misused (portends future but with positive connotations). Sorry, but I guess you know now why i didn't accomplish what i should have in my life: perfectionism. We don't need perfection, we are good enough!

(149) Ileana, July 29, 2012 2:26 PM


Omg! That's exactly what I needed to hear!

(148) ruth, July 29, 2012 1:00 PM

after seeing this video I feel " YES, I CAN" will be my new attitude thank you for your inspiring video

(147) naftali, July 29, 2012 4:27 AM

Very Nice


(146) S. Kauffman, July 28, 2012 6:23 PM


(145) Scott, July 27, 2012 7:28 PM

The message is so true and straightfoward. Thank you for the video

(144) Anonymous, July 27, 2012 11:32 AM

Gamze L' Tov/Ish gam zu

Just use my first name...Roger If everything happens for a purpose why do we mourn? It was meant to be, and perhaps it is a lesson for us examine our ways. Appreciate your comments on this question.

(143) Adrian, July 27, 2012 6:37 AM

I hadn't thought of it like that, and this has been a issue with me for some time. Thank you for the message.

(142) Bobbie, July 27, 2012 4:17 AM



(141) Chaiah Schwab, July 26, 2012 3:40 AM


This spoke to my heart. Rebbe Nachman of Breslov says our obstacles appear to us like mountains, but in reality they are as spider webs that we can push right through if we just try. (with g-d's help) so many times I've found this to be true.

(140) Anonymous, July 25, 2012 4:06 PM

I once had an extremely strict and hard rebbi. He was a very big believer in having fun, but only when it was time. Thusly, I thought it was very uncharacteristic of him when he took us rock climbing around the beginning of the year. But when we got back he explained his logic. He told us that he'd wanted to prove to us that we could accomplish anything we tried... if we tried. We established that many of us had scaled walls which at first had seemed impossible, but when we tried it we made it to the top. This was the lesson he had been trying to teach us. This is the lesson emphasized in this video. This is a lesson for life.

(139) Anonymous, July 23, 2012 3:52 PM

Beautifully Said

wow thanks so much for bringing that down to such an understandable level and such a deep point

(138) suzyb2750@hotmail.com, July 23, 2012 7:29 AM

I know how it feels when a task feels difficult and I'm not sure how to accomplish it. But I agree that we should be aware and trust that G-d has given us the tools to accomplish what we need to do. And so while it might be difficult, we can do it.

(137) ruth housman, July 22, 2012 8:28 PM

the root and the routes to redemption

I believe we're all in a story and that this story is massive, ongoing, and vastly intelligent, so I have to agree with Charlie that Yes we can, is the refrain of our time. It seems we were thrust into a vast Story with a learning curve, and you have explicated this very well, with great passion. Yes, I believe as you do. I wonder if anyone has asked the question I have asked, and that is, Why THIS story? Why THAT story? Why the story of the Jews? Why the Christian story? Why the Buddhist story? etc. And then there are our very personal stories in which like Moses, we are brought through the desert, hopefully towards personal redemption, as in never being "deserted" and that knowledge. The answer I am explicating on line, as best I can, in letters, is that God wrote The Entire Story, and words themselves contain the keys. For me it's a gift. It's being tossed the keys to a cosmic story. My impetus is to share. I am experiencing massive synchronicity, the astonishment of connects via story, and of course this has to involve us all, and a Prime Mover. So I keep an ongoing record. There are two streams coming together here, and the other has to do with the astounding alchemy of words crossing Babel. I know YOU are right in what you gifted us here, in speaking of a time of Lamentation and how we can turn this around. I have to know, because God does not renege on Promises, and there is a Promise that's going to be actualized and we do the work! So yes we can. Make of life a masterpiece, live it with tikkun, hold hands around the world, and we're moving towards a Master Peace.

Channah Yael, July 23, 2012 11:21 AM

Master Peace...I love that!! Thank you for your spirit, your presence here. Channah Yael

ruth housman, July 24, 2012 6:48 PM

Life is a Mystery

Thank you, Channah Yael. Such a beautiful name. I see in breaking down the word mystery itself, "my" "story". I believe we each have a story, and a reason for being here. I believe these stories will intersect, as everyone we meet is part of a dance we do with each other, and it could be, we are each granted a piece of the puzzle, and what we do with each other is consciously and unconsciously give and get back. The cosmic puzzle, the Big Mystery, has myriad parts, and I believe, the pieces are moving together faster now, as a big chunk of the puzzle has been completed, and as in any puzzle, it's easier and faster to find and put together the remaining parts. Then we finally see: The Big Picture. I see we're moving fast towards 2020, which does mean, in English, "Perfect Vision". Since I live in the metaphor, and see vast metaphoric connectivity that dominates our lives, I see a "sea change" that iwll make great waves around the world, and may they be for greeting, for love, and for mutuality and hugs. Maybe there will be a time to Dance! We can do this together!

(136) Anonymous, July 22, 2012 4:03 PM

Where was G-d in your discussion

A huge point is missing in this video. It is Hashem that helps us achieve and accomplish everything. To think that if we just try hard enough is rather egocentric and lacks modesty yes, try yes do, yes believe in yourself but it is Hashem that cares and controls evey detail in our life evey moment of every day. It is Hashem who calls the shots

avraham, July 25, 2012 4:53 AM


He is saying we should mourn over the things that Hashem gave us the ability to do but we did not. So no, Hashem was not missing from the video.

(135) michaEL, July 22, 2012 3:49 PM

It was not doubting "self" so much as it was the Promise of the Almighty. We doubted what HE said.

(134) Marcia Kareff, July 22, 2012 3:32 PM

Thank you so much. Not only for inspiring me; but giving me courage; hope; and condidence. Through this tape I was also able to see whereu many of my actions stem from.I did not realize that so many of my actions and feelings are because of my earlier teachings ; and my upbriging. I do so many things that are approprate in timing and are right for me to be doing. As a parent; it ia very comforting to experience this; and know that what we are taught as children does stay with us throughout our lives. And; does have a positive influence on who we are; and the decisions we make even as a adult. Again; thank you for all you do. There is definitely strenght in comradary. B.H.

(133) Anonymous, July 22, 2012 3:19 PM

So true- this is exactly the secret of our redemption. But we continue the cycle of trying to appease the international community and the enemy in our land, we refuse to support new authentic leadership based on Torah values as in Manhigut Yehudit with Moshe Feiglin- thinking we just can't assert ourselves on a leadership level. Thank you for this inspiration- hopefully will open some hearts and minds to new possibilities for Am Yisrael.

(132) Joseph Gutman, July 22, 2012 1:17 PM

And you are so right...

It is not about fear, it is about fear and doing it anyway. The greatest risk, is not taking a risk at all. NEVER AGAIN!

(131) Steven, July 22, 2012 1:07 PM

Awesome! Inspiring! Charlie's done it again!

Awesome! Inspiring! Charlie's done it again! Let's do it!

(130) Anonymous, July 19, 2012 8:42 PM


So clear, so inspiring and so thought provoking. Thank you for this!

(129) Anonymous, July 15, 2012 8:09 PM

Truly Inspirational.

Truly inspirational message. Thank you!

(128) Jay Z, August 9, 2011 9:57 PM

Thank you - Well Done Charlie!

We need more material like this to inspire the masses. CHAZAK !!!

(127) Chana Tova Sokol, August 9, 2011 8:42 PM

really something to learn, wow

Last video of Charlie's on mode ani was tops, this is great,too. Travelling on a bus from the Kotel an hr. ago, a lady stood up and told us: mode ani is so great. A medical convention took place & one scientist spoke: the first 12 seconds of waking up are filled with danger. One fromme dr. said,"not for me. I say 12 words: the mode ani." Besides Aish videos I have divrey Tora on Bus line 2. Keep making videos for us, Charlie! cannot depend on shiurim on the bus

(126) Anonymous, August 9, 2011 6:01 PM

wow, just wow! thank u 4 inspiring me. have an easy fast!

(125) Anonymous, August 9, 2011 4:18 PM

Wow! this gave me the chills and really left an impact on me to never say "I CANT"!

(124) Chana Bracha Kornfeld, August 9, 2011 8:54 AM

A Keeper

Saw this on Tisha B' Av but am going to view this often during the year so I can remember how to get the job of Hashem done.

(123) alexander aberham hchon feldbaum, August 9, 2011 6:28 AM

very,very good.

"I can't" is the on going problem, which began from the beging of time. G-d said. Do repentance. The 1 st. man said, I can't. Averham said, How Will I Know? Moses said, I can't speak.

(122) Anonymous, August 9, 2011 2:29 AM

thank you

thank you... this nearly made me cry...as i finally understand

(121) Sheldon Kirschbaum, August 7, 2011 11:46 PM

Fear of failure or stage fright.

The fear of failure can be stronger than the exhilaration of success. Not to try equals not to fail. Stage fright keeps many a budding singer, actor off the stage. Fear of peer ridicule keeps students quite. Parental critique is less if one never tries.

(120) Morah Debbie, August 7, 2011 3:31 PM

Another awesome one!

Charlie--I always click on your stuff first. Always rewarded! Keep em coming!

(119) Anonymous, August 7, 2011 2:52 PM


I am in a wheelchair. I won't allow myself to be a grasshopper. Your words inspire me to believe i can do so much and not to feel defeat. thank you.

(118) Daniel Rotenberg, August 5, 2011 6:50 PM

Tisha B'av

Wow!!! What a powerful and amazing video of simply not believing in ourselves... I never thought about it before, but were sometimes our own worst enemies in thinking negatively about our abilities... This teaches us if Hashem believes in us we should WANT to show him and ourselves we can do it... I know I will make an effort to believe in my ability to do the things I'm supposed to...

(117) chaim, August 2, 2011 11:24 PM


excellent question, fantastic answer!

(116) miriam, August 1, 2011 1:57 AM


(115) Adrian, December 4, 2010 12:51 PM

Action, not fear.

This clip has just made me relise how important it is to act upon changing the world in my local area in the hope of the eternal redemption that we all hope fore. I always wondered what that passage about the spies was all about, and I can see that this attitude is still prevelent today in our generation. If we are to make a differance in this world in our life time, I and you need to act without hessitation if you have been given a task to do by HaShem. But of cause we have been given a task to do havent we? That is a part of being in the faith of Israel, to be a light to the world, etc. Well done with this clip.

(114) frank navy, August 6, 2010 11:50 AM

the power in the message

this was one of the most inspiring videos I have ever seen.it gives me hope. it gives me renewed zeal.I will watch this video again and again. thank you

(113) Heather, August 5, 2010 6:10 PM

A matter of worship?

So hits the mark. We can't....Are we truly worshipping another/ourselves when we say we can't when G-d says with Him all things are possible? When He says go and we say we can't - is that following/worshipping another and not our G-d? Thanks so much for such a strong reminder. G-d is saying trust Me and go! Let us not put our trust in another or ourselves who convinces us 'I can't'.

(112) Anonymous, August 3, 2010 2:54 PM

A lesson for today

They waited 40 yrs to get to the promise land, and then to hear a report like that, that is what brought them to tears, the disappointment their dream wasn't going to come to past, as they thought and it came to pass, they didn't for most of them. Today, we hope and pray for the building of the 3rd Temple, the house to bear Hashem, where his name will dwell. Or for those who hope to go to Israel in their lifetime. If we were told we will not see it in our lifetime, it brings us tears of sadness; hope that does not come to pass makes our hearts sick. Better to hope and be glad and live in joy from that hope so we do not displease or show unbelief in the power of Hashem. Charlie, a much needed reminder you gave us. The three weeks can be such a time of hope for the future, when the Temple will be rebuilt. Then after the three weeks, doubts can cross the mind, "will we see it in our lifetime?" Thanks Charlie for telling us to keep believing!

(111) Marsha, July 26, 2010 3:27 AM

I really enjoyed this

This was so moving, so uplifting, I really liked it. I will watch it again and again, especially if I am having an "I can't" kind of day. Thank you!

(110) Moshe, July 21, 2010 11:26 PM

@Daniel (103)

Where was G-d? I will never forget the response given to me by a member of my Synagogue in response to the infamous question "Where was G-d at Auschwitz?" His reply was simple and yet so powerful: "G-d was up in the heavens telling the world '"Do not kill. Do not steal. Love your neighbour as yourself"'

(109) sarah, July 21, 2010 5:59 PM

Finally someone else said this besides me. Bravo and thank you!

(108) Annie, July 21, 2010 3:31 AM

more connected

I am in my first year of 'frum immersion' life, so it's my first experience at shul for Tisha B'av; the fast was a none issue it was a meaningful experience Next year I hope to remember to bring my high density doughnut cushion to sit on the floor at shul The guest rabbi explained the loss of the MIshkan as the loss of a mother at her child's birth who in turn survives chilbirth, and her yarzheit as the parallel to Tisha B'av, and unfortunately most jews don't even know about Tisha b'av Lots of tears all evening long

(107) steve, July 20, 2010 11:07 PM

Eliyahu Rosen does some og the greatest videos. I've become a BIG fan.

(106) Malky S, July 20, 2010 10:17 PM


That was great. kol kakavod

(105) Anonymous, July 20, 2010 6:17 PM

Nice, but...

This was nice but missed the point. We are not at a business seminar getting inspired to do a takeover. We should be sitting on the floor crying that our sins caused the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash. It's not about ME, and "yes I can attitude" It's about what we did wrong and begging Hashem to forgive us and giving us another chance.

(104) Cheli, July 20, 2010 5:16 PM

Thanks for giving me the power to believe I can

Your words were an opening eye for to start believing that I can and the art that I create will be known to the world. Your powerful words will be a guide line to my life. Thanks Cheli p.s DARCHEI ELOYIM NISTAROT

(103) Daniel, July 20, 2010 3:16 PM

The picture of the father holding his baby girl under the sights of the nazi guard, may their name be utterly destroyed, rends my heart each time i see it. it simply encapsulates everything we mourn on this day. it begs the question, where's the mother? what's the girl saying? what's the father answering? how do they react to the sea of corpses around them? where's the guard's mother? where's God?

(102) Tikva Cohen, July 20, 2010 2:40 PM

Let's Not Forget Acts of Kindness

BSD When one lives in the Land, Eretz HaKodesh...already they are helping to fulfill the Goal of bring the Bais Hamigdash and Moshiac!! Nice clip, aval it mentioned only about what mostly about what "you can ...what you can achieve" !! With all due respect..these are very troubled times...and there are so many who are not even the basics ...infants, children and their parents....do an act of kindness..and next time you are asked...help by giving Tzdacka to Eretz Haodesh!! You might just find, that when you help someone else, even if you have less than usual, Hashem will protect and help you!! But do it just for the sake of helping another Jew!! Tzfat email tikvacohen@yahoo.com for families in dire need! Be blessed with Shefa!

(101) Moshe, July 20, 2010 2:27 PM

Truly inspirational.

This short video has made me think for hours. Only last week did I meet a situation and say "I can't, I can't" and as you said, I failed every attempt. When I said to myself "I can", I improved. Thank you for this video.

(100) Esther, July 20, 2010 1:59 PM


A truly amazing and inspirational clip. I would love to turn it into a feature film. A rabbi at Aish once told me that it's not my faith in Hashem but my faith in myself that will bring me the success in life I seek. To have a true partnership with G-d you must have faith both in yourself in Him.

(99) avi ben shmuel, July 20, 2010 1:49 PM

close but no cigar

its right that we go back to 1200BCE to understand the root of Tisha b'Av. But unfortunately the perspective stated here, gets close to putting G-d in the center but misses. It misses the fact that we simply belong to G-d and to refuse to obey a direct instruction is the same rebellion we have..the world has...walked in from the Fall. When the creator of the universe gives a direction to His creation, consideration of the results should not even be a secondary matter. Job's words set the mark of righteousness for us. "If He slay me yet will I serve Him." The fact that G-d is able to cause anyone to succeed at anything He calls for is a given...or should be. But if we are focused first on our own lives, what's in it for us, what will it cost us etc. we have begun to build on a faulty foundation. The question is simple though the answer is subtle. Is the life we have ours or G-d's? Do we live unto Him or to ourselves? G-d does not exist to help us. We live to bless Him.

daniela, August 9, 2011 2:55 PM

G-d does not exist to help us. We live to bless Him. These are beautiful words.

(98) Debbie, July 20, 2010 11:37 AM

A very nicely done clip. Truly inspirational. Since I listened to it on Tisha B'Av (and generally during the three weeks), I think you should take out the music.

(97) Anonymous, July 20, 2010 8:57 AM

I feel that the people who are not afraid of settling Israel and especcially the settlements are actually rebuilding the temple according to the logic of this film. And the people who are afraid and giving away the land that g-d gave us is only keeping us in exile. May the 3rd temple be rebuilt quickly in our time!

(96) lb, July 20, 2010 8:06 AM

beautiful mssg-never heard it from this perspective before...

(95) Mel, July 20, 2010 5:42 AM


I wasn't expecting it, but this actually made me cry.

(94) Anonymous, July 20, 2010 5:11 AM

Faith in G-d

I completely agree with "Anonymous 73"

(93) Tamar, July 20, 2010 4:28 AM

Thank you, this was a wonderful explanation to bringing relevance and a connection to tisha b'av today. Aish almost never fails...thank you agian

(92) Anonymous, July 20, 2010 3:22 AM


(91) BEN, July 20, 2010 2:31 AM


"yes we can" is not message of tisha beav, tisha beav is we gotta be sad about loss of the beis hamikdash.

(90) Avromy Segal, July 20, 2010 2:26 AM


Good Job Charlie, I always look forward to your Videos!

(89) AnOnYmOuS, July 20, 2010 1:41 AM

spread the word guys!

excellent video - I just posted it to my fb wall and so should you guys... or e mail it to your friends... I figured many ppl on tisha bav will be bored and on the computer...people should have a few minutes to watch a movie about the day they are fasting or even if they are not fasting the day which is a "big deal" in judaism...

(88) Chai, July 20, 2010 12:50 AM

Life in a Nutshell

Thank you for this beautiful video. I was wondering how I would ever connect to Tisha B'av and getting down on myself for not being where I should be. I feel far from God and from myself. I just watched this film at the start of Tisha B'av and it so spoke to my soul. THIS IS MY STRUGGLE!! I so identify with this story of the spies and often feel like I cant, not good enough, etc. In fact my hebrew birthday is 29 Sivan, which is the day the spies were sent. I always wondered how this related to my life and what the connection is. I have found that my biggest struggle in life is believing in myself. Oh I believe in God, but have a hard time believing that He believes in me. This video gave me a whole new meaning on Tisha B'av and how it actually relates to me personally. I hope that this message will stay with me and help me to build my self-esteem, my life and my future. I dont want to know of pain, confusion, despair and destruction. May this message give hope to all people out there that WE ARE NOT GRASSHOPPERS AND IF GOD SO INTENDED, HE WOULD OF MADE US SMALL AND GREEN!!!

(87) Donald Mattison, July 20, 2010 12:16 AM

Excellent article; the main point was clear and valid

I think that the commentary on Tisha B'Av are very relevant and true--very similar to the old saying "Attitude determines Altitude." I believe a faithful attitude is key. False tears are, for me, a bit like bearing false witness. This lesson in truth and faith is applicable to all cultures and societies--as is the lessons we learn from Jewish history. Thank you for the thoughtful lesson. Don

(86) Anonymous, July 19, 2010 9:55 PM


the backrounds were nice

(85) Anonymous, July 19, 2010 8:59 PM


Amazing and very insperational.

(84) Anonymous, July 19, 2010 8:30 PM


Thank you so much!

(83) , July 19, 2010 5:32 PM


I am a fan of motivational speakers and new age self improvement and enjoyed the message of Mr Harary, like most of the other commentators. But my question is whether this interpetation of tisha bav is indicative of judaic sources or history. Is there any rabbinic source for this interpetation? From my limited understanding tisha bav, it is not about me, and becming empowered, but rather about focussed mourning and sadness, which is not as catchy but at least true to the source.

(82) Anonymous, July 19, 2010 5:02 PM

Thank you

I wanted to thank all Aish and Aishlatino group for the effort you make everyday so jews fro all around the world have the paleasure to read and listen to this amazing articles. Tzom Kal to all. Best wishes from Chile.

(81) Margarita Cradenas Gil, July 19, 2010 4:13 PM

A very very great lesson to take on acccount. Thank you

(80) Liliana Leitman, July 19, 2010 1:42 PM

You ommitted the 2005 destruction of Gush Katif

The distruction of Gush Katif (the 25 beautiful Jewish communities of Gaza) occured on Tisha Be'Av 2005. The difference is that all previous Tisha Be'Av calamities were caused by others. The Gush Katif calamity was caused by our own people, the Government of Israel itself! Please add this event to your inspiring video if you can.

(79) Kip Gonzales, July 19, 2010 1:06 PM

Great stuff! Negative thinking and talking is always destructive! You reap what you plant. "A man´s stomach shall be satisfied from the fuit of his mouth, and from the produce of his lips he shall be filled. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:20-21.

(78) rena, July 19, 2010 12:28 PM

LOVED the message. AIsh is always very inspiring.

(77) Nir, July 19, 2010 11:59 AM

What about the fall of Beitar?

As much as I know the history, Bar-Kokhva was not afraid to rebel against the evil Roman Empire, and the intention of Hadrian Caesar to build a temple for Jupiter on the holy mountain. But the rebellion ended with the fall of Beitar and a complete destruction. I think that to this day the Jewish People has not fully recovered from the trauma caused by the fall of this rebellion, and is still afraid to take actions against its enemies...

(76) Michael /Sweden, July 19, 2010 8:52 AM

Very interesting, new approach to me. Shifting what seem to be a very old tradition into modern perspective.

(75) Anonymous, July 19, 2010 4:04 AM


This is a very inspiring Message.

(74) ariel altalef, July 19, 2010 3:57 AM


(73) Anonymous, July 19, 2010 1:14 AM

Faith in G-d

It was NOT self-confidence that was lacking when the spies gave a bad report but faith in G-d to enable them to take the land. God doesn't want us to look at what circumstances looks like but to put our confidence in Him just as Joshua and Caleb did.

(72) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 11:03 PM

Thank you, Charlie, for answering one of my questions as I approach Tisha B'Av this year. And, wow! -- what a way to shift the viewpoint and responsibility. Amazing insight from an amazing teacher.

(71) Sandra, July 18, 2010 10:13 PM

Inspiring and invigorating

Thank you so much for this inspiring message. There are many times when we feel small and powerless, overwhelmed by what look to us -- from our limited perspectives -- as impossible challenges. We think we are being rational, "realistic," and yet we are seeing things as if we were little green grasshoppers... I think of the amazing and wondrous breakthroughs and triumphs our people have experienced throughout all these ages... and I have to think (on a much smaller scale) of the amazing blessings and breakthroughs that have occurred and continue to occur in my life, sometimes unexpectedly and sometimes after tremendous effort on my part, (with instances of fear when I experience a "dark night of the soul.") It is not easy to have faith and courage when surrounded by oppression and strife fueled by all manner of misguided people... But we must abandon the sense that we cannot build a better world, that we cannot triumph. We create, and we create together with G-d; and perhaps our biggest challenge is to engage our own creative life force, that which makes us who we are as G-d's people. We must not trust our limited perspectives and yield to timidity. G-d requres not only our trust and our faith in Torah, but our courrage and effort.

(70) Yehudit, July 18, 2010 8:54 PM

Excellent !!!

Charles Harary is one of the gratest man working with aish hatora don´t le him leave !!!! His message is so powerfull and clear that touches hearts and marks people lives in a way they will be no longer the same. Thanks a lot for giving us the oportunity to hear this message !

(69) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 6:22 PM

I loved this video. Thank you!!!

(68) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 6:21 PM

Bravo! Excellent video. Phenomenal message beautifully and powerfully delivered.

(67) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 6:08 PM


very inspiring! I would like to point out to a couple of the commentators who had trouble with the message that i think you misunderstood a key point - we are not suffering today because of the lack of self confidence of the generation of the midbar and their 'I can't' attitude - G-d is not vindictive - we continue to suffer because we continue to have that same attitude - they introduced that concept to us and we have not corrected it yet - when we do and we actualize our potential then surely G-d will stop the suffering and bring Moshiach because we won't need any more reminders - think of a parent who needs to continue to discipline their child until a behavior is corrected only a parent who truly loves his child will put that effort in even if it looks like (to the child) that he is being unfair or even mean - the discipline is only for the child's benefit

(66) Dana, July 18, 2010 6:00 PM

Shalom from Romania!

I agree : Go home Jews, go home Charlie!

(65) Kendali, July 18, 2010 5:52 PM

God's Rhema To Our Days

I'm leaving the worst trials of my life and this video came just in time to rethink my attitude before the Almighty. May the Holy One receive my prayers for a believing heart despite anything bad around me, because I do not want to provoke His anger with umbelief. Our G-d is worthy of unconditional trust, unconditional surrender and unconditional rest of our soul and mind. Thank you so very much for bringing light into this subject. A job well done!

(64) Donn144, July 18, 2010 4:45 PM

Very inspiratonal

Great message and I will carry it forward. .Just one little thing..When the Spies say we appeared as Grass Hoppers..the word is Va'Nehee with a Patach not a Sheva

(63) Brenda Doubet, July 18, 2010 3:42 PM

Awesome message! Thank you for this reminder.

(62) Samuel, July 18, 2010 2:20 PM

What an outstanding message

Inspirational, with humour and expressive graphics. Wish everyone could see it and get the message. Wish we could all internalise the message

(61) David H., July 18, 2010 2:14 PM

Beautiful Charlie, Yasher Koach! At the same time...

Obviously, Hashem has to ALLOW us to build the Temple and restore the relationship of wholeness that we once we had. At the same time; We cannot have the Temple, if we don't build the Temple. And we cannot build the Temple if we're living in our Exile homes and mini Temples in the Five Towns and Los Angeles - Millions of miles away from our Biblical destiny and Homeland that was promised to us by Hashem as the authentic Jewush experience of life. What you say about being a better spouse is beautiful but be a better spouse in Israel or be a better father, but in Israel. We need our family home, so we be together and certainly to rebuild together. So come home Jews, come home Charlie!

(60) Davmo, July 18, 2010 2:13 PM

Our faith is not in ourselves it is to be in God. Psalm 144:1 Notice David say;s the Lord is my strength. As Gods people were to take the promised land. they listen to others and to themselves. And this cost them there land. If they would have been obediante with their faith in God. Things would have been greatly different. I enjoyed the the video. And realize I need to trust God in All things more then I have in the past.

(59) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 1:05 PM

Thankyou! Very nice video. My we always remember that we can and have faith in ourselves, in others and in G-d!

(58) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 11:19 AM

While that is true, Tisha B'av is because of lack of failth

While the message of self destruction is a valueable one. The sin of the 10 spies was speaking out against Hashem. Saying that It is not a good land and implying that even with hashem the jewish people will not succeed. We must always relie on Hashem, without Hashem we can not accomplish anything. With Hashem we can accomplish anything.

(57) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 10:57 AM

great job

excelent way of explaining tisha beav may this be the last time we cry tears of nothing

(56) Atara Patterson, July 18, 2010 7:07 AM

Encouragement Just In Time

I was so down and discouraged in spirit when I checked my email. I tearfully watched this video and realized once again how much God loves me. He spoke to me in this video with His love.

(55) Rachel Leah, July 18, 2010 6:49 AM

I loved it, amaizing, Aesome, this is an other way to understand the point 9 of Av, And is so thrue , maybe thet's why is so close to Rosh Hashanah, 9 of Av we cry for the things we couln't done because we thout we can't, but Rosh Hashana is arround the corner so we could have another oportunity, Thankyou!

Nancy, August 3, 2016 1:12 PM

To commenter #55 Rachel Leah

Yes! That thought jumped out at me. Perhaps the Yomim Norim (sp?) will give us another opportunity to correct mistakes made in the previous year. On an unrelated note, I did not know about Tisha Ba'av until I was 12 years old. I learned about it in my Jewish sleep away camp, and will be forever appreciative of this education.

(54) Yocheved, July 18, 2010 4:37 AM


Thank you so much for your inspiration and encouragement! I hope this message gets seen by ALL Jews!

(53) David Tzvi, July 18, 2010 4:19 AM


Great video presentation. Thank you very much.

(52) Roz Lipsitt, July 18, 2010 3:07 AM

Yasher Koach

Charley Harary hits another one out of the park! Thanks for the positive, inspiring message.

(51) Bobby5000, July 18, 2010 2:51 AM

An interesting and inspiring interpretation

This theme is how we limit ourselves when we say we cannot do things, even with G'd's help. The video is well-conceived and inspirational, though other interpretations are possible.

(50) Anthyon, July 18, 2010 1:38 AM

This is very profound and needs to be shared with all of our friends. The root cause is definitely clear.

(49) Anonymous, July 18, 2010 12:13 AM

Very Encouraging video

A very good video as it shows what we are on the inside as we always think that we are weak,but when God is with us how can this be so? We are strong so lets go on.

(48) Caroline, July 17, 2010 11:58 PM


Thank you for posting this video. It really means everything to me and should mean everything to everyone. THANK YOU!

(47) Anonymous, July 17, 2010 10:32 PM

I Get It

So when my mother said "stop your crying or I'll give you something to cry about" she got the idea of the meaning of Tisha B'Av? Will the punishment ever stop?

(46) Anonymous, July 17, 2010 9:08 PM

Simply Wonderful

This was simply wonderful. I've watched it several times, and each time it gives me something more to think about. Thank you.

(45) Uri Karzen, July 17, 2010 9:01 PM

9 AV message is alot more

Charlie, I love your messages, but this one you missed the point. It isn't only the issue of self deprecation, but the people's lack of belief that Hashem's plan was do-able. They claimed that the Torah was fine for the "Kollel" lifestyle in the wilderness, learning Torah and eating Manna. But once they had to conquer the land and build a State...whew, hold on. They said "KI Chazak hoo mimenhu": The inhabitants are stronger than Hashem himself. That is a strange statement coming from the same people who witnessed the 10 plagues, splitting of the sea, ect. Hashem isn't STRONG enough?! They claimed that there is no way to establish a Torah way of life in the land of Israel. It's too unworkable, wars, special mitzvoth like Shimta, Yovel. Too complicated. God's plan won't work. Until this day we are cry about the Jewish people's refusal to accept God's plan and make it work, in Eretz Yisrael. How about us less crying and more making Aliya?

(44) Anonymous, July 17, 2010 7:59 PM

It s a good film

(43) Do Lern Hwei, July 17, 2010 9:01 AM

Faith is the First Step to Victory

Well said, Eliyahu Rosen! We need to have faith in Hashem and then step forth to do What He wants us to do in this world today. Be a light unto the nations! That will be the way to usher in the age of Maschiach.

(42) Anonymous, July 17, 2010 6:17 AM

I have been attempting find out more about Tisha B'Av and that was a powerful and meaningful explanation. Thank you.

(41) Fred, July 17, 2010 6:00 AM

Very Inspiratioinal

Thanks. I enjoyed watching your video.

(40) Larry Butler, July 17, 2010 5:21 AM

liked it

liked the way you explained it and the message !!! something i was telling others for years now , didnt know anyone felt like me , until now

(39) Anonymous, July 17, 2010 4:10 AM


This was very powerful, but one thought comes to mind if all things are possible with G-d then it is HE that we need to rely on to do all things and perhaps if we make Teshuvah and apologize to G-d for the fear of our ancestors and cry out to HaShem for forgiveness HE will hear our cry and break the curse of yearly tears and turn our mourning into dancing? If in fact it is HE who will protect us through the coming days as found in Ezekiel 36-38 we need to be crying out to HIM now for HIS hand upon us.

(38) Eddie Hagler, July 17, 2010 3:13 AM

Close, very close...

It was actually thier disobedience and faithlessness that caused God to let them lose. He even told them not to go up against the inhabitants of the land. He told them that their children would take the land after their death. God Gave the children of Israel another chance, not to find it in themselves but to rely on him. Only with God's strength can we defeat the enemies of our God. It is not within us. It is within God. God only demands our faith and obedience to do what he wants. Then no one can stand against us because we stand with our father God.

(37) Suzan, July 17, 2010 12:51 AM


Insight from Ha Shem. Profound and life altering! Thank you!

(36) Debbie Litwack, July 16, 2010 9:06 PM

Great job, once again Charlie!

When will we REALLY learn our lessons and merit our final redemption and CELEBRATE in Tisha BaAv?!?!?

(35) Grace Fishenfeld, July 16, 2010 8:18 PM


i thought Tisha B'av had to do wi the the loss of the temple but now I learned it is about the loss of faith. That is an important reminder for all of us to trust in our God given ability to own up to challenge. Step up to the plate. Be active and believe and seize the moment Thanks for an inspiring video

(34) Carlos Ben Avraham, July 16, 2010 8:00 PM


Is WONDERFULL!!! It's a beautifull gift to the soul. Shalom Yisrael!!!

(33) Anonymous, July 16, 2010 7:34 PM


A timely message! May we take it to heart and do the right thing. The background video and presentation are both excellent. Thank you!

(32) David Gr, July 16, 2010 7:13 PM


Thanks for the video. It is very moving and good lesson for all people. Like I told an associate of mine once, "Don't tell me what you can't do but tell me what you can do."

(31) Abraham ben Itzhak, July 16, 2010 6:25 PM

The Message

I wish that that Message will "ring the bell" if not for all , at least for the "critical mass" of the Jews!

(30) Anonymous, July 16, 2010 6:24 PM


Thank you, that was an amazing video!

(29) Lori S., July 16, 2010 6:17 PM

This important message resonantes with deep meaning---that each Jewish person's life is a microcosm of what is being experienced in Israel today. If we believe in Hashem, truly trust in our Father and observe the Torah, then we will neither run nor will we be aggressors but rather we will unify and be strong in our personal lives. The unification of Jews will provide strength so that we may see the redemption in our days.

(28) Gabriel, July 16, 2010 6:00 PM

hope you can publish this without censorship

Now, the determinism which you advocate, that God would make the bnei Israel cry on that particular date could be very damaging for some people. The real question is, Why would God actually decide to punish millions in the times to come for the lack of confidence, 12 spies showed in the desert ? I mean according to your words, the first and second temple, the forced exile of spain ( which historically the signature of the decree was done on March or April 1st), also you added holocaust , which basically is like blaming God for the genocide of millions ,… all this because the spies lacked confidence? Your answer is basically that since you lacked confidence after all the great deeds you’ ve witnessed, then you will forever cry on this fateful date. At first hand it seems that God is full of ego and likes to get paid in tears and violence for whoever doesn’t have full confidence in His Supreme Being, just like a genocidal dictator. I would hope that its not the case, and that if God wanted to teach these men a lesson, there were other more “peaceful ways” to do it. We need to beware of these kind of exegesis interpretations, as they confound our dysfunction with God’s will. If there is free will, then God cannot intervene in our daily lives , its that simple , otherwise it’s like the dice are loaded, and if so, man’s responsibility would vanish. For those who blame the holocaust on the action of the non observant Jew, are by the same token washing away clean the deeds of Nazism , since anyway its all ordained by God . Now you will also need to acquit the German generals higher , since they were only part of a master plan orchestrated by the Supreme Being, you identified in your video. Distorting history to fit religious views is manipulating the commoners, whose thirst for knowledge has made them opened to accept anyone who speaks in the name of Torah. Jewish faith needs to escape from determinism .

(27) JOSEPH PAUL FOX, July 16, 2010 4:23 PM

Excellent video.............A wake up call for all people. Congratulations on your production. Many Blessings & Light, Joe

(26) Yaffa, July 16, 2010 4:08 PM

Thank you

I count down the days till another one of your films is released. They are such poweful messages that have never failed to leave me introspecting and sometimes in tears. Thank you.

(25) Robert Lovell, July 16, 2010 4:08 PM

how soon we forget

after all the misery in my life, untimelt deaths, illnesses, and loss of livelyhood, thank you for this wonderful piece, while we are not rich in monetary ways you have brought a brightness today.

(24) Anonymous, July 16, 2010 4:05 PM

Powerful thoughts

Mr.Harary, you have the wisdom of a sage. Thank you for this amazing video. Your words have touched my heart and answered so many questions we have as Jews. This is one of the best and most powerful videos I've ever seen on aish.com or anywhere else.

(23) Daniel S, July 16, 2010 4:03 PM

Can't wait to do it better

Thank you for the inspiring message. I know it's in me to not 'seem like a grasshopper'. Its a great reminder

(22) Nikki, July 16, 2010 3:36 PM

Wake Up!!!

Just finished watching this great short film, thank you for showing me the mirror to look in. Like many others from the past and present I too hid behind the "I can't ". Thanks for the wake up call, I needed it. Please continue your great work.

(21) Joyce Kubitz, July 16, 2010 3:36 PM

Remember Caleb and Joshua

Caleb and Joshua said that entry into the land was possible. They didn't mope and whine! Remember them!!

(20) behrouz kia, July 16, 2010 3:31 PM

thank you for the information

Dear Rbbies Even though I am not Jewish, I am Israel fanatic as I am an anti-Arab fanatic because they distroyed myn country, Iran/ So through your website, I am trying to learn more and more about jewish people and Israel. Thank you for the video, a very true and great story and I learned a lot. I have a Jewish friend' Michael and few days ago I told him about Tisha B'Av, surprisingly, he did not know about it. He is comming in tonight for dinner, I will show him the video. Thanks again. By the way, I am not a Muslim any more and have not been for fifty years. I became a Buddhist. behrouz kia

(19) Elizabeth McC, July 16, 2010 3:23 PM


Very well produced video with a powerful message, great sound effects and visuals. Thank you for sharing this message with me and many others.

(18) Anonymous, July 16, 2010 3:18 PM

That blessed my soul and renewed my mind

(17) MichaelGNoble, July 16, 2010 3:10 PM

Fantastic history overview; very insightful

This was well though out and is an excellent learning tool, as well as as, a reminder of what happened and what we need to do today. Thank you for this production.

(16) albert j moore sr, July 16, 2010 3:02 PM


(15) Donna Perel, July 16, 2010 3:01 PM

I Can't!

I am an assistant in a kindergarten and first grade classroom in a small cheder. There are two words that we tell our students that are not allowed, " I can't!" Thank you for your powerful message. I daven that I can internalize your very powerful message and that through bitachon give the Almighty the proper Kavod by the way I live my life! May our proper kavanah this Tisha B'Av bring the final Geulah!

(14) Elizabeth, July 16, 2010 2:53 PM

Thank you.

(13) Barbara Doan, July 16, 2010 2:41 PM

Does God say, SHALOM?

This adds a new perspective that I have never heard. Interesting. Does it not come down to trusting God: the One, who orchestrates, directs and empowers life (ours)? We are God’s children; created in God’s image. God knows and loves us. When we trust, are obedient, and do not fear; all is well. God takes care of all of the rest! As a parent desires the best for their child, God desires only the best for us. Yet yes, our response to Him is critical. SHALOM

(12) Kisha, July 16, 2010 2:37 PM

Let's transform!

I'll never forget what was said, so simple yet powerful. Let's all fight the negativity! Thank you for setting a reliable ground to Shabbat Chazon and Tisha B'Av and ever since... I hope to have the privilege to see many more deep concepts expressed simply. All best!

(11) bob w, July 16, 2010 2:22 PM


I think, I really got the message and meaning of Tisha B'Av

(10) Scott, July 16, 2010 2:18 PM

Thank you.

I believe this will help me to get over my fears and finish my dissertation. Thank you.

(9) Robert Brown, July 16, 2010 2:16 PM

So much to be learned from Jews

I am blown away by the depth of everything Jewish.Such meaning. Such faith. I love you guys. Thank you for all of your wonderful contributions to mankind. The world could learn much if only they would listen.

(8) Stanley M Robinson, July 16, 2010 2:11 PM

May we only cry tears of Joy forever more.

What a wonderful message and presented so well May we be Zocher to rebuild the Temple and turn the mourning into Simcha with the coming of Moshiac speedily in our days amen. Shabbat Shalom

(7) Karen Steele, July 16, 2010 1:32 PM


This came at the perfect time since I was seeing myself as the grashopper. It was the slap in the face that I needed. This is powerful and put in a fashion that anyone and everyone can get the message. Again I say "powerful" and thank you.

(6) zigi, July 16, 2010 1:28 PM


Amazing, thank you so much

(5) aa, July 16, 2010 12:57 PM

only one thing

That is a good message but you left out the most important part. It is only through our God we shall do valiantly. Psalm 60:12, 108:13 Who will lead me into the strong city?

(4) michael, July 16, 2010 12:51 PM


I think Aish missed the mark on is one. Maybe it's the histrionic presentation (like a business empowerment seminar) that turned me off or the statement "The first time that attitude was introduced to the world", but it doesn't ring Aish to me. In fact, to me the presentation presents Tisha B'Av in an idolatrous fashion which I don't think is the way it should be. Just my opinion. I could be wrong.

(3) lisa, July 16, 2010 12:30 PM

The 21st century Tisha B'Av

Another masterpeice from Mr. Harary!!!!! You brought Tisha B'Av into my own "daled amot"......thank you!!!! I went to many years of yeshiva....& post yeshiva & no one put it as concise as you just did!!! Thank you!

(2) Judy M, July 16, 2010 12:22 PM


Wonderfully said.

(1) Sarah H., July 14, 2010 4:52 PM


This is one of the most powerful messages I've ever heard. I am beyond words...thank you for writing and producing something that I believe will bear fruit in my life. Thank you :-)


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