Why 13 Is the Age for a Bar Mitzvah

Celebrating his Bar Mitzvah, Charlie Harary’s son explains what it means to become a man.

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(55) Anonymous, February 4, 2021 3:12 AM

Looking for a recommended book to teach middle schoolers about the 6 constant mitzvos.

While many of our middle schoolers receive extensive teaching about halachos and the Torah, more can be done with this age group in terms of hashkafa and understanding the underpinning of all the mitzvos. I teach middle schoolers and am looking for a source (preferably a book, not youtube or video) that could impart the lessons of the 6 constant mitzvos/hashkafa to this age group. Thanks for your help!

(54) Anonymous, July 31, 2018 1:49 AM

oh wow!

what a lovely young man!!!!!
I actually did not know that this was the reason, he explained it
so well!
May you have a lot of nachas from him and your other children!

(53) Ella Morgan, July 22, 2018 11:40 PM

Well done

If those were his own words, he is well on his way to manhood in the Jewish way. Blessings

(52) Anonymous, June 29, 2017 1:38 PM


What a beautiful and professional job!!
The content is amazing.I really enjoyed and learned from this.
Thank you

(51) Eitan Horowitz, November 21, 2016 7:24 PM

Great video

Today in my Torah class we were shown this video and it really sent a message to everyone in the room. Great Job

(50) Anonymous, November 15, 2016 12:29 AM


Lovely message and beautiful delivery. Mazel tov Moshe!

(49) Nancy, November 3, 2016 11:25 AM


I. LOVED. this. video.

(48) Anonymous, November 1, 2016 3:17 PM

Great Job. Your son is almost as good as you are. H.

Very impressed with your son's presentation. You have much to be proud of. H.

(47) Dina yaffa, November 1, 2016 3:00 PM

Charlie's son explains what being a bar mitzvah is.

Great video! Thank you! I am going to pass it on to our cousin who is being bar mistvahed in a few weeks.

(46) Shoshana-Jerusalem, November 1, 2016 2:15 PM


A beautiful presentation for such a young boy.

One other point: At 13 a boy becomes responsible to observe the Torah mitzvas (Commandments). Shabbos, Tefillin, kashrus, etc.
This is the main thing that distinguishes a Bar Mitzva boy from one who is not yet 13. You are really right that we have to choose, but the choice has to be to fulfil the Torah, which hopefully is your choice even though you didn't mention it.

With best wishes that you are shomer Shabbos, Torah and mitzvos.

(45) brian, November 22, 2014 7:21 PM


This video was moving. It touched me in a deep way. Brought tears to my eyes, thank you both. It is great to see a young man who can touch peoples hearts with love. Wonderful

(44) Akiva Bookman, September 22, 2014 6:56 PM

Amazing Amazing! Moshe I am so happy to see you on this video!


What is most amazing and telling about this video to me, your BIGGEST fan is this huge yesod!

Your kids what YOU love!

You love Judaism and giving to Klal Yisroel, to see Moshe run with his Judaism with so much love is such an inspiration to me!

What this tells me is forget the age-old style of chinuch of telling your kids what to do. (i am sure you never told moshe to do this video) JUST love Yiddishkeit, the Eibishter and other Jews and my kids will want to do what I do and love!

As the saying goes, "I doos, what my Daddy doos".

Charlie and Moshe, just keep up the love - its infectious!


Akiva Bookman

(43) Kenneth Rhodes, September 18, 2014 3:52 AM

This is a great video. Thank you Aish, Mr. Harary, and Mr. Harary for this wonderful video!

(42) Ari, September 14, 2014 11:47 AM

Great job!

Moshe, I love your dad's videos, but this time you are the MAN!
Mazel tov, and thanks to you and your dad for posting this video, I look forward to hearing more from you!

(41) yair, September 9, 2014 11:33 PM


great moshe I hope you do this agaim

(40) Rivka, September 8, 2014 8:08 PM


That video was amazing! Moshe you really take after your father...think you have your Bar Mitzvah drosha already written ;-) Now we know how you both remember your lines...screen at the end! Very well done to both of you, Moshe we hope to see more wonderful videos like that in the future and Charlie you're one of my favourite speakers. Thank you for raising your son to be the same way. Mazal Tov on the Bar Mitzvah!

(39) Anonymous, September 8, 2014 3:52 AM

A job Well done!

Ditto to all the above comments. Moshe, thank you for taking after your father, Charlie and being such an awesome, enthusiastic speaker!

(38) Anonymous, September 7, 2014 7:18 PM

Loved it!

Lovely twist to the usual format - it worked!

(37) Mrs. R., September 5, 2014 11:54 AM

Thank you, Reb Moshe

May we always continue to say of you: Äshrei yoladito!

(36) Anonymous, September 4, 2014 3:31 PM

Thanks :)

Well done, good job indeed!! Will share this video with my son whose currently 11 yrs old.

(35) Anonymous, September 4, 2014 11:59 AM


What a great video! Thank you so much for posting this!

(34) Aviva, September 4, 2014 2:51 AM

Beautiful! How nice to hear such words of wisdom of a young 'man'! N tu for the message behind it. Good reminder at all ages!!

(33) Anonymous, September 4, 2014 12:17 AM

i absouletly loved that. eventhough im not a man. nor at the age of 13 now

thank you!

(32) Shoshana-Jerusalem, September 3, 2014 8:38 PM

Mazel Tov

Mazel tov to the Harary Family on your son's Bar Mitzvah. .Moshe, may you use our great talent for learning Torah and growing in mitzvas and yiras Shamayim. It seems to me that you could be a great maggid shiur or even a Rosh Yeshiva one day! How about it?

(31) s s, September 3, 2014 5:19 PM

very inspiring

I'm not 13 now but never to late to learn amazing lessons and this definitely taught me something I haven't know before or maybe I did but didn't apply it to my daily life! Thank you

(30) yb, September 3, 2014 1:47 PM

This was great! Very inspiring! I intend to share this. Thank you.

(29) Tanta Susie, September 3, 2014 12:20 PM

Great job Moshe. You make a long line of family very proud! Mazel Tov again on your Bar Mitzvah. We love you.

(28) Susan G., September 3, 2014 11:04 AM

A star is born!!

Mazal tov on your bar mitzvah and on your first video - well done!!!

(27) CSS, September 3, 2014 9:13 AM

Mazel tov.

Mazel Tov!!! What a great video. Sounds like Moshe has his father 's genes. what a dynamic speaker. Wishing you tons of nachas.

(26) Beri, September 3, 2014 8:21 AM

Best video ever!

Mazal tov and much nachas. I love it.

(25) Ilana, September 3, 2014 5:59 AM

Yasher Koach!

This video was so well done- clear, informative, inspiring, and so cute. Moshe- May you be blessed to always be inspiring other Jews to come closer to Hashem. Yasher Koach!

(24) Anonymous, September 3, 2014 4:22 AM

Refreshing, wonderful!

Great! Charlie Harary is always up to something wonderful. So nice to see his son doing likewise!

(23) Saul Pillai, September 3, 2014 2:33 AM


Very well done !!! Congratulations !!!
Beautiful video, informative, simple to understand and most of all it's made all the more refreshing by having the bar mitzvah boy...oppps man doing the video....

Keep up the good work Mr. Harary, Moshe and the lil one...

(22) Anonymous, September 3, 2014 2:23 AM


Tis absolutely adorable and wonderfully done! Moshe, you have a future in this! (I"m sure you love hearing that....z0

(21) Lisa, September 2, 2014 11:44 PM

Moshe ..are you available next month to speak at a Sisterhood event?

Mazal Tov on your becoming....13!!!!

Are you available to speak at a shul function next month?! ( just joking....for now!)

Yasher Koach on your confidence to speak to all of us....may your Yetzer Tov always win out!!

(20) Anonymous, September 2, 2014 10:33 PM

Loved it

It is so true what you said
you are not a man yet (however very smart, even now:)

(19) Donna Perel, September 2, 2014 10:19 PM


Moshe thank you for your clear and insightful thoughts.My bracha to you is that may you always keep these thoughts in your heart and may your yetzer tov keep growing.

(18) Debbie Litwack, September 2, 2014 9:45 PM

It's a family affair!

GREAT job Moshe!!! Mazal tov! Watch out Charlie!!!! Loved Hudes at the end!!!! Love to all!
Really enjoyed!

(17) Marvin Den, September 2, 2014 9:40 PM

Nothing more to say

I have always loved your commentaries, but this is just fabulous. May you have much nachas from your entire family. May all 13 yr olds learn this lesson

(16) Jay Umansky, September 2, 2014 7:56 PM

Mazel Tov

Yasher Koach! It's wonderful to see a bright and handsome young man taking after the talents of his mother.

(15) Simcha, September 2, 2014 7:24 PM

In response!!!

Moshe, this was a BEAUTIFUL presentation!!! Lots of MAZEL TOV!!!

(14) L. Dayan, September 2, 2014 7:13 PM

This boy has a future!

This is great. Mabrook from Jerusalem!

(13) aaron, September 2, 2014 7:11 PM

great job

excellent! May you and your son(s) continue using your gifts spreading, and teaching Hashem's ways"

(12) EstherAsna, September 2, 2014 5:37 PM

mazal tov

may you go from strength to strength!! great video. Thank you!

(11) Jay, September 2, 2014 5:35 PM


Can't wait to show to my son who will be bar mitzvah this year. Your son did and awesome job. A rising star!

(10) Ruthie Klagsbrun, September 2, 2014 5:32 PM

Mazel tov

מזל טוב. Great job. Moshe you have become a man and your presentation of the concept was done with poise and clarity. May you continue to give your family נחת always.

(9) Elie, September 2, 2014 5:21 PM

Thank you

Thank you Charlie for sharing your family and your wisdom

(8) Maddy, September 2, 2014 5:04 PM


Harary Jr. did a great job explaining about becoming a bar mitzvah and a "man". Kol Hakovod.! Mazal Tov to you and the entire family on this beautiful occasion.

(7) Florence & Barry, September 2, 2014 3:50 PM

Mazal Tov

From your family in Israel, sorry we couldn't be with you. Great job. We're all proud of you.

(6) Esty, September 2, 2014 3:46 PM


This was amazing! Coming from the bar-mitzvah boy himself added so much! Well done!!!! Thank you for this!

(5) April Sharrock, September 2, 2014 3:14 PM


Thank you, Moshe and Mr. Harary!!
I will show this to my thirteen year old son!
Well done and so informative!

(4) Carole Forsman, September 2, 2014 6:33 AM

Always such wonderful videos.

I think this is the most wonderful video, Mr. Harary's children were just fantastic in this. I always have to watch Mr. Harary's videos as they are so easy to understand. He makes so many aspects of Judaism seem so simplistic. I always come away much more knowledgeable about whatever subject he is speaking of in his videos. But this video with his children was just delightful. They did such a good job. Moshe was did an excellent job in his presentation and seemed to capture his father's same mannerism, character and ease of delivery when explaining things. Just wonderful, very informative and easy to understand.

(3) s, September 2, 2014 4:18 AM

Harary Jr. adorable :) Good message, as one grows older, we learn how to be conscious of others and be givers instead of just takers. Mazel tov

(2) Anonymous, September 2, 2014 1:18 AM


Awesome job, sir! Shkoach!

(1) sara, September 2, 2014 12:22 AM


Well done!


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